A simple guide on how to pass flawlessly as a transsexual

[Guest composercookie]

Well. Hello guy. My name is Jackie, and I had been a transsexual since i was 6. I don't know if it just me, but I feel like... most of us had been trying too hard to pass as the opposite gender. Some transsexual, even tho they look like a female, thank to their "too much" make up, I could tell they were transsexual. This is not a topic to judge anybody or anyone. The whole purpose of this topic is to share some of my experience to pass as a girl.

1. The only things you need to pass:

In my opinion, you don't have to act girly, speak girly, watch your grammar or anything like that to pass. The only things that you need a good, decent, feminine, not necessary high or low pitch, just feminine voice

2. Don't act like someone who you are not. Don't even bother to train yourself

Like I said. Don't bother to force yourself to act the way you not normally act. Just be yourself. I had seen girls who tried too hard to "be girly", they ended up to be more gay than girly. I'm not judging you or anything, I'm just pointing out my opinion. Don't force yourself to be girly if you are not. Because if you are a girl, you are a girl. Your personality doesn't matter, because every girl is different. If you know you are a girl, you are a girl.

To be honest, I'm one of the most masculine girl that you will ever fine x3. And I'm fine with that ;D, even tho I'm masculine, I still pass as a girl without even trying, because I'm just being myself. And when you are being yourself, you are flawless. Why? Because you are you. Look at me, I'm a gamer, I'm a fan of first person shooting game like Combat Arm or Roblox Paintball Game (if you guy know what I'm talking about, you are awesome ;D ). Yet, no one think that I'm a boy, and in fact, lots of boys think I'm a cool girl and even flirt with me. I'm also a fan of RPG game like Legend of Zelda series, and I know when I play my nintendo DS at school, boys look at me.

My personality is tomboy-ish. I'm not girly, not really at all. I don't correct my grammar or the way I speak word. When I talk to people, I still use word like "what's up dude" to boys and "Hey girl" to girl. Just be yourself! Don't worry about what other people think. They might think you are masculine, but you are a girl. There are real genetic girl that are masculine as well! So just look at them, take them as an example, and be yourself. You should never worry about acting differently.

3. How your look is somewhat... not that important

There is a lesbian at my school that dress like a guy all the time. She is not a transsexual, she just like to dress up like guy. Even though she look like a total guy, we all still know she is a girl, because she have a female voice. So don't worry about how you dress, because a girl is a girl. If you are a girl, you are a girl. The way you dress is not the factor that judge you. As long as you have a female voice, you are good to go! You can dress like a guy all you want, but remember, use your girl voice, and I know for sure you will pass.

Now. Umh, about make up. I don't get why you people spend so much money on make up ;P . I'm proud to say: I had been crossdressing every single day for the past... 2-3 months i guess? And I had not touch any make up. Yet, I still look fine and pass as a girl. I personally think a girl should be happy with how she look, doesn't matter if she think she is ugly or not, because the subject of beautiful or not is optical, someone might think you are ugly, but other might think you are pretty. So girl, it's okay for you to wear make up. But yeah, don't use too much! This isn't necessary help you in passing as a girl, but yeah you get my point.

4. The most important step.

Be yourself. That's all I can say.

You see, there are lots of girls in this world. Every single of them is different. There are girls that are tomboy, there are girls that are girly, there are girls that are mean, there are girls that are nice. You should never worry about your personality. Just be yourself. Because when you are yourself, you will be able to express yourself.

I heard lots of people say "If you want to be a girl, you have to like boy, act girly and such". Now let me explain it to you, silly people ;P . I will break the big question into 3 big parts:

1. Gender Identity

Gender identity is what gender you are. It just simply decide whether you are a boy or a girl. That's it. It does not have anything to do with your mind, your personality, or anything else.

2. Sexual Orientation

I'm bisexual, so what? Just because I like girl, you are going to say I'm not a girl? Haha. No. Sarcasm intended. How do you explain a lesbian then? My friend. Sexual Orientation have nothing to do with whether you are a guy or a girl. It's just who you like. And that's all it mean. You don't have to like guy to be a girl, maybe you are just a lesbian, who know?

