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A Godless Kind Of ‘happiness’


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Kia Ora,

As many of you already know I’m a godless person, even when the concept of a god was floating though my mind’s eye [many moons ago] I couldn’t quite make this concept tangible…However I finally found the key to true happiness and contentment when I discovered ‘myself’….It’s an incredible, blissful feeling, accepting and taking full responsibility for ones actions and the situation one finds oneself in, in life…Through controlling my thoughts I have developed a positive attitude and in doing so I am able to shape my reality …

I know that many of you are still coming to terms with who you are and how you’re going to cope in society…Many in their time of need, if not already religious, tend to turn to an external ‘god’ figure for guidance and comfort…For some this works, for others not…

For those who are free of a benevolent god-centric thought pattern…who do you or what did you turn to for comfort and guidance in your times of need?

What if I were to tell you, the only person you can rely on ie, truly ‘trust’ is…’YOURSELF’...In order to go forward on ones chosen path, one must have 'faith' in oneself... for without it, you will be well and truly lost!

A blissful state of happiness and contentment is ‘free’ to a good home/mind…

Have faith...happy mindfulness!

Metta Jendar :)

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In a way that makes each individual their own God. The question is how do you reconcile the physical reality that effects your life that you have no control over. You can paint a pretty picture in your mind but when night comes it is dark outside.

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Kia Ora Lisa,

Before I continue I would like to point out, I'm well aware that many in the forum are 'clinically depressed' and need specialist help - so please understand I am not 'judging' or being highly critical of them in anyway!

Are we not all gods of a sort?…to an extent able to create our own reality-and I don’t mean in a ‘fantasy’ world sense, I mean in the ‘real’ world..?

I’m nobody special, but I’ve managed to do this and in doing so, I’m in a constant state of contentment…

I realise many , can only envisage my somewhat ‘blissful’ state as some kind of a ‘fantasy’…How can one possibly be happy and content 24/7 each and everyday?

It’s all down to ones 'attitude' and how one ‘chooses’ to see life…If things go wrong, why prolong ones discontentment why carry this burden, when you don’t really have too…What’s happened as happened one must learn not to ‘cling’ to the negative and to get over it. And I’m sure most of you are aware that we do have a choice as to how we perceive life…

The key here is to do with ‘optimism’ [positive thinking] and ‘pessimism’ [negative thinking]…Due to ones thought pattern, some people are only capable of short bursts of optimism and sadly for the most part pessimism seems to dominate their lives…But this does not have to be…

I’ve mentioned before[well quite a few times] about ‘meditation’ and how it can enrich ones life…Western scientists, psychologists and medical doctors are just beginning to understand the power of meditation that is, a means of controlling ones mind that is very beneficial - a technique that’s been around for thousands of years…

My mind has got me to where I am now-a blissful state of awareness…And your mind can get you there too[if you let it]

Remember ...A mind full of pessimism will always remain in a 'discontented' state

:rolleyes: I guess to answer your question Lisa, in a nutshell…Through meditation one comes to understand ones mind and in doing so can develop a more positive attitude…

Happy mindfulness

Metta Jendar :)

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Hi Jendar I believe that for the most part you are correct in your theory of meditation = finding and touching the innerself = the awakening = Awareness awareness as a continuous evolutionary process of being aware the reality around you and beyond. I do not believe in a God, or least ways not the one that they preach about in so many fundamentalist churches. The essence of creator and creation is the spark that is within each one of us and it all depends if you wish to accept and touch that spark with in the soul, which is part of all that exists within all dimensions as a **Oneness of spirit or souls.** I am not religious, I believe myself as Spiritual but I follow my own understandings and beliefs which I have accumulated through the years. I do believe there are certain forces that have an influence in our lives if we accept and believe in them. I also believe that much of our mission here on Earth Mother is that of discovery and learning=growth.

I didn't have an easy time, for 30 years of my life I was in an alcoholic, using alcohol as in attempt to escape from reality. Once the cork was back on the jug it did not take long to discover who I was, but I was terrified to really do anything about it let alone tell anyone. I discovered spirituality through the program of AA. Finally I arrived at the door to transition, and opened the door, and stepped through and never looked back. I am happy today, sometime I may even display the characteristics of a child, so my mate tells me. :) I ow my happiness very much to my spiritual beliefs and no longer fear of being punished if I am happy. I am the real me, the one I have dreamed about since childhood and no one is ever going to take her away from me.

