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Got accosted in a grocery store parking lot this morning by someone out on a petition drive (in my state, citizens can gather petition signatures to advance ballot measures; I'm always a little cautious about encountering petition drives "in the wild" because unless it's an issue that's been talked about *a lot* it can also be used as a way to just gather voter information).
ANYWAY, the person with the clipboard is presumable cis male and aggressive and I'm AFAB, genderfluid, dressed pretty androgenously this morning and this guy hollars across the parking lot asking "young lady" if I'm a registered voter.
Informed him I'm neither young nor a lady (guy was at least a decade younger than me, maybe more) and wasn't interested in the petition anyway.
"Oh, so I guess you're just offended then."
"YEP!"
Yeah, it would be awesome to have something new, and it would fit the space pretty well. We have kitchen counters big enough to process whole deer, goats, large amounts of vegetables, etc.
Unfortunately for me, I couldn't even convince our "den queen" to let me have counter space in our downstairs kitchenette for a Keurig. 🙄
I think the biggest mental block to acceptance is the language that keeps us othered and on the fringes, rather than woven deeply into society. But I also think that's changing fairly rapidly. My youngest is well into their young adult genre novels phase and I'm impressed (and kind of amazed) at how many of their mainstream traditionally published novels have LGBTQ+ themes woven in. That child is 12, and I suspect that as the kids who are in middle school along with them grow up, they're just going to expect and demand better than we've done as their parents. They've seen it in the fiction they read and have every expectation that it will be part of the life they live.
Congrats on T <3
The height problem I think is an issue for a lot of trans guys, unfortunately. I know more tall cis women than short cis men, so it especially stands out to me whenever I'm in a room. I'm hoping for your voice to drop soon, good luck! (I've heard it feels a little bit like a cold? If that's true, hope it'll feel better quickly and that it's worth it!)
Hi Raine, my obstacles are that I'm 5"2 and always will be at the age of 34. I have size 5 feet, so it's difficult to find shoes, not alot of options, have to go to the teen boy bit. My voice was an issue, but T is starting to help me stay in the lower range of my fem voice, and I'm hoping it will drop soon.
I just like how our posts complimented each other. Your point about publicity of pride events and that culture seemed to be spot on. My culture and mindset is so different that I'm barely aware that things like that are going on. I don't watch news and I'm very much into professional life and life-long learning. There are all kinds of cultures out there. Thanks for sharing your insights.
Here, the public image of LGBTQ+ is formed from the limited contact of the Pride Parade, which seems to always attract a few people who are into flamboyant sensationalism and inappropriate conduct, so there are arrests for lewd conduct, indecent exposure and public disorder. Those are the people the news media always covers at the parade, as if everyone LGBTQ+ was like that. The whole parade thing backfires, in my opinion.
Sometimes these types show up at protests as well, and of course, that is what the news media picks up on.
Some people need to be taken quietly aside and told they are not helping.
I don't know if that is the biggest block, but it is there. Lousy marketing,
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