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I am 64, born here in 1948. I always wanted to be a girl from the age of 7, at least that is the earliest I remember feeling this way.Of course back in the 1950's not only could you do nothing about it, but you had to keep quiet about it. I probably started dressing as a girl when I was 8,although that was hard as I had no older sister .All that there were were a few old girls things from my mother's day stored in boxes with the other junk.So I had to pretty well improvise, and for the most part daydream. I remember that one time I was watching my sister (4), I was 10, for my mother.Supposedly to keep her amused I played dress up with her,using a couple of old pink satin slips.I also found some old nylon stockings, and put on a pair.My mother discovered me, and said that that was too much.I had tried to hide my legs under an upholstered armchair, but couldn't fit all the way. I claimed that I was only showing my sister how to put them on, but she didn't buy it.I used to enjoy playing house with my girl cousins when we were sent to stay a few weeks in the summer in Covington,out in the country.?always perferred to play with them rather than my aunt's sons,but of course that got impossible in later years.

After years of frustration you tend to despair of being able to do anything about it.Part of the reason I waited so long,partly because the only place trans information is available is on the internet, and I didn't even begin to use it till 2004.And next year the disaster,BARTHELEMY'S FLOOD(misscalled "Katrina") hit and I couldn't think of much except trying to recover from the mess and repair my home.Didn't really learn about all of this until last year, incredible as it may seem.But trying to make up for lost time in every way possible.Would have posted this earlier but have to use library computer thwn I can find time to walk over here.I am in therapy and plan to transition. Better late than never.

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Hello Cindy,

Welcome to Laura's Playground. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Anything that you want to share or have questions to ask, feel free to do so. :)

MaryEllen

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Welcome to the Playground, CindyLou. It's very nice to meet you.

We have three lovely Moderators from the New Orleans area, and I'm certain you'll meet them very soon. In the meantime, please look around the forums, read what is of interest, post your comments and questions, and learn all you can. I just ask that you please read the Terms & Conditions of the site, as we use the rules to keep the site safe.

We have many transfolk here who transitioned later in life, hon.. As a matter of fact, your life story sounds an awful lot like that of many of us. It can be done, because I'm doing it, and so are a good 10-15 others. I wish you luck.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest miss kindheart

Hi Cindy,

<<< hug >>>

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.

The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.

Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.

One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules. :)

We all look forward to seeing you.

:wub: vanna

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Guest Donna Jean

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Hello, Cindy......

Welcome to the Playground......

It's me, Donna Jean.......we met at the LTA meeting....remember?

We'll talk soon....ok?

Huggs

Dee Jay

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Welcome, Cindy!

Yes, yes, it IS better late than never!! Oh my, YES!!

You'll find that a lot of us that were too old for instant internet savvy, we ALL lost a few extra years while we stewed about diving into the cyber-world. Little did I realize that MY salvation would come via that confoundedly disturbing contraption..lol..

But Lo! Here we are, ready to take on a whole new way, the way we have thought things should have been all along, the RIGHT way, at long last!!!

So yes, welcome to Laura's, this is a wonderfully safe place to find support and affirmation as you go forward with your transition..

Tell us more when you can. We are all ears!

Love, Svenna

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