I believe that all transsexual people have that spark within them, if they only but trust it and touch it, this will bring on the awakening which will eventually bring them to the awareness.

CindyBC

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Kia Ora Cindy,

I’m glad to hear that you have found contentment and that you have taken time to share your experiences with myself and others…I’m sure they will also appreciate your comments…

I have not had to face the demons in the form of alcohol that many of you have had to face, perhaps it’s because I don’t possess the alcoholic ‘gene’ that some scientists believe some people have-Alcohol just does not agree with me which is a very fortunate thing…But I’m glad to see you have corked one jug and have let the good genie out of the other, so to speak…I doubt whether you will be able to even re cork the genie’s jug, even if you tried…

Metta Jendar

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Guest CindyBC

Hi Jendar hon, thank you for your reply. Your right, I'm hanging on to that genie for all I'm worth. He will get along well with all my other imaginary friends. :rolleyes: Life is grand as long as one doesn't allow for anything to flap them and nudge them off the path. It's all in your mind some shrinks will say, well of course it is, but it all depends what one withes to take what ever it is they want to take for a walk into the real world. Choose well, have faith, in your own abilities, and pray to what ever higher power you believe in and meditate so that you be shown how to find the result you seek.

I know I sometimes tend to ramble on or get off on tangents all at one time, I am who I am, so if anyone doesn't understand what in tarnation I am talking, please don't be afraid to ask questions.

Cindy the fairy. ;)

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Guest CindyBC

Hi Jendar hon.......hmmmm. usually the posts turn up sooner then this but the last one didn't make it at all and I just want to tell you that I agree 110% to your last post. Now that I have that Genie in my hands there ain't no way I am letting him go. I truly enjoyed our brief exchange of thoughts. I just pray I don't lose anyone in our conversations, and if I do it is not intentional. I just tend to go off in kazilion different directions and when the trade winds start a blowing all I can do is go with it and hope I don't get lost in the wilderness of endless propositions. ;)

CindyBC

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Hi lisa hon, now there is one proposition I would sooner not bite on tonight. The last time I got on to the subject on a group I use to belong to, well like, is the glass half full or half empty? What if you stopper the glass and tilt the glass and let the liquid go to the top of the glass, Is there less volume of water in the larger end of the glass? We had it broken right down to it's subatomic particles, is there more subatomic particles in liquid then there is in the air and does that also include the cup?

That silly discussion went on for three bloody weeks and at each turn it just got more complicated, but there was also a growing sense of humor and laughter that grew in proportion to the subatomic particles. I love laughing, discussing scientific propositions, metaphysical, the mysterious and unexplained, philosophical discussions, riddles, reciting prose and of course, telling BS stories. Now all that is needed to top all of this is for someone to clao their hands and yell "Booooo!" and watch how fast I go and hide under the bed, a pair of glow in the dark eyes blinking back at you. My sense of humor I believe is equal in proportion to my curiosity.

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Cindy the fairy

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Guest lisa49
In a way that makes each individual their own God. The question is how do you reconcile the physical reality that effects your life that you have no control over. You can paint a pretty picture in your mind but when night comes it is dark outside.
Through controlling my thoughts I have developed a positive attitude and in doing so I am able to shape my reality …

By night I mean when your part of the earth is turned away from the sun. You need to physically turn a light on etc. to see. Now you thought I was referring to a pessimistic idea and answered in that way. See the difference between an objective understanding and a self created subjective one. By shaping your reality is that not an action of a god?

I believe

Anytime you have to add those words you are the creator. It is not the physical world you describing, but it is your perspective of the situation. Knowing the facts and the rules of the physical world helps you understand the difference between rational actions for the use of facts and irrational actions based on emotions and other created beliefs.

