HRT and not being FT

[Guest Shauna B]

So, I will hopefully be starting HRT soon but I have a question about the ability to start without being willing to be a ft female. If I were to be ft, I would lose my job! I love my job and have a wonderful boss and have been put on a track to one day become a partner. However, the owners (definitely 5 of them with the possible exception of my boss) are very close-minded southern men. I am the sole provider for my family and I have previously spent 5 months unemployed thanks to the economy and my previous company downsizing. I can't afford to lose my job having two very young children (3 years and 6 months).

My question is this: will being unwilling to work as a female prevent me from being able to begin HRT?

Thanks in advance! Shauna

[MaryEllen]

The effects of HRT can be concealed for months/year??but it will become obvious eventually. If you don't wish to tell them, that's your prerogative but you probably will have to deal with it sometime in the future. I worked for many years in stealth mode so it's possible to stretch it out indefinately.

MaryEllen

[Guest Shauna B]

Thank you MaryEllen! But my question is more of... will it prevent my therapist/gp from prescribing hormones?

[Guest Svenna]

Shauna,

My gender therapist put me on HRT without any requirement for living full-time or even transitioning at all...

The new SOC is far more open to treating GD with hormones without the demands and expectations made in the past...

Over time we are seeing saner rules and regulations emerge, but the biggest change has been the adoption of the 'informed consent' model in transgender care. I don't need a doctor to tell me how I feel, but I do need a doctor to oversee my medications and procedures. Big difference...

Best to you as you move forward, take your time, get it right...

Love, Svenna

[Guest Karen K]

I am currently unemployed and have been on HRT for 16 months. I am not full-time but gaining more and more experience being myself. Despite desperately wanting to go into RLE, I continue to seek employment as my male self.

The problem is "Laura Jane" has no work history and no references. My plan is to secure employment, prove myself as a safe and competent pilot for 6, 8 or 10 months and then address my transition. All the while presenting, outside of work, as female. The only draw back to this period is the delay in some facial feminization surgery and breast augmentation I desire. Right now I feel income is most important as I have been without gainful emply for a year now.

Laura Jane

[Paula ult]

"My question is this: will being unwilling to work as a female prevent me from being able to begin HRT?"

There is nothing in the SOC version 6 or 7 that says you have to be full time to be on hrt, however there have been people that were told by their therapists that they had to live full time x months before getting the letter to start them, i suspect they followed an older version of the SOC, if you are not seeing a gender therapist, i suggest you find one, if you are seeing one ask them if they follow the SOC and if so what version, the latest is version 7.

I was on hrt a year before going full time, i could have gone longer but the time was right, yes after a period of time observant people will notice something different about you but don't know what, i was asked if i had gotten a haircut, lost weight or if that was a new shirt, people that have not seen you in some months will see changes and may ask questions, most people really do not care.

I guess a bigger question is does your wife know, many marriages fail because the partner does not tell their spouse, being on hrt and have your spouse not notice that you are developing breasts or smoother skin will only work for so long, lying and betrayal are only a few reactions from spouses.b

Paula

[Guest Shauna B]

Paula,

My wife does not know yet, but WILL know before I begin HRT. Thanks to you and the others for your responses!

Shauna

[Guest Donna Jean]

My question is this: will being unwilling to work as a female prevent me from being able to begin HRT?

Shauna

No!

I started transition at 58 and worked almost two years while on HRT.......

Good luck

Dee Jay

[Guest Elizabeth K]

I worked 2 years while on HRT - it was more the weight loss that flagged me. People thought I was seriously ill at first. It also did not help that I had my eyebrows shaped with electrolysis. I think you will find as you more and more feminize, the more you just want to go ahead and go full time. It happens because YOU have to go full time.Ypu just HAVE TOO.

Lizzy