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I've wondered why some days I feel great and fit and proud and others I just think YUCK-I still look so fat.

Maybe I was socialized too long as a woman? Maybe as trans I have had to be more focused on appearance than cis people. My SIL just tells me to get over it because guys don't care. Then an hour later mentioned something himself about not getting fat :D. My dark side made me point out that we now weigh the same-we are the same height. It was mean because my excess skin makes me look bigger I think and I know it will bother him.

Tomorrow the world will look brighter ladies.

Love ya

Johnny

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I used to be a very particular kind of serial very *friendly* person. My conquests had to be lean and I wouldn't tolerate any extra cushion. I hated any fat on my body also, with a passion. When psych meds eventually made me me fat I was heartbroken...

Anyway, ever since I started HRT, I love fat! I love to eat and I LOVE to feel it gathering beneath strategic locations on my new body...

Fat is no longer my mortal enemy. It is manna from heaven!!

I've been skin and bones far too long, time for some curves, oh yeah!

I sure didn't see that coming, nope, not at all...

Makes me wonder about whatever other preferences that may be up for grabs, yikes!

Love and impending Voluptuousness, Svenna

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I totally understand, Autumn. I have a lot of those kind of days myself.

Oh, and don't get me started on bra straps. <_< I have a couple of bras whose straps are constantly falling off my shoulders, no matter how much I tighten them. Drives me absolutely crazy. LOL!

Carolyn Marie

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Oh, and don't get me started on bra straps. <_< I have a couple of bras whose straps are constantly falling off my shoulders, no matter how much I tighten them. Drives me absolutely crazy. LOL!

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Oh dear Lord in Heaven I will SECOND THIS ONE, Carolyn! Drives me bonkers! I finally found one that stays put and fits great and I do not have to touch all day long - this only after 3 others that do fit but am constantly sliding up the straps and the trying-to-discreetly-adjust-them. facepalm.gif

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From someone with 50 years experience-wide straps. They stay put. Sadly sexy and comfortable seem to be mutually exclusive when it come's to women's lingerie but being comfortable lets you take your mind off the details and lets you concentrate on feeling attractive as a package I think.

I mean I am more attracted to women who are relaxed and confident-I have no idea what they are wearing underneath and frankly don't think much about it. But fiddling is distracting.

Oh-they also make these little straps you can attach from strap to strap behind your back higher above the band that will keep your straps from falling in that bra you love but can't keep the straps up. Also helps with how the bra fits.

Can't remember where you get them for sure. Think it's lingerie section in department stores. Maybe Victoria's Secret has them? I went to sports bras long before transition but understand my mindset was way different from you ladies. :) There was a time however I was expected to look my best and had to go with the more traditional.

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No falling straps ladies. You cannot be pulling those things up all day.

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Fat. Hmmmmmm. I was in great shape for a boy in my 20's and i still am. The thing is. I need more curves!!!! I have a great boy shape but that just does not fly with me as I identify as a woman. I am hoping that I can start HRT sometime in the next two years (as per my transition plan) and I am actually looking forward to gaining some fatty tissue in the places I need it most. My body is naturally already feminine and I have had people ask me If I was already on hormones, it makes me feel good to hear that as I have not started them yet. Gives me hope that they will tottlaly make me more passable and convincing when the time comes. If they don't? Well, I am actually ok with that. This road to self acceptance is full of steep grades an sharp curves, but it's all how you look at the ride :) for me, it's terrifying (like doing 120mph in a BMW) but also so very very exciting (like doing 120mph in a BMW lol )

Soooo, this might sound weird but.......

Hooray for fat!?!?

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Guest Elizabeth K

CRANKY and really off a bit myself (meds - but not HRT, diabetic imbalance). BUT it usually IS the hormones! DANG IT.

And the bra thing? Hells Bells - ran full speed for about 30 feet to hold open a door for Dee Jay - no bra on- and,,,, sigh

We who have breasts should not run if we do not have support - ouch!

So a necessary evil I guess.,, maybe the wider strapped bra would help you. I have trouble finding bras that fit well because I am a 40 - 42 band - and only a c cup. But if you go to the usual sewing and crafts notions stores, they have an inexpensive back strap with clips that you put on your bra, which really holds those back straps in place. But it is an extra step when putting on your bra.

But - hey girls - you wanted to be female. Bra straps are part of the game.

Lizzie

(this post got lost for about seven hours, then it mysteriously showed up again - whoa - twilight zone music)

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