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Kia Ora,

Now what I’m about to say is not arrogance on my part-[if one sees it that way that’s one choice- but not my intention], I’m just trying to put into perspective where I’m at in life and how this came about…

I’m well aware that my situation is more favourable than most, that is I blend into society as my affirmed gender and I’m not confronted with the social gauntlet that many of you may have to run on a regular bases - such as questioning looks from passers-by, or issues with toilets etc … But the fortunate situation that I find myself in, is just a small percentage of my contentment, it is not it’s foundation…In my everyday life I see and heard about cisgender and trans people’s struggles, the mundane type that no longer presents a challenge to me, because I ‘choose’ to see things in a different light and in doing so I’m more relaxed and content and judging by the comments I get from others whom I physically interact with- they can sense the contentment I feel…"Why are you so relaxed! etc etc"

That was either 'cleaver or clever' observation on your part Lisa – however that’s how ‘you’ personally choose to perceive life-through constant philosophical questioning thought, but [keeping to the topic at hand] tell me, do you have ‘contentment’-happiness with your situation in life?…and is it sporadic- depending on the situation or constant regardless of the situation?

Because you personally have yet to experience what I’m experiencing, you give the impression by your comments that what I say I experience daily 24/7 is impossible-out of a ‘normal’ person’s reach…If you 'think' that way then it will remain out of reach...I think therefore I am[this is from a Buddhist perspective]

I know what I know because I’m ‘living’ it each and everyday ...I live life-While many still question it…

However, this post is not a philosophical debate, I really do care and want to know about and possibly help others come to terms with the situation they find themselves in, in life…and hopefully provide them with a workable means to improving their situation…

My wish is for you all to feel what I feel each day -'contentment'...

And as my 17 year old daughter's answer phone message says... "If you can dream it... you can do it!"

Happy mindfulness

Metta Jendar :)

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Guest lisa49

Because I question does not mean there is not contentment. I have so far lived a wonderful life as I too have a daughter in graduate school on her way to being a doctor. Also a son in college as much more of a romantic which will head in a different direction. I too blend very well as I am 5'5" at 135 pounds and had Dr. O and Suporn make me flawless also I have no need for a job. I do enjoy puzzles and philosophic discussions and live with a friend who is studying Greek and Latin. I find life in paradox and the difference in things. Harmony makes me uncomfortable and lazy. Life is for living and the time is limited. To avoid pain seems like a positive idea but not at the expense of a full life so each of us has to decide for them selves when to change things.

I find that people are much more happy when they work things out by them selves. I do help when asked but do not believe in being on a mission.

"If you can dream it... you can do it!"

A nice dream but physically impossible. I can dream of going through a black hole. I can only do it in a dream. But with hard work and understanding the steps and plenty of time you can accomplish the most important thing in your life just not everything you want to happen.

My wish is for you all to feel what I feel each day -'contentment'...

A wish is like a praying it motivates you and sets up your subconsciousness to look and act on opportunities.

I do things to help people see the possibilities.

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Kia Ora,

:rolleyes: To bear a grudge…. who really carries the 'unpleasant' burden - the bearer or their target?

Like Laura and her helpers I too am on a 'mission' ! ‘Altruism’ I think has something to do with it...

Lisa, I’m happy to hear that thanks to money, plastic surgery and good surgeons you don’t have to run society’s gauntlet and that you also have children who are doing well…[ I have four –one living in Japan the others still busy studying, two in high school the other at uni…No doubt they will also continue to travel overseas to experience and enrich their lives]

However, back to the point... there are some people out there who think because another is in a ‘better’ position, this other person’s life must be relatively free of hassles…My point was ‘yes’ I blend in and don’t have to run a gauntlet, but that’s not what makes me fully content-There are people with plenty of money and material things plus are blessed with being naturally attractive-but for some, true happiness still remains out of their reach…There are other things in my life that contribute to my happiness…and that is having a positive attitude…

My genital surgery was government funded…I have ‘no’ money in the bank-I ‘rent’ a one bedroom apartment-I’m ‘not’ fully employed-I have a beat up old car that’s on it’s last legs…Many in this forum are much better off material wise-I have none of the ‘material’ things that many of you treasure and from what I gather brings you happiness…But I’m happy and content and wished to share the reasons why I feel this way and in doing so perhaps it will inspire others to see life differently…

I was only quoting what was on my daughter’s answer phone and that she [like Martin Luther King Jnr ] believes in working towards ones dreams...But because of your somewhat ‘highly critical nature’, you have made it quite clear, you don't tolerant somebody having dreams-a thing that you 'personally' find absurd !