3. Personality

Like i said. Don't bother to force yourself to have a different personality, because so far, most people who try to force themselves to have different personality, they end up being not very happy. Look at the girls, real girls, they all have different personality, they all are unique in their own ways. You are a girl too, and you are unique. If you like to do push up and can do push up 100 time, do it! If you know you are a girl, you are a girl. Your personality doesn't matter

Wrap up

Alright. I know the guide had horrible grammar, I'm sorry, I'm not a native English speaker ;P So excuse me. These are just a guide that I use (and made) to pass as a girl. To prove to you that my guide does work, I will post some pictures of myself below, and you will judge the guide depending on how passing I look in the pictures.

Side note: At school, I totally pass as long as I don't open my mouth ;P I am training my voice to have a more feminine voice, but right now when I talk, I can only use my male voice ;P, which made other ppl know im a dude >.> lol. Well, hey, atleast I have very supportive friends. And even tho most ppl know I'm a guy now (yeah rumor spread very fast ;P ), new ppl who come to the school, when they see me, they see a girl, not a guy.

Anyway, here are the pics:

http://tianajrp.deviantart.com/art/Eh-Is-this-Asian-enough-x3-291132518

http://tianajrp.deviantart.com/gallery/#/d4ruuse

^those are probably not the best pics of me lol, but k xD Those pics are the best out of all the available pics that I have on my computer at this moment lol. I would love to take other pictures, but excuse me, it is 3:06 am right now ;P (i had been typing this since 2:30 am i think) I seriously need some sleep ;P Well. I guess I will take a new pic when I wake up lol

Thank you for reading.

Please comment with a rating for the guide ranging from 0 (worst thing that i ever seen in my life. Wow, thank alots guy ;P) to 10 (OMG Best. Guide. Evaaaaaar!!! lol).

[Guest Kyu]

This is fantastic, i'm sure people will find this really useful! I'll also remember these tips when i go out next week.

You seem to know your stuff, and you're English is fantastic! 10 all the way. You look cute in those pictures, especially the one playing the flute

I think you'll be a great asset to the forum, keep it up.

huggles,

-Rachel

Edited April 15, 2012 by MaryEllen
non English phrase removed

[Guest Robin Winter]

With regards to makeup, it's generally required to pass for people that have noticeable facial hair.. Shaving does not make it disappear for most MtF people. Also, lots of people just enjoy wearing it. Otherwise, I more or less agree with you.

[Guest Jo-88]

This is a good post... Ive always thought being yourself was the best policy nice to see someone agree

The only thing you mentioned that I don't agree with haha, is Zelda being called an RPG! Zelda is not an RPG!! its an action adventure series

Jokes aside I think this post has a really good message, thanks for sharing

[Guest Donna Jean]

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I just want to comment....

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Honey........

Yes, some girls try too hard.....

But, I see from your pics how easy it is for you to pass....

Most others aren't so lucky and have to work hard on their presentation. I also knew I was a girl from 5-6 years old, but, I didn't start my transition until I was 58.....I had to reconstruct a lot of years of testosterone poisoning.....

You are small, trim and cute......not the same for many of us.....

Many of us have to work very hard......

So, while I agree with the tone of your post, it isn't the best way for everyone.....

I'm glad that you pass so easily!

Huggs

Dee Jay

[Guest composercookie]

This is fantastic, i'm sure people will find this really useful! I'll also remember these tips when i go out next week.

You seem to know your stuff, and you're English is fantastic! 10 all the way. You look cute in those pictures, especially the one playing the flute

I think you'll be a great asset to the forum, keep it up.

huggles,

-Rachel

Your welcome :3

With regards to makeup, it's generally required to pass for people that have noticeable facial hair.. Shaving does not make it disappear for most MtF people. Also, lots of people just enjoy wearing it. Otherwise, I more or less agree with you.

