Confused....

[Guest KristianToussaint]

I'm confused.. Am I a Transgender or a crossdresser??? I am a female if u want to know. When I was young maybe around 6 or7 I used to crossdress.. I used to dress like Ash from Pokemon. I used to do Tht so much people started callin me Ash becuz of Tht. I was fine with Tht though. I used to walk like him and act like him. But then I stopped becuz I stopped watching it. But in the eighth grade I started thinking about it again. Like what would happen If I was a boy? How would people treat me if I was a boy? I went on google and typed " girls who want to be boys" I got transgenders,and crossdressers. I didn't understand it so u researched. Transgender means people who feel like they are in the wron body. Crossdresser means people who dress like there opposite sex. Now I'm in the ninth grade and started dressing like a boy again. People are now calling me a transvestite or a lesbian. I hate being called a lesbian because Thts a lesbian Tht looks like a boy. And I hate it when my parents scold me for acting like a boy. They say you are a girl. And my mom forces me to wear dresses when I hate them. I hate my breasts and vagina. I want a flat chest and a penis. Man, i felt awkward writing Tht sentence. I even have a male name. My real name is Kristie Nd my male name is Kristian. Anyway I hope someone reads this becuz I'm really confused

[JJ]

Hi Kristian,

Welcome to Laura's! You've found a great place to be yourself and explore your feelings. Your post came in 4 times. I'm not sure what the cause was but if you kept sending because it didn't appear then you only need to send once and there will be a delay-usually a short one-because we are a moderated site to keep it a safe environment for everyone and it can take a moderator a little time to read and approve your post. Sometimes there will be several other posts ahead of you as well so please be patient. We clear them as quickly as we can

You'll find quite a few people here who can understand what you are going through or have had similar feelings

We aren't therapists, and a gender therapist is always the best way to find your way through the confusing maze of gender identity, but we will be happy to share our opinions and experiences with you. Please feel free to post as much as you want in any forum whether asking questions, expressing opinions or sharing experiences. We are a PG-13 moderated site. You will have access to the PM system and profiles after 5 posts.

If you have not already done so, please read the "Terms and Conditions" page, the link to it can be found near the lower right of most any Forum page. Due to the special nature of Laura's it isn't the standard T & C but something you really need to read to make it easier for everyone. Thanks.

I enjoyed your introduction and look forward to your posts!

Johnny

[Guest musicalice]

Heya,

Things like this take time to figure out in my experience. No-one can tell you if you are or aren't something, especially not over the net with just a few forum posts to go on Therapists certainly help though (helped me ).

You may need to experiment away from where your parents can see; one thing you could do is find a friend who knows you prefer trousers to dresses (they don't have to know about the whole cross-dressing issue, just that you hate the clothes your parents put you in) and change at their house. Just be careful what you tell them and what you do. But it's always safest if no-one knows.

See you around

[Guest John Chiv]

Welcome to Laura's Kristian.

Johnny and Alice have given you some excellent advice. Feel free to read the information in many of the forums and maybe that will answer some questions until you can see a gender therapist.

John

[Carolyn Marie]

Kristian, you probably hate hearing this, but the fact is that you are still young and have lots of time to figure things out. If you think you might be successful, try telling one or both of your parents that you are confused about your gender issues, and would really like to see a gender therapist to help you figure things out. If they agree, that will be a big step forward. Of course, they may not agree, in which case you'll have to wait.

I can't tell you what or who you are, only you can know that. But I can tell you that being confused and uncertain is a common thing, and as you get more experience and learn about yourself, things will become a lot clearer. We can help provide information and our own experiences. Stick with us, and you will learn what you need to know.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie