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I think I'll be doing it this week


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My dad leaves on business trip Monday mourning which means the house will be just me and my mom, so I'm gonna try to come out to her before he gets home on Wednesday, I'm not sure how I'm gonna do it but I think I'll do it face to face. I just hope it's not ugly, I know it won't be great but hopefully there are some positives to take away from it. I am nervous but excited to take this step.

Katie<3

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Hi Katie,

I do wish you the best!

Unfortunately, I never had to come out to my parents, so have no experience to lend.

But, do spend some time preparing. have your facts in order, and even reference material printed if you can. At the same time, like any coming out, be gentle, be careful not to overwhelm her with too much at once.

Only you know how to do this best with your mom. We'll all be there with you in spirit.

Let us now how it went, okay?

Love, Megan

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Guest amanda_s

good luck Katie i'm coming out to my mom to this weekend just want my dad out of the house so we have some time alone.

Amanda

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Guest Misaka

Good luck, to both of you! Definitely let us all know how it goes! Must be super scary but you'll do great! : ) I wish i was as brave as you!

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Good luck. Take a deep breath and relax before you speak and then just let it out. Its been there for along time. Give it wings

Hugs, Charlie

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Guest Mia J

This is always one of the hardest things we have to do. Be brave talk with reason and try to have some sources she can go to for information.

If it does not go well try to see her view and give her time to adjust.

Remember we are here if you need.

Mia

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Guest CallMeKatie

I have been preparing alot today, doing a lot of research about what are some things that might be asked? And I have also printed out some basic info she might not need. I've run the conversation in my head and am preparing my self for the best and worse case scenarios. If anyone has already come out OT has any experience, what are some questions I should I expect???? I know she ll Sk questions and I want to prepare for them before hand so what do you all thinks are some questions she could ask?

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Guest Jade T

Good luck Katie, and I am rooting for you come Monday :).

Some questions that come to mind are:

1. How long have you felt this way?

2. Are you sure this isn't a phase?

3. Are you happier this way?

4. How will this affect your work and career?

5. How far do you plan to transition? - everyone I have told (and that still talks to me) has asked me this question -

6. Does your work / school know about this?

7. Why didn't you tell me sooner? We could of helped you through this (all my family I have told said this to me)

8. Are you on hormones?

9. Is this somehow my fault?

Those are some questions that come to mind and that I have been asked. But, no matter what questions your mom asks you, I would take it as a good sign because then that means your mom is getting to try to know and learn about her "new" daughter. Once again, good luck and I wish you the best.

Hugs,

Jade

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Guest MissSiul

I thought of doing the same,but I ended up coming out with a letter when both

my parents were at home.It was better,my mother could not handle it,my father on

the other hand wanted to help me.

Best of luck

Hugs

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