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Guest *Brooke*

Hi everyone. Well, over the past couple months, I've come out to some of my family, and have had good luck in doing so. About 2 months ago, I told my mom, and she was beyond accepting, and supportive, although she's quiet about things now, unless I bring them up, but I don't see much of a problem with that. I told my ex, the mother of my 2 wonderful children about a month and a half ago, and well, I really didn't tell her, but instead she told me.. lol I was a bit amazed myself, but she said it was because of some of my habits she noticed while we were living with each other, along with in the bedroom.

This past Wednesday, after I got done with my 5th Therapy Session, I met up with my stepmom, and it took a bit for me to bring the subject up, I told her about myself, and things from the past, trying to explain it as best I could, and she seemed to be rather accepting of it. I'm quite thrilled.

So, 3 out of 3 people I've told so far, have accepted this part of me, and eventually I can go shopping with them. :D Yay! Clothes!!

Now, I just need to tell my brothers.. which still has be a bit scared. I know they love me, but they'll be the first males that I tell, personally.. I think I'm going to do that this weekend, before the end of the day on Monday, so I can be done telling the people I have wanted to tell the most, well, besides my children, but I think I'll wait on that for a while, until I'm closer to starting HRT, otherwise they may end up forgetting, and still wonder what's going on with me then.

Just figured I'd make a topic to tell everyone. I'm so happy that I've got such an accepting family.. I know there are a lot of others that haven't had such good luck with it, and I wish it weren't that way for them. :(

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Guest angels wings

Awsome so great to hear thy have accepted you. Ur mum is more than likely trying to filter it all .

Wishing u all the best as u take the step to tell ur brothers

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Guest otter-girl

Acceptance is perhaps one of the greatest gifts one human being can give another. Glad to hear things going well.

hugs

Rachel

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Our worst case scenarios are usually never played out. Good deal for you.

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Guest *Brooke*

This evening, I went ahead, and told my brothers about myself, and as with others in my family that I've told, they're accepting of what's going on. My youngest brother that is almost 17 seems to be a little unsure of what to think, but I understand what he may be thinking. I made sure to let them know, as I have with everyone I've told, that if they have questions, they can ask me, and I'll let them know, and if I am unsure, I'll look into what was asked. I am beyond happy with how things have turned out for me, and am grateful for the family that I have been given.

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Alexandra, I am so very happy for you. You are a very lucky woman. Your parents must be awesome, to have imparted to all their children such a degree of love and understanding. I hope the rest of your journey is just as good.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest *Brooke*

Yes, this has been a huge relief for me. I had a really good day at work, and when I went to therapy today, I couldn't help but to smile basically the entire time I was in there, especially after telling my therapist about me telling everyone that I did, and them being more or less accepting of the idea, and situation.

I thank you both very kindly, and thanks Carolyn, as I also do hope the rest of my journey continues along this good path. :)

*hugs*

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Guest Jamiexo

congrats alexandra that is so great! if you don't mind me asking who is your therapist? i need to find one and i can do the dirty work to find where they are located and so on!

Thanks and congrats again!!

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Guest *Brooke*

Thanks! :) I don't mind at all. My therapist is Tina Harp, in Sioux Falls, SD. I live in the SW corner of Minnesota right now, within an hour of SF. Not sure where you are located in MN, but if you're in the SW corner somewhere, I highly recommend her. I can message you her website if you are close enough for her to be an option. Would be glad to help out!

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