Difficulty of choosing hair styles

[Guest ThatKid]

Hello,

Suppose this topic could go for both guys and gals here. =)

I'm sure we've ALL have had a point where it's been incredibly difficult to finalize on a decision for our hair.

Some of us have certain features we want to bring out or hide. Hair makes an incredible difference.

Which is why I want to know your experiences with how you've chosen your hair styles to help flatter your masculinity or femininity.

Because I've found that even though short hair styles help for passing, if your neck is very long and slender it can also have a reverse effect. Porblem I ran into. Which is why I like to let mine fall a bit on my neck. I have a reasonable length of hair, about mid way, in a razor cut. Looks a lot better on me than shaving it off did!

This is just personal experience. This trick might not work for someone else.

What all do you take into consideration when cutting your hair? Harsh or soft facial features or maybe even want to bring out your neck more?

Sorry if this topic has already been posted. This question has just been on my mind for some reason. Wondered if others put this much thought into hair cuts.

[Guest andrea2012]

Absolutely, it's also not an easy choice for a lot of people that I've read posts on here. The thing I'm personally taking into consideration is even if I like a certain style I'm not sure if early on I have the confidence to just jump straight to it or just dabble in androgynous styles and move across. Another concern is if it will suit ones appearance! Trying to just grow it out for a bit and have it cover my neck are the first concerns and then having it styled in a more female way gradually.

A lot of people seem to jump straight in though and change their hairstyle immediately once it's the length they're after, or even wear wigs. There's a lot of little things too like do you want it covering your ears or not, short or long.

And yeah, tried the baldness thing too...yeah...didn't work so well!

[Ravin]

Personally, I need more on top than on the sides to keep my face from looking too round. Losing weight is also helping with this. I'm about to go in for a shorter cut, motivated more by impending high temperatures than by fashion. Still going to keep a little more on top, though.

For me the biggest problem is that I get that straight hair sticking straight out thing going, which means the sides really have to be kept short. There's an in-between where a reasonable amount of gel doesn't stop it from sticking out and it's too short for gravity to be of any use.

[VickySGV]

My own hair is now baby fine as the result of HRT, but it is now long enough to hit the top of my breasts in front. A nice color job close to my natural color has brightened it up a bit, so no real problem with just wearing it down and loose for most things. I do have a couple of hair piece add ins that give it volume, and one extends the length down below my bra band, another is a pony tail extender which is about to my belt line. They are fun and realistic looking, so I just do it. I do have a number of wigs which are also a lot of fun, more fun now that I am transitioning, and have the attitude that women do wear wigs, and I don't need them to BE a woman like I used to.

For the guys, the "cowlick" is almost a general badge of honor!! I only solved mine by many months of hair growth.

[Ravin]

A cowlick isn't my problem; it's the hair sticking straight out in all directions, especially to the sides above/behind the ears.

In so many ways, long hair was so much simpler than short. But then, I care more about my appearance now than I did when I was trying to hide behind waist-length hair and ankle-length skirts.

[Guest Ceberus]

When I first got my guy haircut, I asked for a general boy's cut that was longer up top and that I could brush forward. My parents, who didn't know I got my hair cut without their permission, freaked. They said I looked like a Justin Bieber wanna-be.

It was the best hair cut I've ever had. Now, though, my step father (who does hair for a living) follows my mom's word by the letter on how she wants my hair. It's still short and reasonably guyish, but I do miss my clippered look on the sides. Now it's all basically one length around and blah.

My biggest thing when I got my hair cut was my messy look. It's how I've always pictured me like. With a bedhead of awesomeness, but was still able to look nice when it was needed.

I guess if we talk about hair colors, I've been everywhere. I've been known for getting a "patch" of a fun, unnatural color. I've done the whole rainbow, besides purple. For the rest, I've done a lot, too. I went from my natural brown to a bright bleached blonde to a black that has Noe faded into a really dark brown with lighter parts, and I'm planning on bringing back my patch with a bright yellow.