But again I’m truly happy that you have found what you ‘perceive’ as true happiness…

Finally...Lisa in all sincerity, I'm saying yes you are right-you win- what you have said is your truth I can not deny that...I hope this 'victory' satisfy's your 'need' to be right...I'm sure the others don't want to be burdened with our personal disagreements that's moving away from the topic at hand...I apologise - It was not my intention for this to happen...

I would like to leave you ‘all’ with this analogy I came across recently:

“Knowledge without spirit is like finding yourself on a cold night with all the wood in the world and not a flame with which to light it!”

Happy mindfulness [and for those who 'only' see material gain as happiness - may your material world continue to overflow!]

Metta Jendar :)

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Guest CindyBC

Hi Jade, what a wonderful declaration of which I have come to discover to a greater degree. All that is required to be content with oneself is t feel whole and to be at peace with one's Self. Not many understand what it is, I try to tell them and maybe what I tell is all gibberish, maybe I just don't belong in the rooms anymore. I had only come to see if I could share some and maybe be of service. I may just move on.

Have a wonderful day.

CindyBC

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Guest lisa49
Happy mindfulness [and for those who 'only' see material gain as happiness - may your material world continue to overflow!

I would like to point out that happiness is not the pinnacle of life just as materialism can not buy you happiness. Happiness is a personal emotion, not a human achievement. If you look at the big picture you will see that humans are a part of something much bigger. Knowledge is a cumulative collection of many humans and growing all the time. Each of us can and do feel good about contributing to the overall pool of world knowledge because we know it will benefit future generations and keep life going.

Dreams are the seeds of invention not the reality of the future. It takes hard work as well as knowledge to move from a dream to a rational realistic action.

like Martin Luther King Jr ] believes in working toward ones dreams
If you take your beliefs and say that there is no universe wafter death the Kings dreams are dead. But if you understand society is more than an individual you see that some of his hard work has been continued by others and managed to change society for the better, not perfect. People are still making changes and not exactly what the dreams told but things that are within a framework of rational physical reality might I say the material world.
I do things to help people see the possibilities

This has nothing to do with victory. It has to do with other possibilities than just beliefs. It has to do with rational thinking and the power it has to change your life. I have nothing against positive thinking in fact I think it is very helpful but I do see people not living to their full potential when they do not question things. Compassion comes from giving not just feeling.

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Kia Ora Cindy,

I hope whichever way you flow the ‘genie’ is there with you…

Happiness and contentment is just a state of mind…and judging by your comments you have also found the key, I hope you make plenty of copies and continue to provide others with this precious key to contentment…

I know you already have this - but ‘Happy mindfulness’ anyway…I guess I’m somewhat selfish, because I also get a real warm feeling when saying it…

:rolleyes: One can’t have too much of a good thing…

"Um Mani Padme Hum!"

What we seek we are!

Metta Jendar :)

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Guest CindyBC

Hi Jendar, Oh I know the Genie has always been with me I only just had to awaken to that fact. Life is what you make and it would be a false statement to say that i don't get bad times, I do but the just aren't very long in duration most times only a few hours or less. Yes happiness is a state of mind.

Thank you for sharing.

CindyBC

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Kia Ora Lisa,

I truly do appriciate your wise words and your over powering knowledge of all things 'right' [according to 'Lisa' and the gods you worship]...They have rewarded you well[and BTW it is a form of 'worship'] .. However I'm somewhat amused at how you cling to and analyse my humble word- :rolleyes: it makes me feel special!

I can not force you to let go of the bone of contention[your frustration/grudge] the pull of your force-pride is too strong - nor do I want too-you must find this out for yourself... So may you continue to find pleasure in chewing upon it! :)

I would be a fool not to expect the final word from you,[my words seem to have that charaisma]... so please be my guest and oblige me...I hope you find lasting peace from doing so...

The 'need' to always be 'right'and to try in 'vain' to prove the other wrong-stems from a discontented, highly strung mind, that sadly can not 'accept' defeat nor a compromise when it is on the table...

This shallow victory will always be yours Lisa, so please enjoy it - for a victory without any reward is a empty one...

