Clamming up

[Guest Basilo]

What do you do when you've decided that you really want to come out, and you feel ready, but when you go to tell someone or place the letter or whichever method you chose, you clam up and can't say anything?

[Guest ~DeeDee~]

I have the same problem, I want to tell the world but when I get there I turtle and go back in the shell. I am interested in some of he responses also.

[Charlize]

I've been doing a lot of coming out recently. At first it was really hard, i'd clam up too. Once i got out a little experience it got easier. I seem to be able to let go. Most folks prove loving and its not been the end of the world i thought it would be.

Relax and take your time. Shouldn't say this but kind of like sitting on the toilet. Relax and it will come.

Hugs, Charlie

[Guest Gibby]

I always have a backup written copy of my explanation in case something like that goes wrong. I am not even going to risk it with my parents; I have a method planned out where I don't have to say anything.

[Guest Jade T]

The first person I came out to was to my sister over skype. She kept on bugging me to tell her why I was feeling better, what was my epiphany that I mentioned to her? I finally sent her a picture of myself followed about my explanation about my life and the way I felt since childhood. From there it got easier for me to come out to old friends I know.

What I did was I came out to people in rapid succession. I wrote all the emails I wanted to send to the people I wanted to send. Then I hit "Send" for them all at once lol. As of right now, I only have about 1/3 of the friends that I use to. Most of them will have nothing to do or have no further contact with me at all anymore. At least I can be thankful that they are not harassing me instead.

The only person I haven't told yet was my father. I have thought about it time and time again, but I haven't mustered the courage to tell him yet. I think I will send him an email soon though. I am worried about the fallout. But one thing my sister said that made sense was that I shouldn't live my whole life in hiding. I guess it is time for me to "man up" so to say lol.

Hugs,

Jade

[Guest Elizabeth K]

The first person is the hardest. You feel so guilty and scared they react just like that back to you! HARD

It gets easier each time - and you get more self assured and cnfident. The react more like that in return.

Who do you really want to tell? Start with that person?

That's my advice I guess.

Lizzy

[Guest ~DeeDee~]

I feel like if I did not go the face to face route, some of the people whom are closest to me would be more disappointed in that than the fact I am trans. I think a face to face goes a long way in showing your respect to someone. Jade, I mean no disrespect to you either, to each is own.