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Really Interesting Thought - 3 Years is What It Takes?


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Not everyone on Laura's Playground is transitioning, on HRT or even transsexual. That is why I put this little revelation here in 'Transsexual Passing' - a rather rarely used forum.

Here is what I realized?

After three years on HRT you never get mis-gendered!

(I don't care much for the terms 'read' or 'clocked')

I mean even if you are presenting as a slob - for women? Without make-up - no jewelry - in old faded tee-shirt , jeans, and Rebocs, hair quickly brushed and put in a pony... You just get seen as what you are - a woman... always... never questioned.

Someone here posted their therapist said something like that. And it is true.

Me at 6'-2" - kinda scruffy - and walking around in the grocery looking for last minute items for a green bean casserole - "Can I help you Ma'am? It is always 'Ma'am" these days - always!

I certainly am not complaining - ha! You know this is how I have wanted to be my entire life. But three years? What is so magical about 3 years on HRT?

Lizzy

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I could only hope to be there someday. I'm still just awakening my body to it's female form. Third day of HRT and three years seems so far off. Oh well all I have is time.

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Guest LizMarie

Lizzy, think about a 12 or 13 year old girl versus a 16 year old girl. The changes are pretty astounding, right? Although I'm some months off from starting HRT, everything I've read about it can be described as a "second puberty" where the body then tries to adapt to its new hormonal state. So three years sounds about right. I'm working with my therapist on my transition timeline (which also has to be flexible) but I'm planning on starting HRT in 4-6 months, which gives me a 5+ month headstart on facial electrolysis. And going full time will be 12-18 months after starting HRT. And gender reassignment surgery will be somewhere out 36+ months from now. It's a process and it needs to be. I have to slowly grow into me rather than the artificial construct I've erected to deal with the world. And my spouse needs time as well. So three years seems quite reasonable to me.

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Guest Donna Jean

Third day of HRT and three years seems so far off. Oh well all I have is time.

And to think....Three days ago you hadn't even started yet!

Each journey.......

Hugggs

Dee Jay

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It didn't take 3 years, you're just at three years and noticing it. I'm just over a year and haven't heard he in a long while. (Once at the grocery store, but I don't think the kid looked at me.)

The reason you are seen as a woman, simple, you are. "DEAL WITH IT." ;)

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Lizzy, I agree that three years is certainly long enough for most anyone to experience what you have. Of course, there are no guarantees, and lots of folks will get there much sooner, especially the younguns.

I've been on HRT for 27 months, and I've been at that place for some time. It's a great place to be. I still wear makeup most times when I go out, but I don't feel I have to. I am a woman, and that's all she wrote.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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I am looking at it like "A Thousand Days of Change"....

After a thousand days of HRT I want to find myself completely reborn, fully modified, fully integrated...

1000 days...then, Svenna RULES forever....Mmmmm....YES!!!

Just 841 days to go!!!!

:) :) :)

Svenna

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Guest Megan_Lynn

Been on HRT for 41 plus months now. Once in a rarety I will get sired and never does a woman ever misgender me only men have done so. Granted this has alot to do with the fact I never ever wear makeup and usualy have on a ballcap. Oops...lol..

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Guest Lacey Lynne

Lizzy, I agree that three years is certainly long enough for most anyone to experience what you have. Of course, there are no guarantees, and lots of folks will get there much sooner, especially the younguns.

I've been on HRT for 27 months, and I've been at that place for some time. It's a great place to be. I still wear makeup most times when I go out, but I don't feel I have to. I am a woman, and that's all she wrote.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

Carolyn's got that right, Lizzy! She, you and most others on here will DEFINITELY rock it within 3 years. Excellent!

What's SOOO cool is some of us will reach a point where it simply doesn't matter. We take our HRT, live The Life and rock our worlds. That's what I do anyway. Passing, mannerisms, gendring ... don't even think about 'em anymore, though I used to ... very much so.

Tell you what, girl, the amazing and best part of this whole trip is the outpouring of genuine affection and respect from cispeople! Like, whoa! Who knew? Not me! Not one to cry easily, I'm "misting up" rather a bit these days deeply touched by peoples' acceptance, respect and cocerning coming my way (by some people) that I never expected to come my way.

No doubt, many of you experience this too. Dang, it REALLY rocks!

Like Lizzy says, take your HRT and have faith! Folks, it does get better ... it really does! The beginning and middle phases are the really hard parts, but the advanced stages bring it all together. It's simply priceless!

Peace :friends: Lacey

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