I'm not so sure... Well, probably because I'm only 14, my facial hair doesn't grow that fast, and I can go on for a week without shaving and not being notice to have faicial hair, but yeah, like i said, i'm not the one to judge, I'm just saying that I think you look better when you are you. And the true you is the most beautiful version of you. Make up to me is somewhat just a tool to hide who you are. So well, I'm okay with people wearing make up, but I prefer to see the true you. Trust me.

A quote that I learned from my parent (sorry for the grammar because I learned it in Vietnamese i just translating it):

"There is no ugly girl, there are just girls who like to make themselves pretty and girl who doesn't"

Just be yourself :3 Everyone is beautiful in their own way, doesnt matter if they have the facial noticable.

This is a good post... Ive always thought being yourself was the best policy nice to see someone agree

The only thing you mentioned that I don't agree with haha, is Zelda being called an RPG! Zelda is not an RPG!! its an action adventure series

Jokes aside I think this post has a really good message, thanks for sharing

LOLOLOLOLOLOL k xD well. Oh well, you are right xD I thought that Legend of Zelda Ocarina of Time was a RPG (due to its 3d first person perspective and we role playing as Link rescuing Zelda). I just looked up wikipedia and it said it is action adventure genre lol...

Okay >.> So now instead of zelda, how about Pokemon lol ;D I'm a huge fan of pokemon as well :3 isnt it a RPG? ;D

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I just want to comment....

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Honey........

Yes, some girls try too hard.....

But, I see from your pics how easy it is for you to pass....

Most others aren't so lucky and have to work hard on their presentation. I also knew I was a girl from 5-6 years old, but, I didn't start my transition until I was 58.....I had to reconstruct a lot of years of testosterone poisoning.....

You are small, trim and cute......not the same for many of us.....

Many of us have to work very hard......

So, while I agree with the tone of your post, it isn't the best way for everyone.....

I'm glad that you pass so easily!

Huggs

Dee Jay

Me = easy? Well... I'm not so sure, but...

The only thing that I like the most about myself is my legs. My arm look so masculine >.> and yeah, although I'm somewhat unhappy with how I look, I love myself and I'm not afraid to show this world that I'm a girl.

It's true that some of them doesn't look very "nice", but so what? There are girl that don't look that "nice" neither. I'm not saying they are not beautiful, but I'm saying is very one is different. It's okay to be masculine, and as long as you are a female, you are a female. People are not going to judge whether you are a guy or a girl according how to dress. They are just going to judge if you are pretty or not. And how I judge people whether they are a guy or a girl? I judge if they are being honest with themselves or not. Just be yourself, you might not be the most beautiful girl out there, but be yourself. Who care about what other people think? You know how awkward is it to walk into the boy locker room (because I'm suppose to lock my backpack and stuff in ;P) with long hair and some accessory like hello kitty necklace? D: Just be yourself, and you are golden.

Last word: I don't care about how you look. If you are a girl, you ARE a girl. And to me, that is a pass. If you know you are a girl, then you are a girl, that all you need. Your look doesnt matter.

Thank you for reading :3

Edited April 15, 2012 by composercookie
Non English phrases removed

[Guest Leah1026]

My 3 steps:

1. Recognize that "passing" is flawed concept. It infers deception and continues the cycle of living for others.

2. You are a woman, not "a transsexual".

3. As you said: Be You.

[MackenzieB]

Yes, you are a woman. A woman with a prostate.

[Guest composercookie]

My 3 steps:

1. Recognize that "passing" is flawed concept. It infers deception and continues the cycle of living for others.

2. You are a woman, not "a transsexual".

3. As you said: Be You.

#1 Umh... I have bad English understanding skill, I'm not so sure I fully understand what this mean. But okay

#2 Yes I know that, but I usually use the word Transsexual to describe when I talk to other people about this subject because it easier for them to understand. If you say you are a girl, they are going to confuse you with normal genetic girl. So I usually say transsexual or transgirl instead

#3 Yay! ;P lol

Yes, you are a woman. A woman with a prostate.

Can I be refer as a "girl" please? x3 a woman sound... a bit too old for a childish girl like me x3

UPDATED THE THREAD :3 Putted in a new pic

[Guest ValerieD]

This explains how I can pass now even without HRT (though I'm not sure if I can without a wig; my hair isn't really long yet).

