I'm not sure how to take this..so I just deleted it.

[Guest Lizzie McTrucker]

I received an email yesterday (not from here) and the entire email was just this: "are you serious?"

Now let me preface this by saying it's on another site where the only gender options are male or female. It did have an open ended question about the most private thing you're willing to admit, so I wrote that I'm transgendered and don't worry because I'm not going to poke you with it.

So like I said, yesterday I received an email from a gentleman in my area and it simply said "are you serious?"

Now one can take that a few ways:

1. Wow you're so beautiful that I can't believe you're actually a guy.

2. Wow you're so ugly how could you possibly think you look like a woman?

3. Is this a real profile or are you just messing with people?

Since I have vowed years ago to not bother with people who ask rude questions, I decided to go with option #4 - delete the message.

[JJ]

That could well be taken many ways.

If it was meant as a serious question and not an exclamation then hopefully the person will think it through and ask in a better way. Could even be another TG who doesn't want to disclose till they are sire you are being serious.

But deleting does seem the best way to avoid trouble at this point

Johnny

[Guest Amanda Whyte]

For you #1 definately.

Deleting was the right decision, though I might have been tempted to send one back that simply said "Yes."

[Guest Roux]

Good move! I think I'll try to copy your attitude as part of my new year's resolutions. =)

[Guest Krisina]

He can't "seriously" think he's going to get a response. People have to put some thought processing into what they send. I would delete too but probably try and remember who sent it in case he sends something else.

I have wanted to make new friends and put up a profile on a site. Looking for other women for friends. A few things come to mind I don't like. Male or female only choices which is the majority of the public I know. It makes me feel less than completely open. I feel that if I put transgender in the description it muddles things up. People don't know what they would expect. A woman that looks or sounds like a guy maybe? Skip my profile.. Married or single. Well I am separated so they don't have that option married but separated. In any case I have never met anyone with the profile and I disabled it. I'm mainly a homebody after work, busy with work, then home, spending time with an elderly parent a few times a week. I see the profiles of people and their exciting descriptions and that's not me. My life is pretty boring. But, having said that, I really cherish my loved ones, my spouse and parent in my life and the time I spend with them more than anything else I do. Even if it's just talking or sharing time together after work with my spouse at home. I feel loved by her unconditionally.

Krisina

[Guest Mia J]

Unless I knew who this person was and had exchanged emails with them before I would have deleted it.

There is just not enough information to have a clue where they are coming from.

And, besides. Anyone who was really interested in would have taken the time to send a more complete email.

Mia

[Guest Donna Jean]

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*delete*

dj

[VickySGV]

Now why would I ever be serious about something that is life or death?

[Guest Lizzie McTrucker]

And, besides. Anyone who was really interested in would have taken the time to send a more complete email.

My thoughts exactly! Based on other emails I've received from the same site, anyone who was interested, or at least curious, would have typed up something a little more cordial or polite.