What Way To Tell Parents

[Guest rosey]

just wondering what every think is best way 2 do it

im ethier going 2 email or person 2 person but im thinking email would be best

mind u i live at home with parents

thanks rosey

[Guest Chrissie]

just wondering what every think is best way 2 do it

im ethier going 2 email or person 2 person but im thinking email would be best

mind u i live at home with parents

thanks rosey

I tried coming out to parents when I was 18... the results I got were not favorable.

Do not expect your parents to accept this right away

they will need some time to process through what you tell them. and will undoubtedly be bad sports about finding out the child they thought they knew isn't what they thought

Go into situation able to answer as many questions as possible

The mistake I made was I didn't know enough about being trans or anything else at 18 to answer their concerns. Honesty and sincerity will only get you so far... though it may prevent you from getting thrown out on your butt. Don't try to fake knowledge... If you don't know tell them and ask them to help you find out. That way it will help them accept and find out what you are going through. Do your research ahead of time be able to answer their questions and concerns... have the notes with you if needed.

if you need moral support or help remember to ask for it. that is what the Mods here are for. We've been through this, are going through this, and may know where you can get the information you need. Even Grown ups have a hard time talking to their parents... they still see us as their little kids. It ain't easy being green...

[Guest Dr.Metropolis]

I haven't done this yet myself, but here is my reasoning.

I think there are things that need talking through and are easily enough said in conversation, and I think there are things that are so huge that people need some time to take it in and process it by themselves before the discussion about it can take place.

Being TG is something I only feeling comfortable introducing in person to people I know to have very open minds or people whose "stakes" in the situation aren't very high (not my parents, family, etc...). If your parents don't fit the "very open-minded" category, I would actually suggest a different medium from those above: the written letter.

The letter leaves time for your parents to read over and formulate questions, deal with their immediate emotional reactions, etc... I find letters to be more personable than TXT or e-mails and I feel like your parents will know that it is a very serious issue if you will write a letter about it.

My recommendation would be to write the letter and leave it for your parents to see on a night when you are going to be out of the house and you know they'll find it when you aren't there. This will give them (again) time to process so that when you get back, you can have a (more) rational discussion about it instead of an emotionally-heated one.

best of luck,

Dr M

[Guest anna123]

I believe writing a note and leaving it somewhere where the more understanding of your parents will read it. That's working well enough for me so far.

[Guest Madison_Always]

I believe writing a note and leaving it somewhere where the more understanding of your parents will read it. That's working well enough for me so far.

thats how i did it but i was not prepared for the follow up convo. be sure to prepare well and good luck

hugs

Chelsea

[Guest lauren33]

I only say this: educate yourself on this. make sure you know all you can know about it before telling your parents. that way not only will you have a better understanding of what it's all about, but it will make it soo much easier to explain to others when they ask questions.

[Guest anna123]

Instead of actually talking about it with my mom, we just write notes