So, another anorexia topic.

[Guest Devyn]

So, basically, my anorexia has gotten worse. I can no longer eat food without freaking out about getting fat.

I weigh even less now (I'm 5'1" or 5'2" and I weight 81 lbs.) It's gotten to the point that I can't fix this by myself. I need help, but if I get help, it'll go on my medical records and I won't be able to get T or surgery in the future or it'll take longer to get those things...

I'm stuck.

What do I do?

[Guest Shari]

Hi Devyn,

Get the help you need. You want the best result from T and surgery, and for that good health is important.

I'm older and now that I've started my transition I wished I had taken better care of myself. You're important and you deserve all the good things in your future.

I hope you can find the answers you need. Keep us posted, okay?

Hugs,

Shari

[Guest Mittens_kittens]

Hi Devyn,

There's no question what you need to do. You have to get help for the anorexia ASAP. There will definitely be no T or surgery if you don't. Your health has always got to be first priority, because if you don't have your health, you can't grow to become the man you're intended to be.

I'm the mother of an FTM, and if my son was in your situation, I would not rest until he was well. I'm worried about you. Please get the help you need right away.

Mittens

[Guest Devyn]

I don't think my mom is as supportive or nice as you, Mittens.

[Guest Mittens_kittens]

Aww, thank you Devyn.

I'm sorry that your mom isn't supporting you like she should. That means you're going to have to take care of yourself more than some other kids have to. Not fair, and not your fault. I know it seems like a long time until you're 18, but when you think about all the years you'll have after that to be yourself, it's really just a small fraction of that time. In the meantime, your job is to take the best care of yourself -- mentally and physically -- that you can, so when you do have the means to be the true you, you will starting at the best possible place.

I read some of your other posts, and was happy to hear that you have a psychiatrist that you are seeing. Are you honest with him/her about your anorexia? That psychiatrist could be your biggest advocate. I don't think it's true that you can't get hormones if you have a mental condition. Especially if that mental condition is worsened or caused by your gender dysphoria.

As for your mom . . . It helped me the most when I understood that my son being TG was a medical, biological condition; not a fad, a phase or even a choice he had made. I thought he was just being silly and defiant at first. You have to admit that it's usually the parent or the doctor who is telling the kid about his medical condition, not the other way around. So this is an odd situation where you, the kid, have to explain to the parents and the professionals that you have an uncommon disorder. It takes awhile for most people to wrap their heads around it.

Stay tough, guy. Be honest, be patient and get your eating issues addressed. I'll be looking forward to hearing how things develop for you.

Mittens

[VickySGV]

Devyn, I had to clear up a life threatening addiction to alcohol before folks would take my GD and work with it. The point is that I came out honestly, cleaned up the problem, and then actually got my GD work done in a flash on its own. It will not be your anorexia that causes your problem getting the meds, its going to be the low weight and problems metabolising the T once you get it. Also, you will need the protein to start the muscle toning, and the dairy products to get your bones in shape to support the new strength you will have. Build a muscle, break a bone is not the way to go.

Man up and tell your Mental Health care provider what is going on, and in the longest and happiest run of the thing, you will be much happier. Bulk up there dude!!!

[Guest Jenny C]

You can do it my dear !!! Ask for help ! You'll get over it !!! You're not the first one... You can do it !!! Believe...

Love,

Jenny