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  1. 1. do you go out in public dressed as a woman?

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Guest kimberly c

Yes sometimes, lately Dressbarn shopping for clothes. I shop dressed in a nice feminine top, jeans always underdressed in panties a bra and

breast forms.The sales ladies are very friendly and help me find clothes that match or look good.Young and older women have helped me.

I just love being in that dressingroom.The last time I was in the dressingroom quite a few women were in and out while I was inside, the sales

girl asked each one before they entered that a man was inside, no one had a problem!!!!!

Love Kim

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Guest Jocelyn

I answered sometimes, I underdress almost everyday camisoles under my shirts and pantyhose. I have started to wear womens jeans and shirts while out with a jacket and shoes, and I go to a coffee shop and sit without my jacket on and enjoed myself.

I have yet to go out with a wig or dress. I do have plans to do that in the near future. I have found a support group here in my city and plan on attending fully dress unfortuatly I can not attend un till the end of June.

Thank you all for your support.

Cheers

Jocelyn

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Guest Roberta-Belinda

I just wouldn't have the courage, but have so much admiration and respect for those who do. I often wonder if I would pass as I have never worn a wig or proper make-up. There is possibility that I may pass I have curly hair and every now and then I get mistaken for a Woman at first glance. Actually I quite pleased when that happens. I think I am destined to dress up privately for the rest of my days. I have often thought about visiting transformation stores but I have heard they are expensive and I haven't got a lot of money to spend with things as they are in the current economic climate.

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I never thought i'd have the guts to go out at all. Little by little the courage came and i worked at pushing the fear away. At one point i would go out and stop at as many stores as i could buying some small thing at each so i would also have to make contact. People are nice to you when you are giving them money. It got better but the fear stayed with me for years.

I certainly know the fear and potential shame of being caught. I am finally able to live as myself.

Hugs,

Charlie

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Guest baily

I do go out in public but not as much as i would like. But I do get my fair share when i can which isn't much. But I do enjoy it.

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Guest Jocelyn

Hi

I went to a support group last wed dressed, I drove there(about an hour away) wearing girls black jeans with black pantyhose and black ballet shoes. I had a nice blouse with a long grey light sweater. When I arrived I put on my blonde wig and clip-on earings on. This was the first time I have ever worn my wig ouside my house. I only started wearing a wig near the end of last April. I was nervous but not fearful. it was a great group, I felt welcomed and at ease. I have another function next wed, I am going for a makeover and make-up lesson before then going to a pub for a scoial night with a group in Toronto. I am really excited looking forward to relaxing with other girls.

Cheers Jocelyn

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That's wonderful, Jocelyn. Good for you! I think you're approaching this just the right way; getting a makeup lesson, going out with a group, and getting involved in a support group. I wish you continued success and many great, fun adventures.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest *Charlotte P*

Underdressed, everyday!!!, girls jeans a lot of the time, still trying to find girls shirts that I can wear out and stay stealthy..

Charlotte

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Guest MichellePetite

I used to live my leave times in London in the 1970's completely 'en femme' My style was as my avatar, I had the Long and full wig made by a theatrical supplies outlet in Smoke and my breast forms were made for me by a theatrical make up artist ...... I won't tell what I had to do to get them but needs must when the ...... It is only now at this end of my life that I start to think perhaps the means to an end thing should have been better ..... handled, done, no achieved. no matter things in the wake of the ship and all that. oh back to the 'en femme' a good pair of at the time very hard to get genuine American female Levi jeans - tight strait leg not the bell bottom or flared thing prevalent and the time pretty tooled leather cowboy boots with Cuban heels, usually a full 'Cavalier' style white blouse a sort of pelise Hussar's jacket with frogging and silver buttons and a cute military style hat to match a leather despatch type satchel carried the necessaries. What carried it off was confidence primarily when I was as Michelle in those days I was completely immersed in it and as such had that 'realness' that doesn't engender doubt in casual observers and such. Things change, one ages one ..... decays and frays round the edges.... sob! how sad never mind KBO! (in a good way!)

A weird and wonderful place London in the '70's! I had a relationship and was loved by a lovely guy called Keith..... that was how I discovered that my sexual polarity was firmly fixed and not in accord with his. He kept all my stuff safe for me, I miss him sometimes.... I was very fond of him tho.... Michelle is off for a little cry and a malt now....

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Guest Stefie

It all depends on where I am going. The answer is "yes" sometimes I do go out dressed as a woman and feel quite comfortable when I do.

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Guest LindaKay_LV

Sometimes. "Just You" in Vegas has "Girls Night Out" once a month. There is strength in numbers and you don't feel so selfconsious when you're with a group.

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Guest rita63

As I continue my journey of discovering who this rita character who's always been in my life I am getting out more and more. Over 1 1/2 years in support group and now going out socially to coffee houses and bowling and shopping with friends.

I will be spending 3 days in Toronto at Pride including the trans march and be dressed and rita everyday.