You truly are my 'karma' and I totally accept you for what you are! :)

"Thank you...I have learnt a lot from your 'highly critical' somewhat 'cold' calculating mind...And from the start I realise that you are only trying to teach others what 'you believe' is the right and only way for them to go... But your methods of doing so definately need some 'refining'...Perhaps a touch of 'human' kindness along with warm 'feelings'!" [again I won't hold my breath]

[Phew!!! I hope this is enough for you to chew on for a while!!! I've run out of bait/bone]

And for the other readers...Perhaps you could spare a 'bone' for Lisa to get her teeth into!!!

Happy mindfulness...And Lisa, may 'true' wisdom catch up with your age before the lights go out...

Metta Jendar :)

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A person who lives only within themselves and is living in the abstract. (Existing only in concept and not in reality: hypothetic, hypothetical, ideal, theoretic, theoretical, transcendent, transcendental.)

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Guest Paula D
Kia Ora,

As many of you already know I’m a godless person, even when the concept of a god was floating though my mind’s eye [many moons ago] I couldn’t quite make this concept tangible…However I finally found the key to true happiness and contentment when I discovered ‘myself’….It’s an incredible, blissful feeling, accepting and taking full responsibility for ones actions and the situation one finds oneself in, in life…Through controlling my thoughts I have developed a positive attitude and in doing so I am able to shape my reality …

I know that many of you are still coming to terms with who you are and how you’re going to cope in society…Many in their time of need, if not already religious, tend to turn to an external ‘god’ figure for guidance and comfort…For some this works, for others not…

For those who are free of a benevolent god-centric thought pattern…who do you or what did you turn to for comfort and guidance in your times of need?

What if I were to tell you, the only person you can rely on ie, truly ‘trust’ is…’YOURSELF’...In order to go forward on ones chosen path, one must have 'faith' in oneself... for without it, you will be well and truly lost!

A blissful state of happiness and contentment is ‘free’ to a good home/mind…

Have faith...happy mindfulness!

Metta Jendar :)

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Guest Paula D

I am just joining this group, so I will start slowly. I too believe in a no-god

spirituality -- though really that amounts to finding a god within myself.

To keep that from being self-centered, I also believe that I must continue

to be a searcher. And where I find the source of such confirmation of

my spirituality (and my sexuality) is in Nature.

I have much more to say on that, but I'll stop for now to see what

if any reaction I might get.

But before signing off I should say how much I appreciate everything

I have read from everyone so far. That doesn't mean I agree with

ever detail of everything, but I welcome whatever good comes my way in this life.

Greetings to all. Paula

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Guest Syamantaka

Jendar greetings

I take responsibility for my own actions, I do not pawn my short commings off on some diety. The Desiderata, is my guide. What I find

cool about this is an ordinary person wrote this. So anyone of us could do something awsome and help society mature.

Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.

Take kindly to the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God/ess, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life,

keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.

Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Just wanted to share with you as it was shared with me 34 years ago. :)

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Guest roxannemariska

I'm totally with your first post Zenda. I abandoned the god delusion a few years back and it was the most liberating event of my life. No, I did not become my own god. I realized I was just one more pile of molecules organized for a fleeting moment into consciousness. I will eventually return to the state I was before I was born: star stuff.

This perspective allowed me to understand that I am not special in any way, no higher purpose or god's plan. I just happen to have fallen well to the extreme end of the bell curve when it comes to gender. So I am not an abomination, a bad person, immoral, or perverted. I am who and what I am. I can do no other. Now it is entirely up to me to make the most of my life.

This realization gave me the determination, and courage to embrace what I have come to understand is my Two-Spiritedness. Had I not pursued this intellectual honesty, I would still be in therapy trying to 'fix' what was 'wrong' with me.

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Through controlling my thoughts I have developed a positive attitude and in doing so I am able to shape my reality …

I am unable to do that since my personality does not allow it. I cannot bend reality to my mind, it doesn't work that way.

I must bend my mind to reality, just like the water must become shaped like the glass it is poured into.

Anything else would be delusion I think.

For those who are free of a benevolent god-centric thought pattern…who do you or what did you turn to for comfort and guidance in your times of need?

For a long time it was spiritual pipe-dreams that I threw away when I understood they were only escapism on my part.

I took a concept so dear to me, so emotionally close to me and popped that balloon.

