Best passing feature or how to pass better

[Guest Jessicaann]

So i know a big part of passing is looks but also mannerisms. Im coming out more and more im looking to go out in public next week with friends and im hoping to pass i got a wig and breast forms plus im told im pretty passable already (nice friends xD) so what are somethings i can do to blend in or things i shouldnt do?

[JJ]

This is a hard one because while we do so often stress mannerisms that actually means hundreds of little things sometimes. Some people naturally have more feminine mannerisms than others. One of the biggest is how you walk and how you sit. Never sit with your knees apart for instance. It gets to be such an ingrained habit many women sit as though they have a skirt on even in jeans. Not all but many. My suggestion would be ti do two things-first video yourself-use your phone or webcam, whatever-walk, talk and sit. Then study it and compare it to tv or youtube or real life women doing the same things. Second and even better is to ask your friend to critique you and perhaps develop some small nonverbal signal when you do go out that she can send if you forget and do something less feminine in your excitement.

Going out in public is so scary and exciting! I used to get tied in knots worrying what people were seeing and what they were thinking or wanting to hide in a hole or kick myself if I felt a female response automatically kick in. And one day I realized this has to be a learning experience. You have to practice and sometimes there will be little failures. it's like a baby learning to walk-it can only be perfected by real life practice and interactions. Once I accepted that I would fail sometimes at first but learn from it and just get better I actually did much better because my stress and anxiety fell. In fact it isn't really a pass or fail situation-it's just an oppertunity to enjoy yourself and learn.

Have fun! Let that inner girl lose and get out of her way and I'm sure you'll do great

Johnny

Johnny

[Guest Jessicaann]

Ya like im already verrrryyyy girly to begin with. I get confused for my sisters when i answer my house phone but i have to deepen my voice cause the guys in my platoon would harass me to no end. I always try to talk in my voice but cant cause im usually never alone and i always get teased for how i sit and such. They are always like your such a woman!! I just laugh but in my head im like no duh!

[VickySGV]

Big item to do---- RELAX --- women are always less edgy than guys are about themselves. Oh yeah, and SMILE!!!

[Guest Lizzie McTrucker]

Mannerisms are difficult to explain. Just watch what women your age are doing and do that. Pay attention to how they walk, and what their arms and hands are doing, how they interact with friends or get their friend's attention to look at something. Where are their hands when they're laughing, when they're eating, when they're talking, when they're waiting.

Go to the mall, find a bench or a table at the food court where you have a good vantage point and just watch people.

[Guest shadowghost21]

I love people watching! I think its the best time to observe how women move and interact. But my tips are, confidence, confidence, confidence. No one will be able to see though if you believe you are who you are. In the past I have done some crossplays at an anime con here in town, and until I said something (my voice wasn't worked on yet) they thought I was a girl and I confused a lot of people in the bathroom, so again, I stress confidence. Be who you are and try to remember the obvious girl stuff, knees together legs crossed and ankles and slung to the side or what ever you find the most comfortable. And to add to the walking bit, you can curl your fingers in some and slightly tweak out out wrist this will give your arms a nice girly swinging motion.

Have fun and good luck girl

[Guest Donna Jean]

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Good stuff.....

Confidence!

I was just reading about a young Trans girl that got kicked out of a store......

Not because anyone "clocked" her.....

But, because she was acting so nervous...they thought she was trying to shoplift.....

Relax!

Dee Jay

[Guest Elizabeth K]

After just 9 months (me) on HRT, Dee Jay about 6 months, and Sally just starting, the three of us met in Memphis. We spent five days there and passed completely the entire time. How? We were having a BLAST and paid no attention to anyone else. So to everyone, we were apparently three women out on the town.

Just relax and be yourself.

To be seen as a woman - BE a woman.

Lizzy