You got lucky on the facial hair side. I'm part Italian, so I have very dark, coarse facial hair that leaves a noticeable shadow even when clean shaven. I probably need to shave 2-3 times per day just to keep it at a level where makeup can do anything.

[Guest composercookie]

This explains how I can pass now even without HRT (though I'm not sure if I can without a wig; my hair isn't really long yet).

You got lucky on the facial hair side. I'm part Italian, so I have very dark, coarse facial hair that leaves a noticeable shadow even when clean shaven. I probably need to shave 2-3 times per day just to keep it at a level where makeup can do anything.

Long hair or short hair, like I said, doesn't matter. Be yourself. And you will pass.

Okay... Maybe this guide is aimed for teenager like me i guess, because it look like older generation have more expectation, requirement for what it take to be a woman (like to be a woman you suppose to do this, do that, tomboy are not good, etc) But yeah, everyone around my age is all different, we all act in different way, and all have different style. There are lots of straight crossdresser girl at my school who act, dress like guy, yet is still a girl. So don't worry about how you look, just be yourself and you will pass

Side note:

Thank you :3 Well, I'm Vietnamese, which make me an Asian xD Although I sometime want to be a Japanese x3

But really. You can't say I'm lucky yet. I'm only 14 years old. As i grow older, my facial hair might grow faster and more visible. Who know? x3

[Guest Leah1026]

Yes, you are a woman. A woman with a prostate.

Have you ever heard of homologous structures? Almost everything we considered sexed has an equivalent in the other sex:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_homologues_of_the_human_reproductive_system

As you can see the Prostate is on that list. And under the influence of estrogen the prostate shrinks and acts more like it's female equivalent (Skene's gland and G spot). As a result I don't think of that tissue as being male at all.

[Guest Lauren~]

I wish I could have that believe system were I know I pass unconditionally. Of course if I was your young age, anything would be possible.

[Guest Daiyu Hurst]

Never forget to wear a smile!

[Guest composercookie]

Never forget to wear a smile!

That's true :3

Always smile :3

[Guest Lauren~]

I have a hard time beliefing you are not a girl, your so young and petite and you say your not on hormones. If you want to remain looking that girly you probably should look into starting hormones, your going to grow out of that look without them.

[Charlize]

I remember passing as a kid with a skirt and a scarf over my forced crew cut. Its a little harder now but attitude is certainly important. There are some weird looking women and I prefer not to be too far into that group.

Hugs, Charlie

[Guest Donna Jean]

I remember passing as a kid with a skirt and a scarf over my forced crew cut. Its a little harder now but attitude is certainly important. There are some weird looking women and I prefer not to be too far into that group.

Hugs, Charlie

LOL....yeah, really!

Dee Jay

[Guest composercookie]

I have a hard time beliefing you are not a girl, your so young and petite and you say your not on hormones. If you want to remain looking that girly you probably should look into starting hormones, your going to grow out of that look without them.

Sadly. My parents are 100% against me. THey know it for 2 years now, and we had been fighting each other...

Can't do anything... They are my parents, and it's not like someone gonna adopt me. So all i can do is stfo and stay strong

[Charlize]

Good luck dear and don't give up hope of being yourself. The world in general is a lot more supportive now. When I was a kid I thought I was the only one. What a sick freak I thought i was. Now I can go on line and know that however hard and freaky I'm not alone.

Hugs, Charlie

[Guest composercookie]

Good luck dear and don't give up hope of being yourself. The world in general is a lot more supportive now. When I was a kid I thought I was the only one. What a sick freak I thought i was. Now I can go on line and know that however hard and freaky I'm not alone.

Hugs, Charlie

Hope? I really dont know whether I have hope or not.

You know...

To me, I think teenager year are the best years in a girl's life. And it look like I'm never going to be accepted by my parent during those years...

I'm a suicidal person, yes it true I look happy, but I'm very suicidal. I don't remember exactly how many time I had cutted myself.