Some events have been awkward lately as they include events from my past life but some of rita's friends are also there. Suppose I will be out even more soon. Life just keeps getting better.

hugs rita

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Guest *Natalie*

I never used to go out. However that all changed a little over a year ago. What I have found is that it's nowhere near as bad as you think. Most people couldn't care less. I think a big part is having confidence. If you look and act confident you are half way there. I never believed a year ago that I would be going to al sorts of places dressed. Its so much fun!

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Guest Lori Brady

yupper Nat,,,,I remember wayyyy back when,,,,you were so uneasy about venturing out,,,,,,,now look at you! wooHOO! ,,,, :)

I never used to go out. However that all changed a little over a year ago. What I have found is that it's nowhere near as bad as you think. Most people couldn't care less. I think a big part is having confidence. If you look and act confident you are half way there. I never believed a year ago that I would be going to al sorts of places dressed. Its so much fun!

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Guest AmyDeluca

ive been wanting to for a very long time now. i havent got the confidence in my appearence yet. so when im in the mood to cd in public, ill just wear something underneath my clothes. its a good compromise for now. but im sincerely hoping i will be able to go out in public in full cd

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Guest Sarah1967

I go out all the time wearing girls jeans with a thong on underneath an a T-shirt an a button up western shirt an girls athletic shoes an socks no one ever notices. A while back my best friend an I went to a club at Oklahoma City I was dressed I had a tank top an a short jean skirt on with a bra an a thong an fishnet leggings. I had a good time at that Club I'm looking forward to going again. :)

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Yes,it is by myself or with a few of my friends including my daughter Kendra.I pass very well and this is even when I go shopping

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Guest kimberly c

I have spent alot of time dressed going to DressBarn in the fall and winter months, can usually cover up a little by wearing a sweater or coat.

Now being summer Iwant to wear a nice top under dressing with a bra and breast forms.Should I do it, I dont pass but I dont care because

I feel like a women and just want to shop. Its hard to get the right fit without my bra and breast forms. The sales people have no problems

with me and I use the dressing room even when other women are there.

Love Kim

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Guest DianeATL

For many years I never went out, now I do and I absolutely love it. Like many of the responses, hair kept me from being able to do it. I finally got the courage to remove all of my body hair (waxing) and I love it. I wish I had done it many years ago. I had worried that I might stick out wearing shorts or short sleeves and that my friends or associates might comment. Nobody has noticed.

Since I did it I have been studying men's legs in shorts and many are hairless or almost hairless. I guess I was so accustomed to having hair I assumed everyone did. I feel much better even doing activities as a boy like swimming.

The hair removal plus the loss of a bunch of weight helped me take the first steps out. I sought professional help on make up and my first time was pretty safe, then progressively more normal night time excursions. I absolutely love being me in public and am working on my wardrobe so I can do it even more.

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Guest WFane

I dress every day in some shape or form. At work, its with accessories (scrunchies, barettes, necklaces, etc) and at home, I traded all my male shirts with my roommate who is ftm.

Sometimes I go out in the one maxi skirt I have.

I wont go out dressed at night though... I think night time here is the only time you will see me attempt to be all male. Its dangerous... and I want to move to a part of the city that is less so.

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Guest DianeATL

I have a shopping trip planned for tomorrow with a friend, it will be my first daytime, girl clothing shopping trip en fem. She is going to help make sure my make up is great before we go out. Looking forward to getting some new clothes and having a friend to help me shop.

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Guest cd4me666

I doubt I'll ever go out dressed seeing as how I look like someone got a bear and stuck stockings and a thong on it!

I do underdress nearly every day and I have been known to drive at night whilst wearing a blouse on top but just stockings and panties on. It's very exhilarating but I don't think I could pass for female, nor would I like the abuse that would surely follow.

That's ok though, I'm quite happy dressing in private and having fun that way!

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Guest Wanda Michelle

I go out as often as possible but only in cities away from home. I usually dress as much as possible at home, leave and then stop finish dressing dressing before I get where OI want. I reverse the process on the way home. Most people don't really pay too much attention to others.

Wanda

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Guest AshleighP

I have and it was exhilarating! I wish I lived somewhere other than a small town so I could do it more. Fear of "being found out" holds a lot of us back I'm afraid. Ahh, to be confident and brave. Maybe someday

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Guest joan eden

I haven't since Christmas, the weather has been so bad. I like to go out once a week if I can, in full, what I call ten mode.I kind of measure on a scale of one thru ten how I'm dressed. A two might be just a skirt and shoes when going to the grocery store And change in the car.A three might add a wig. Four maybe lipstick and a brow pen.All the way to a ten.Full wig ,Full make-up.Fingernail polish.The works and I feel complete.I have some jeans and slacks, but never seem to wear them.I think if I can't wear a skirt,for me that is, whats the point?I have shaved my legs for about three years now,and love,love,love it.One of best CD things I ever did.The breeze on a light skirt in summer.Seeing my smooth legs crossed girl style, I love it.

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