A Very Good Day

[Guest Amanda Whyte]

Yeah!!! Her mom was very supportive and my wife and I had a good heart to heart. It still scares her that I might have to change my outside appearance she just asked for me to wait till the kids go to college. She cried thinking what it must have been like growing up and what I am like now. She doesnt care what I do at home as long as it cant be seen by anybody. So weekend panties here I come. She even said she would go underwear shopping (we can pretend they are for her). She also agreed to help me wax my chest, stomach, and behind. She wouldnt care about under arms and legs but are scared someone would notice. She also doesnt care that I go to support group and go out with friends, just no cheating (I dont want to anyway). She also doesnt care about Laura's. She has said that she might go to counseling with me just not yet.

My biggest belief is that she believes I have it and her mom believes I have it. For some reason that is a very big relief.

All, in all, a very good day!!!

[Guest John Chiv]

Amanda,

Looks like she is really trying and keeping on open mind and you are agreeing to go at her pace. This is very good, continue to enjoy your day. A supportive spouse and mother-in-law, not bad for a newbie in transition

Counseling is a great idea when she is ready.

John

[Guest Jenny C]

Yes !!!!!!!!!!!!! Good news indeed !!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm sure you'll have lots of fun shopping and rediscover yourselves !

I've been shopping with a gg friend that was my girlfriend for some time even though we knew it was to be temporary... We were shopping often for us both and we had a code... If it was for her... things were beautiful and for me they were nice...

It was kind of an exchange... both were giving... and sharing... She even tried the cloths for me... just so I have an idea...

Were still loving each other so profoundly although we know we can not be together for some reasons... And she became totally attracted to me "en femme" 'cause I was when having our... It was seen as a teasing game and sharing of lots of affection... the more you'll feel accepted, to more you'll give her and the happier she'll be...

By the way, many men shave totally now... Especially the younger ones... It is like a trend. I know many who even had laser...

Hey !!! ;-)

Many hugs !

Love,

Jenny

[Guest Amanda Whyte]

John, IKR!!!

Jenny, thank you for the kind words. I cant tell you how happy I got when she agreed to go shopping with me. As far as shaving, I am in a mechanical trade and it wouldnt be understood being hareless on the arms or legs. That's ok though, I dont mind. Your story is an insperation for me.

Now dont get me wrong, I know this might end up not being enough but I will try and we can see.

[Guest Shari]

Mandy, Mandy, Mandy.

I can feel your excitement all the way over here, or down, up or whatever here is. I am so happy for you.

Hugs,

Shari

[Guest Sarah Michelle]

That is great news Mandy. I am so happy for you. I hope you can continue to work with your wife about your transition and she goes with you to therapy. It would be good for both of you.

[Guest Amanda Whyte]

Shari, Sarah, Thank you very much!!!

[Guest Jenny C]

I love the fact that you are taking it easy with her!!! How loving and respectful you are ;-)

If you love her, this is the only way to proceed... Wow !

I thought about it after reading some of your answers elsewhere and here...

That is a very feminine way to proceed... the opening of the heart...

I'm moved.

Jenny

[Guest Amanda Whyte]

Aww, Jenny, that is sooo sweet. Thank you very much.

Luv'ya

Mandy

[Guest Jenny C]

I'm with you ;-)

Luv'ya, ;-)

Jenny

[Guest OutOfSorts180]

Mandy:

I'm so very happy for you. I'm glad your wife was (obviously) more accepting than mine was.

I trust your journey will continue to bring even better and better days as you become your true self.

[Guest Roux]

Oh my goodness, yay! I'm so happy for you both! What a great way to start the week, huh? I'm all grins. =D

[Guest Amanda Whyte]

OutOfSorts and Roux, thank you very much!!! Yes, it is a great way to start the week.

[JJ]

Great news Mandy and a great beginning! She will slowly inch forward with you I bet with a start like that.

Hugs

Johnny

[Guest Amanda Whyte]

I hope so. I think I accidentaly pushed too hard and I made her cry this morning though. A comment made it through my filter. We were discussing what my daughter was wearing and it dawned on me that while I want her to look appropriate, I dont mind her looking cute and boys looking. It is even weird to say. It dawned on me that this is probably because of thinking as a woman instead of a man. I made the mistake of mentioning this to my wife and it understandably upset her. It made her think our children are loosing their "father". I tried to explain that I had always thought that way but it didnt help. I feel real bad about it.

[Guest Jenny C]

You know what, my dear, you probably know, but i'll say anyway...

There is a kind of game, going on...

You want your right to live and her also...

It is easy to view this game as you are both pulling your side of the rope...

What happens when one let go... The other is realizing she is pulling...

How to do that, your's to figure ;-)

The problem, I think, is that sometime, with such a coming out, is that the "joy" goes down for both...

And for women, let's face it... another woman means trouble... It's instinctive... You see it in all species...

And women need to be desired... They won't accept any competition...

What to do ? You'll have to figure ;-)

Let's say that, I think, all that you want is to be a partner... Who's having fun with her and gratify her...

How can you gradually reintroduce pleasure in your life ? and gradually pay a different game ?

That's my 2 cents... I love this expression nowadays...

Love !!!

Jenny

[Guest Amanda Whyte]

Thank you Jenny, very well put.

I actually really think I understand.

Some of those things I have thought about others, I will have to think about.

Some of the ideas, I have mentioned with her.

Well, anyway, it is something to think about.

Luv'ya

Mandy

[Guest Shari]

Hi Mandy,

I would just like to say I have noticed your ideas are really maturing since you first joined Laura's. You're obviously a very caring person and I am happy to know you.

Go girl!

Shari

[Guest Amanda Whyte]

Thank you, Shari. I am feeling less and less fake and understanding more and more. I love the playground and all of you people. For example, your simple statement "Go Girl" is registering and sending chills down my back. I really feel that it is about me. Everyone said it would happen and while it hasnt completely happened, I am realy starting to think of me as a girl.

[Guest Jenny C]

Another reflection for you :-)

We are ONE...

Big kiss beauty !

Jenny

[Guest Amanda Whyte]

Luv'ya Jenny!!!

[Guest SaleneAlexis]

Mandy. Having supportive people offline is very important. As for feeling more female... That is because you are already, we have saw it in you from day one (at least I have). I am so happy that you are going to have at least some time to be yourself.

Hugs

Stephanie

[Guest Amanda Whyte]

Thanx Stephanie. Lots of ups and downs since I originally posted this. My wife has since decided that she doesnt think I have it and my therapist has an agenda and is seeing what she wants to see. She did bring up some points that I couldnt argue with. So now I have an appointment with a second therapist but it is a week from thursday. The way I feel right now, it is a long wait. The new therapist I chose and is also a GT. She hasnt asked/told me to stop wearing the clothes I wear from time to time though. This is it though. 2 therapists is enough. We will see what the future brings.

[Guest Mia J]

It is probably a good idea to get a "second" opinion for your wife's sake. At least she will not be able to deny that there is nothing there.

Good luck Mandy.

Mia

[Guest Amanda Whyte]

That was my thought Mia.