I can draw a parallel here to the matrix. "There is no spoon". And there was no spoon, my pipe dream wasn't real, not matter how much

comfort it gave me.

Now I confide in other people. I cannot observe myself objectively, so they act as filters for the raw data that I can give them.

I.E: My thoughts, my feelings and some behaviours that I have kept track on.

They process it and give an outside view that I can reflect upon.

What if I were to tell you, the only person you can rely on ie, truly ‘trust’ is…’YOURSELF’...In order to go forward on ones chosen path, one must have 'faith' in oneself... for without it, you will be well and truly lost!

I don't completely trust myself because I have emotions like anger. Anger is a special thing for me. During a lot of my childhood anger was avoided (at home) and I got

yelled and screamed at, at the daycare, when I showed my anger. They didn't trust me either, but I always told the truth. I do not lie directly. Sometimes I withold information, but I never lie directly.

I strive for 'truth'. There is no point in lying for me, it gives me no satisfaction. Sadness or grief is kept in check, somehow, I don't know how.

Anger is swiftly cut off by intense anxiety. The anxiety is ten times worse than the anger itself.

I still get annoyed, frustrated and mad without the anxiety. It's cool as long as the anger isn't turned at anyone who is also angry at me.

I second-guess myself a lot, but it's been a lot less lately. I am still not able to decide on HRT, and I'd need a specialist to talk to before

deciding. I don't trust that my emotions will lead me right on this path. I know the irony in this since all my choices are influenced by emotions.

It's just that this is not a trivial choice. It's a very hard one.

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I am unable to do that since my personality does not allow it. I cannot bend reality to my mind, it doesn't work that way.

I must bend my mind to reality, just like the water must become shaped like the glass it is poured into.

Anything else would be delusion I think.

I agree strongly. I have a bunch of friends who believe in a movie called "The Secret" that claims that all you have to do is want something and that will make the universe work to bring it to you. I expressed my skepticism and they just kind of humphed, but I could tell they thought I was being close-minded.

All that being said, it's made me a happier person to do my best to unpin my well-being and attitude from whats going on around me. Just because sucky things happened today doesn't mean it has to be a sucky day. I can celebrate, for example, that I made the best of a bad situation or that I have good friends to help me thought bad times.

