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Yes Ma'am (in male mode)


Cyndee

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Hi girls,

Was at the store the other day in my typical male mode drab, jeans, flannel, ball cap. Went to buy a lotto ticket at grocery store was making small talk with the cashier, and as I was telling her these were my lucky numbers, she replied "yes ma'am", I just smiled at her warmly and said nothing as I drifted away on cloud nine.

This is nothing really special in the grand scheme of things here on this board, but it just feels so affirming when it happens so I had to post, BTW her name tag was Cindy, thanks girl. I think Cindy knows, I am in that store about once per week. He is definately fading, and others are seeing it, at 8 + months of E influence now and she is becoming more apparent everyday (yeah), this could get interesting as can't be full time yet.

Cindy -

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Guest Donna Jean

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I loved that part of my transition, too, C Rae.......

Hits you upside the head...totally unexpected!...lol

But....get rid of that funky cap!

Dee Jay

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Guest Lacey Lynne

Everybody:

So, just this past Saturday, I'm with Cindy (whose thread this is), I see her for the first time ... live and in person ..., and I'm, like, "WHOA!!!"

Here's this woman, 3 years younger than me, at only 8+ months on E, and she's so got CURVES, baby, CURVES!!!

And, oh, that warm and wonderful glow of her spirit! If ever anybody's body has taken to E, hers most certainly has! Whoa! By the time she's 2-3 years on HRT, whoa, mama, sell the bus! She's arrived at The Promised Land! Giggle! This girl's GOT it! I've actually seen her, so I know!

Now, in 2 weeks, I'm 2 years and 4 months on HRT, and NOBODY calls me "Ma'am" or ever has! Sigh. Like, what am I doing wrong? Oh, THAT! Yeah, okay ... okay:

Cindy and I are in Macy's at the fragrance counter and talking tunes! She's knows WAY more about music than I do! Anyway, the talk rolls around to mention of Keith Richards, The Rolling Stones' rhythm guitarist and musical leader. At one point, I'm, like:

"Like, yo, Cindy! Check me out! I'm Keef Riffhard!!!"

I take one of those fragrance sample strips and pop into my mouth to mimic Keef Riffhard's cigarette, scowl, get into The Keef Riffhard Crouch and start ripping air-guitar strands of the opening riff to "Heart Breaker" which is one of the meanest riffs in rock history!!! YEEHI!!! ROCK ON!!!

Uh oh, ... people are lookin' at me ... Cindy's kinda embarrassed ... hmmm ...

Lacey! Genetic girls DO NOT DO DO KEEF RIFFHARD AIR-GUITAR RIFFS especially in public!!!!!!! Sigh!

Mannerisms ... mannerisms ... gotta work on them ... giggle!

Cindy:

You're a NATURAL, Girlfriend!!!!!!!

If you can ever actually go full-time, LOOK OUT WORLD! Wahoo!!!

Peace & Joy :friends::thumbsup::friends: Lacey Lynne

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But....get rid of that funky cap!

Dee Jay

Yeah, the ball caps are left overs from a fading era, I have a nice embrodered pink one now, picked up last weekend in OR.

But seriously you are right Dee Jay, hair is huge in a ladies presentation, and for me a challenge, like many girls my age. Have several wigs, and plan to see professional stylist here in the near future for a custom human hair one cut for just me.

Hugs

C -

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Guest Ney'ite

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This is nothing really special in the grand scheme of things here on this board, but it just feels so affirming when it happens so I had to post

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Oh but it is to us! I know when I started getting my first Ma'am's - OH EM GEE I had to e-mail all my friends with a narrative of the ENTIRE event!

And that is a riot, Lacey, about the air guitar thing - LOLOL! You are a hoot, girl friend!

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Uh oh, ... people are lookin' at me ... Cindy's kinda embarrassed ... hmmm ...

Lacey! Genetic girls DO NOT DO DO KEEF RIFFHARD AIR-GUITAR RIFFS especially in public!!!!!!! Sigh!

You're awesome Lacey, that's about the time the suit (manager i think) came around and was checking us out, you rock girl !! We were really smiling about then !!

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This is nothing really special in the grand scheme of things here on this board, but it just feels so affirming when it happens so I had to post

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Oh but it is to us! I know when I started getting my first Ma'am's - OH EM GEE I had to e-mail all my friends with a narrative of the ENTIRE event!

You are so right Bette, it's like all of this just clicks when others see it and you are really not even trying.

Enjoy !!

C -

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Hugs! It does feel great doesn't it.

Sometimes it still catches me unawares and makes me smile and all warm inside. I was checking out in a store and wanted a suit separated because there was damage to the pants while the jacket fit perfectly which is very HTF for me (It was a no go and I wasn't paying suit price for a jacket) but the cashier was talking and explaining it to the supervisor I requested and kept saying "he" without thought or hesitation. Made it hard to maintain my ire about the full price for defective pants and the stand firm demeanor I wanted to convey. It caught me off guard I think because I had not been thinking gender or mannerisms or mode-I was just being me and wanting that jacket at a reasonable price. For so long I was aware of appearing as a man. Not slipping into those mannerisms I had developed after living as a woman so many decades. Now the male just comes through naturally by default. At last

Even though it is across the board except the guy who Mam'd me without looking and apologized so profusely when he raised his eyes while the Mam came out. I was shocked at that Mam and yet am still warmed by every Sir. Funny. But good.

We reach a point where who we are just comes through naturally no matter what. I think that's when we know we really have transitioned at last. For me anyway

Johnny

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Guest Elizabeth K

Sigh - when that started happening on a regular basis, I said to myself - "Myself? Time for full time!"

So I did

HEE HEE

Lizzy

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Sigh - when that started happening on a regular basis, I said to myself - "Myself? Time for full time!"

So I did

HEE HEE

Lizzy

That was my trigger as well.. When male fail begins its time to be woman full time.

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Sigh - when that started happening on a regular basis, I said to myself - "Myself? Time for full time!"

So I did

HEE HEE

Lizzy

That just so totally ROCKS, Lizzy! Congrats on that! Agreed that's when it's time to go fulltime!

Ain't it amazing how EVERYBODY (except me, of course) on here that's transitioning MTF did it that way too? Well, I just went for it and to heck with it. If I wait around to be called "Ma'am" like everybody else here, I believe I'd be waiting for the rest of my life. So, I just did it and have had no problems. Never needed to show the carry letter. No hassles in the ladies' rooms.

Like, whatever! Either way, we can so DO this!

Peace & Joy :friends: Lacey Lynne

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You go girl! I was called sexy by a cis-male a few days ago and it felt wonderful!! ~purrs just remembering it~

Stephanie

Not sure anyone could get drunk enough to truthfully say I was sexy..lol.. anywho congrats for having it happen to you.

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Lacey! Genetic girls DO NOT DO DO KEEF RIFFHARD AIR-GUITAR RIFFS especially in public!!!!!!! Sigh!

Mannerisms ... mannerisms ... gotta work on them ... giggle!

Well...I'm hosed :D

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Ever been caught playing air guitar or drums by a deaf person? I have! :D I have a reputation to maintain!

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