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Guest drewchao

hi all. i just uploaded few pictures of me in my gallery (some with longer hair and others cut short). i want to know if people read me as male and safe to use mens room.. i'm not on hormone yet. please tell me what you think. maybe there's room for improvement or something i can do to look more manly. please be honest but still kind. thanks :)

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Guest Robin Winter

The only picture that would have me questioning is the one titled "new haircut" that you're wearing a red shirt in. Your face looks softer in that one than in the rest. In all the others, I'd say you pass 100%.

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thank you shilo and szenzie :) i feel more confident. i always think that i have a feminine face but that probably caused by my jawline and cheekbone not to mention my thin eyebrows. i noted that when i gain weight i look female. but lots of asian guys look feminine even some of them had pretty faces. try looking at korean pop stars lol.

@shilo do you think wearing glasses help me looked manly? or is it about my expression? should i grunt more? :D

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I'd say in the pics your look is male.

But attitude is way more important I think. Walk it male and you should be fine.

Johnny

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Funny but I'm finding the men's world easier and friendlier than I ever anticipated.

But I have always been strong and independent. Attitude isn't about being tough. To me anyway. It's about being strong and showing confidence. Something subtle that for me comes naturally as long as I let go of all the training I've had and just get out of my own way.

Being able to fit in as a man was my biggest fear about transitioning and I'm finding it the easiest thing of all. Maybe I should have expected it because part of my problem lifelong was just not fitting as a woman. Always feeling wrong somehow.Seems like men watch each other at first and if you are confident but not challenging they kind of relax and even speak. I don't think most enjoy that whole competitive thing very much but you have to be willing to stand up to it

Don't over think it. Just let go and do it.

Johnny

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Lol, yes you must certainly grunt more. And possibly compliment your grunts with unabashed scratching. You have a solid base. After T I have no doubt you'll pass one hundred percent. The one thing ive noticed about transguys that kind of outs them, so to speak, is their manner of speech and their voice. Most genetic guys do not change pitch or fluctuate the loudness of their voices. And of course T will help deepen your voice, I'm assuming yours is not deep yet. Good luck handsome!

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Lol, yes you must certainly grunt more. And possibly compliment your grunts with unabashed scratching. You have a solid base. After T I have no doubt you'll pass one hundred percent. The one thing ive noticed about transguys that kind of outs them, so to speak, is their manner of speech and their voice. Most genetic guys do not change pitch or fluctuate the loudness of their voices. And of course T will help deepen your voice, I'm assuming yours is not deep yet. Good luck handsome!

I did not intend to offend any transguys with the scratching and grunting comment. Drew, when you brought it up I took it as you making a joke, and if I insulted you or anyone else I apologize.

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thanks for all the comments and compliments :D

Funny but I'm finding the men's world easier and friendlier than I ever anticipated.

But I have always been strong and independent. Attitude isn't about being tough. To me anyway. It's about being strong and showing confidence. Something subtle that for me comes naturally as long as I let go of all the training I've had and just get out of my own way.

Being able to fit in as a man was my biggest fear about transitioning and I'm finding it the easiest thing of all. Maybe I should have expected it because part of my problem lifelong was just not fitting as a woman. Always feeling wrong somehow.Seems like men watch each other at first and if you are confident but not challenging they kind of relax and even speak. I don't think most enjoy that whole competitive thing very much but you have to be willing to stand up to it

Don't over think it. Just let go and do it.

Johnny

i did pass most of the times when i took a vacation to bali this december. and i got new perspectives. i don't know about men's competition much but definitely it was different from all experiences i had during my life. the way men acknowledge each other, the way they deal with problems or unpleasant things, the way they defend themselves that is. maybe because i haven't been through real-life experience, i still only got pieces of the whole pictures.

thanks JJ.

Lol, yes you must certainly grunt more. And possibly compliment your grunts with unabashed scratching. You have a solid base. After T I have no doubt you'll pass one hundred percent. The one thing ive noticed about transguys that kind of outs them, so to speak, is their manner of speech and their voice. Most genetic guys do not change pitch or fluctuate the loudness of their voices. And of course T will help deepen your voice, I'm assuming yours is not deep yet. Good luck handsome!

yep not yet on T. i hope all go well at the perfect time. :) thanks chelsea9.

If I didnt see curves, I wouldnt think you werent physically a man. From the pics, you look like one handsome man.

should i grunt more? :D

Grunt more!? LOL!!! Please don't grunt...I hate it when guys do that!

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Gina Renee

why thank you ladies :)

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