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      1.  I think there are some legitimate concern.   2. Thoroughly discussing this will consume many threads.   3. I disagree partially with @MaeBe but there is partial agreement.   4. The context includes what is happening in society that the authors are observing.  It is not an isolated document.   The observation is through a certain lens, because people do things differently doesn't mean they're doing it wrong. Honestly, a lot of the conservative rhetoric is morphing desires of people to be treated with respect and social equity to be tantamount to the absolution of the family, heterosexuality, etc. Also, being quiet and trying to blend in doesn't change anything. Show me a social change that benefits a minority or marginalized group that didn't need to be loud.   5. Trump, if elected, is as likely to spend his energies going after political opponents as he is to implementing something like this.   Trump will appoint people to do this, like Roger Severino (who was appointed before, who has a record of anti-LGBTQ+ actions), he need not do anything beyond this. His people are ready to push this agenda forward. While the conservative right rails about bureaucracy, they intend to weaponize it. There is no question. They don't want to simplify government, they simply want to fire everyone and bring in conservative "warriors" (their rhetoric). Does America survive 4 year cycles of purge/cronyism?   6. I reject critical theory, which is based on Marxism.  Marxism has never worked and never will.  Critical theory has problems which would need time to go into, which I do not have.   OK, but this seems like every other time CRT comes up with conservatives...completely out of the blue. I think it's reference is mostly just to spark outrage from the base. Definitely food thought for a different thread, though.   7. There are groups who have declared war on the nuclear family as problematically patriarchal, and a lot of other terms. They are easy to find on the internet.  This document is reacting to that (see #4 above).   What is the war on the nuclear family? I searched online and couldn't find much other than reasons why people aren't getting married as much or having kids (that wasn't a propaganda from Heritage or opinions pieces from the right that paint with really broad strokes). Easy things to see: the upward mobility and agency of women, the massive cost of rearing children, general negative attitudes about the future, male insecurity, etc. None of this equates to a war on the nuclear family, but I guess if you look at it as "men should be breadwinners and women must get married for financial support and extend the male family line (and to promote "National Greatness") I could see the decline of marriage as a sign of the collapse of a titled system and, if I was a beneficiary of that system or believe that to NOT be tilted, be aggrieved.   8.  Much of this would have to be legislated, and this is a policy documented.  Implementation would  be most likely different, but that does not mean criticism is unwarranted.   "It might be different if you just give it a chance", unlike all the other legislation that's out there targeting LGBTQ+ from the right, these are going to be different? First it will be trans rights, then it will be gay marriage, and then what? Women's suffrage?   I get it, we may have different compasses, but it's not hard to see that there's no place for queer people in the conservative worldview. There seems to be a consistent insistence that "America was and is no longer Great", as if the 1950s were the pinnacle of society, completely ignoring how great America still is and can continue to be--without having to regress society to the low standards of its patriarchal yesteryears.    
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Cadillac parts are pretty expensive, so repairing them costs more.  But they don't seem to break down more than other makes.  Lots of Lincoln models use Ford cars as a base, so you can get parts that aren't much more expensive.    My family has had good luck with "Panther platform" cars.  Ford Crown Victoria, Mercury Marquis, Lincoln Towncar or Continental.  4.6 V8 and 5.0 V8.  Reasonable fuel economy, and fairly durable.  Our county sheriff's office was running Chargers and SUV's for a while, but has gone back to older Crown Victorias for ease of maintenance.  GF rebuilds them here.  But they are getting more scarce, since the newest ones were made in 2011.    1992-1997 years were different than the later years.  1998-2001 they did some changes, and apparently the best years are 2003 to 2011.  Check Craigslist, and also government auctions.  GF has gotten a lot of them at auction, and they can be had in rough-but-running shape for around $1,000.  Ones in great shape can be found in the $5,000+ range.  Good for 200,000 miles without significant rebuilding.  Go through engine and transmission and electrical systems, and they go half a million.    Some Chrysler models are OK.  The 300 mostly has the same engines as the Charger and Challenger, so parts availability is pretty good.  But they tend to get timing issues.  The older Chrysler Sebring convertibles were pretty reliable, sometimes going 200,000 miles without tons of problems, although after that they were pretty much worn out. 
    • Abigail Genevieve
      I think I have read everything the Southern Baptists have to say on transgender, and it helped convince me they are dead wrong on these issues.  They can be nice people.  I would never join an SBC church.
    • Abigail Genevieve
      You come across as a thoughtful, sweet, interesting and pleasant person.    There are parts of this country, and more so the world, where evangelicals experience a great deal of finger wagging.
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      It has been an interesting experience being in a marriage in a Christian faith community, yet being intersex/trans.  I stay pretty quiet, and most have kind of accepted that I'm just the strange, harmless exception.  "Oh, that's just Jen.  Jen is...different."  I define success as being a person most folks just overlook. 
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Well, I live in an area with a lot of Southern Baptists, Evangelicals, etc...  We've experienced our share of finger-wagging, as the "standard interpretation" of Scripture in the USA is that the Bible only approves of "one man, one woman" marriage.  My faith community is mostly accepted here, but that has taken time and effort.  It can be tough at times to continue to engage with culture and the broader population, and avoid the temptation to huddle up behind walls like a cult.    Tolerance only goes so far.  At one point, my husband was asked to run for sheriff.  He declined, partly because an elected official with four wives would have a REALLY tough time.  (Of course, making way less than his current salary wasn't an option either). 
