How to pass better?

[Guest Driden]

Sometimes I pass I've been called sir a few times. I was wondering how I could pass more. I have hair that's above my collar bone, I beef up my eyebrows from time to time (which seems to help),I dress in all guy clothes, I wear hats most of the time and I bind very well. I'm a bit short so maybe that's what tips people off. I'm not sure why I don't pass that often. I act pretty masculine and some people consider me as one of the guys. I sound like a boy going through puberty when I talk soo I don't think that's it. What could be tge problem? Have any tips?

[Guest Devyn]

It could be your height. I'm short too. It could also be your mannerisms and the way you carry yourself. It could be anything.

[Guest John Chiv]

I am short and I pass, so it isn't height. Since you are passing sometimes, observe what is different when you pass and when you don't. Like Devyn said, it could be anything.

John

[Guest Falcon]

What you're doing right now is good already, but there's a lot more to passing than just the way you look.

Mostly, I find that everything you do has an effect on passing.

I'm short, have long hair tied back in a ponytail (thanks to the school dress code), and I'm Pre everything. Yet, I pass all the time and never get a second look. Had girls ask me out when I had short hair, in fact.

It's everything you do; the way you speak, the words you use, the way you walk, talk, sit, and react to everything that comes up in your life. Heck, it's even the people around you.

For example, I'm a drummer in a heavy metal band, practice martial arts, and play chess. That partly causes people to assume I'm male despite the long hair. It's also the way I walk and talk. Luckily, I have a deep voice, and I swear a lot with my friends, all of which are male, and I'm one of them; part of their group, so that helps when it comes to passing. Keep your sentences short, straight, to the point; speak with confidence, don't get into talking about your feelings too much. When you walk, do it in full stride; swagger if you want. Doesn't matter. It helps.

Your opinion on things also has an effect. Naturally, I dislike it when people get too emotional and I come off as being logical, philosophical, or critical when I talk to others in real life. That kind of outlook would make it difficult for people to see you as female, as people tend to assume that girls are more in touch with their feelings. It's the attitude in general.

Instead of sounding nervous, try to sound irritated by things that might go wrong. Instead of being mushy, try to be charming. Instead of being depressed, be serious. You get the point.

And I hate to say this, but in a lot of cases, dirty or perverted jokes can help you pass >_> Wouldn't recommend it though.

[Guest eliza.d]

be yourself, and it will begin to come naturally, youre a man, just dont let anyone make you think you arent. then you will begin to pass more often...IMHO

Eliza

[Guest ranse]

I seem to pass the most when I'm not thinking about trying to pass.

In the grocery store the other day, I got called "Sir" by everybody ... even though I was only buying a salad and feminine hygiene products. I was thinking about a million other stressful things and wasn't focused on passing at all, but just the natural way I move and talk, etc., was enough. When I think about "am I passing?" "can I get my voice deeper?" etc., then I don't pass.

[Guest CariadsCarrot]

I have to say the same as Ranse, when I'm thinking about passing I don't, when my mind is consumed by anything but passing then I often do tend to.

Gabe

[Guest Amethyst_Redemption]

Three very important things that many have hinted at.

1) Have confidence in yourself

2) Confidence in yourself is key

3) It is always good to remember confidence

other than that, just know that you are the man you feel you are.

April