Passing

[Guest leo]

without even realising or comeing to terms with myself being ftm i was passing

at work (i work in a cinema as a cashier), customers would say thanks young man/sir

a lot of collegues would take the urine out of me for this. but i actually liked being called that by customers and didnt mind

a lot of people aint sure if im male or female in my everyday life so its pretty cool i guess

anyone else had any passing experiences with out even trying?

[Guest Draik]

Sure. I pass all the time and Present myself as male without even trying. The only thing I've done is cut my hair short but I did that before I even realized I was Trans. Although, I probably pass so well because I'm young. I imagine it would be harder if I were older.

[Guest J-Walker]

I ONLY pass when I'm not trying. It kind of sucks. XP Well at least people only refer to me as "sir" when I'm not trying. Now that my chest is flat people think I'm a woman for some reason. Those weirdos.

[Guest Sergei]

Ironically before I transitioned and was trying to look female, I couldn't pass as one. The whole world has always just seen me as male.

[Guest Liam]

I pass a lot of the time now, but when I was in Wisconsin visiting my family last summer, I was trying to present as female since I'm not out to any of them. I wasn't binding and I was wearing a women's cut t-shirt (which was purple) and I still passed at least half the time. It confused the heck out of me, but I'm not complaining.

[Guest joey]

i pass at school sometimes to ppl who don't know me. usually i'll get he and she until my parents blow it and say she. my hair isn't that short but not quite to my sholders and i always guy clothes so idk. i've passed before without trying at all.

[Guest Vinn Romano]

Hi..

Most people are also confuse about my gender...

So, they prefer to call me with "Dik" (Indonesian nickname for little child)...

When I spoke to someone stranger on the phone (example: call operators), they always call me with "Sir"...

I'm happy to be called like that... And you know, most of my friends (at school) always call me with my man's name, not my real name...

Yeah...

[Guest CharlieRose]

Now that I've gotten my hair cut I pass really really well. I've been "sir"ed by more people than I can remember. The one thing about working that sucks is that I have to have a nametag, which has my obviously female name on it and so that will ruin the illusion for people a lot of the time. I've gotten into the habit of carefully covering it up whenever a customer thinks I'm a boy so they won't have to say, "Oh, sorry, miss, I mean."

Oh, and a few weeks ago I passed in front of my entire family, which was really cool but sort of embarassing, too. The waiter at a restaurant we were in "sir"ed me twice, and my sister ended up hissing at me, "Act more like a girl! The waiter thinks you're a guy!" I made up something like, "No, it's okay," or something equally noncommital. I couldn't bring myself to break his perception of me, but I couldn't explain why I wanted to be seen as a guy, either. But, another good thing happened later. I had to go the bathroom, but the girl's was really full, so I went back to my seat. Then I remembered that I passed already that day, and despite my nervousness forced myself to go and use the male's, for the first time. There was a guy in there who didn't say anything! It was magical.

[Guest Evan_J]

I actually don't know what to think about passing anymore. Back before I was transitioning and not binding or anything I passed almost always. Of course, I was a little younger (a few years and its like I turned ancient) and so I'm pretty sure that has a good part. Still, it seems like once I actually started transitioning it seems like someone shook a "no pass" wand toward me . Before in life pretransition and transition, I NEVER EVER could pass on voice, but (and its in the voice thread about an appt) this week all of a sudden I was a man on the phone. Today, I had said appt and the nurse was all over my voice it "outted" me as being in transition even and we had a great talk about it. However, with hair startin to grow on my face (3 1/2 months on T) its like I'm in some in-between space and it ain't passin -except when I'm not thinking about it it seems. I dunno what the heck is goin on.

[Guest StrandedOutThere]

I have a hard time passing. Some of it is because I am older and a little pudgy. I think I carry the weight in a female-looking way. Every once in a while I will pass when I'm not trying, mostly with old people or with kids though...not so much with the younger set. Being in groups of women makes it difficult too. I'm always with women for some reason.

[Guest leo]

i guess im lucky that i can pass on voice. even relatives think im my brother on the phone all the time. or whenever i speak on the phone people always think im male

[Guest Ben]

isn't that interesting how you pass when you don't try?

pre-t this seemed to always be the case, it was very odd and i never understood. Guess it has something to do with being comfortable.

[Guest Crossroads]

I get called sir a thousand times a day. This was true even before I had thought of transitioning. At least once a day, someone practically bows at my feet to apologize "SO MUCH" for thinking I was a man. I'm well known for people saying "Sir?" and I turn around... "Ma'am? Sir?" Stare...... "Yes," says I. "Uh...could you help me with something?" lol, I don't get why people get so weird about it, though. And I never tell them one way or the other.

I have this one customer who swears up and down I'm a man every time he comes in. I think he thinks I'm a crossdressing guy or a guy acting like a girl. It's so weird.

Oh!!! Today, this little boy came up to the counter, and said "Why is that man talking like a lady?" It was awesome. I wanted to give him a high 5. He couldn't have been over 3 years old. And his mom tried to shush him, and he just kept going. "But what's his name?" (I guess he was hoping that would help him decide what I was). He went on and on until she finally just yelled at him to stop. I just smile really big when this happens.

[Guest Evan_J]

I just smile really big when this happens.

This is because sometimes "transboy" and "badboy" are the same thing lol

<--Is neva evva bad... [pushes horns down....]

[Guest Mitchel]

It seems like I never pass when I'm trying, and do when I'm just being lazy. I was filling my car at the petrol station and the cashier sheepishly admitted to me when I got to the counter that he thought I was a boy until he heard my voice. (Stupid. Stupid voice.) I've even been called male at work and in front of my sister. She didn't understand why I wasn't offended.

But whenever I really try I just keep getting odd looks.

[Guest leo]

the little kid thing happened to me but they was like 'mum is that a girl or a boy?'

and another time a mate came up to me with her parents and i gave them discount and her dad goes 'very kind of you sir' and noone said anything!

[Guest leo]

haha at work last night, i went to do a toilet check and all the girls in the toilet kept lookin at me as if to say why you in here for your a boy! well funny