    • Abigail Genevieve
      My bone structure is far more female than male.  I can't throw like a guy, which has been observed by guys numerous times, and moving like a woman is more natural.  It just is.  I'm not going out of my way to act in a fem. way, as you say, but I am letting go of some of the 'I am not going to move like that because I am a guy' stuff I have defensively developed.  The other breaks through anyway - there were numerous looks from people at work when I would use gestures that are forbidden to men, or say something spontaneously no guy would ever say.   At one point, maybe a year or more ago, I said it was unfair for people to think they were dealing with a man when they were actually dealing with a woman.    Girl here.  'What is a woman' is a topic for another day.
    • Willow
      Mom, I’m home!  What’s for lunch?   Leftover pizza .   ok.    Not exactly our conversation but there is truth in the answer.     @KymmieLsorry you are sick. Feel better soon.   Girl mode, boy mode no mode, not us. Nothing functional for either of us.   anyone here have or had a 10 year old (plus or minus) Caddy, Lincoln or Chrysler?  How was it?  Lots of repairs?  Comfortable seats? Anything positive or negative about it?  I need to replace my 2004 Ford Explorer Eddie Bauer, it’s eating $100 dollar bills and needs a couple of thousand dollars worth of work and that doesn’t even fix the check engine code.  Obviously, it isn’t worth putting that kind of money into a 20 year old car with a 174 thousand miles.   Willow
    • Ashley0616
      Oversized pink shirt, pink and black sports bra
    • Abigail Genevieve
      I think you mean the worst possible interpretation of 2025 situation.  Keep in mind that there are those who will distort and downright lie about anything coming from conservatives - I have seen it time and time again.  It's one of the reasons I want to read the thing slowly and carefully.  They want you to be very, very afraid. 
    • Abigail Genevieve
      Here is where the expectation is that the stereotypical evangelical comes in finger wagging, disapproving and condemning.    Not gonna do that.   You have to work these things out.  Transgender issues put a whole different spin on everything and God understands what we are going through. I have enough trouble over here.  :)
    • Ivy
      You do you. You seem to be in a safe place if we end up with a 2025 situation.  But a lot of us are not.
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Well, my marriage is different.  I'm actually part of a multi-partner marriage.  Like you see in the Book of Genesis.  My husband has four wives...and me.  I was kind of an accident, as our community sets the "reasonable maximum" at four wives, but that's a long story.  Plural marriage is approved in my faith community, with the exception of spiritual leaders, as described in 1 Timothy 3.  We believe that anything that isn't specifically prohibited is permitted.    The purpose of marriage is for people to work together, demonstrate the love of God, and to have children.  My faith believes in exponential reproduction - big families with lots of kids, both as a blessing and with the intention of using the size of our population for political ends.  Being intersex/trans and unable to bear children, I wouldn't have been a good candidate to be somebody's only spouse (the majority of our community tends toward traditional couple marriage).  Since my husband has other partners, I don't have to worry about the childbearing aspect, and I help out with raising our family's kids.  I'm a "bonus parent."    I'm not 100% open about my intersex/trans nature, although my community's leaders are aware of me.  Being transgender isn't condemned, but it is seen as a health problem derived from an imperfect, fallen world and an environment polluted with chemicals.  Since I'm married, I have a safe place to be, and I can live how I need to live.    I firmly believe the advice given in 1 Corinthians 7.  We don't totally own our bodies.  God gets a say, as I believe He created us to be male or female, not something outside the binary.  I don't think that transition without discussion with partners is OK....again, we don't totally own ourselves.  When I started to figure myself out, that was actually the main thing on my mind - will my partners accept me?  How will my position in the family change?  Since my partners don't really have a problem with the mild version of transition that I wanted to do, it has all been good. 
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Indeed.  While it seems like the majority of LGBTQ+ folks vote for Democrat candidates, not everybody drinks the Kool-Aid.  I'm a registered Independent, since I vote for individuals rather than party.  One of my trans friends is very pro-Trump - wears her MAGA hat and everything.  I find it interesting to see the reactions she gets... folks aren't always as tolerant as they claim to be.  Even on this forum, you get some real flak from Democrat voters....many will insist that the California way is the only way.    In my opinion, "Project 2025" isn't the real problem.  Check out UN "Agenda 2030."   
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      While Biden may be more friendly to trans folks, I'm not a single-issue voter.  I just can't choose a Democrat candidate, as I believe their actions will destroy my community and way of life.  Biden just announced that he wants to significantly increase capital gains taxes.  Maybe he intends to "tax the rich" but that is going to affect everything from land sales to grocery prices to the cost of electricity and even folks' retirement savings, as most companies make a large amount of their profits through investing in the market.  It is absolute lunacy to think that increased cost or reduced profits won't be passed on to the rest of us.  Things are going to get way worse at this rate.    Mostly, I vote in elections for state and local issues, as the national government is about as pleasant as a Porta-Potty in July.  So, either I'll do a write-in vote for president, or I'll check the box for Trump.  Anything but Biden.     
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