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My First 12 Months


Carolyn Marie

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Saturday marked exactly one year since I came out at work, and began my RLE. I've been posting about my experiences pretty regularly since, but I can summarize a few things.

In the last year; my S/O has become quite comfortable being with me in public, and we really haven't had any awkward moments. She is quite used to waiters and others saying "how are you, ladies?" We go into public restrooms together, and even hold hands sometimes. I don't think she likes having people think of her as lesbian, but the need to have that touch, that physical connection with me, seems to outweigh any mental discomfort.

I've kept very busy with various activist activities, something I hadn't really planned on, but which I've stumbled into and found I enjoy very much. I think I'll continue doing that work for a couple more years, but I can already sense that it has its limits, and will enjoy just as much the time I can call it quits and once again become anonymous and have my time to myself.

My physical changes have slowed, but I am satisfied with where I'm at. I will probably have a procedure or two done next year, but probably not GRS. My reasons on that are my own.

My work life has been just great, much better than I had imagined. I am accepted completely, and by 98% of everyone I see often. My co-workers don't seem to mind me talking about trans issues - I think they find it fascinating, and when something comes up in the news, they seem to relish talking to me about it and enjoy having the "inside scoop."

Mentally and emotionally, I am where I've always wanted to be, and I can truthfully say I am happy with who I am and what my life has become. It's a life I've dreamed about since I was 7, and its worth the wait.

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Carolyn Marie

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Has it really been a year? How time flies!

Your stories have continued to inspire hope again and again and I am very thankful to you for sharing them. Belated Happy First Birthday Caorlyn!

It sounds like you've had a pretty good year all in all and I wish you many many more good years full of love, acceptance and tolrtance!

*hugs*

~Jade.

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Carolyn,

Your journey has inspired so many of us and it will continue to inspire long after you slip away, just another woman living her life..

It seems to me that all things must pass, and when you do make that leap away from 'trans-ness', we will still think of you and support and love you in your absence. YOU have made a huge contribution already, do as you must when the time comes, all will be well...

Love and MUCH respect, dear Lady!

:) Svenna

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Guest Krisina

I'm glad to hear one year later, being full time you are being well received, accepted with work and your s.o. is accepting of you in public too. I'm sure people in your personal life too. The emotionaans mental well being must be the best part after all these years.

Krisina

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Mentally and emotionally, I am where I've always wanted to be, and I can truthfully say I am happy with who I am and what my life has become. It's a life I've dreamed about since I was 7, and its worth the wait.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

OMG, I hear THAT, Girlfriend!

And it's been fun watching you watch me watch YOU!

BIGGGGEST HUGGGGGGS!

Dee Jay

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Carolyn Marie,

You are a super lady. An inspiration to othere here. We are Blessed to have your leadership help. Plus, you are always wiiling to help others when they need it.

Mike

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Thanks so much, everyone.

One down, 20, 30 to go? I hope so!

Love

Carolyn Marie

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