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Guest Luuceee

Hi everyone, im due to visit my doctor tommorow about another issue so i have been planning on bringing my transgender feelings up with them while im there. This would be very difficult on any occasion but at the moment im not feeling very much dysphoria so i imagine that will make it harder. My question is even though im not feeling it at the moment should i still try to speak with them and will it make it harder for me to get my point across to my doctor. I know that the feelings in the future will be as strong as ever and then once again disapear for a while. On another note does anybody have any tips for this initial meeting with a doctor.

Lucy

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Lucy, I see no down side to having an open and frank discussion with your doctor about how you feel. I don't see why you would need to wait until your dysphoria is at its peak. If you appear reasonable, rational and serious, then your doctor should take it seriously. I wish you luck. Please let us know how it goes.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Alexis Haylee

Lucy,

I have to tell my Doctor to very soon to, so i'm kind in the same boat. But as Carolin Marie says we should not fear this. After all our Doctor is sopose to be a profetionail.

With Love, Alexis

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I just left my Dr's office 2 hrs ago. She will be talking with my GT and cardiologist about HRT. First time she has seen me as a female and i think she was shocked. Thought she had come into the wrong exam room. By all means be honest and up front. Freedom comes from being free not thinking about it.

Hugs, Charlie

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Guest Misaka

I've got an appointment at the doctor's on thursday, when I plan on telling them. Really scared about it myself! I feel like I could have a reasonable conversation about it, I just don't know how to actually say it. I'd rather not write it down if possible, but like, how did everyone else actually go about it? I mean, what were the actual words you said or plan to say to actually tell your doctor?

Do you go in all medical and be like "I have gender identity disorder" or like, mention dysphoria, or do you just go in like "I want to be a guy/girl" and do you think it's best to dress as your birth gender or target gender? I'm comfortable with either, but I'm worried that if it's not something my doctor has dealt with much, or at all, if you go fully dressed with forms and everything, I don't want them to think "oh, well, she has it under control, best to just say some comforting words and send her on her way" and I don't want to create any kind of confusion or anything (I imagine it's quite hard, as a doctor, to be like "so are those real, have you been on DIY hormones? tsk tsk") but also don't want them to think I'm somehow not committed or something because I don't look like Lilly Savage, especially since it will be the first time I've ever met this doctor!

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Guest Luuceee

Just got back from the doctors. I had it on the tip of my tongue but couldnt do it. I think id be better to prepare myself before as it felt like an add on issue from the start. What i need to do i think is write everything down so i can get it all in my head right and then book the doctors when i feel ready. I may also try telling a friend before hand as i feel they may be able to help me prepare for it. On another note the issue i originally went for is all good im fit and healthy :)

Lucy

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Guest KarenLyn

When I make an appointment to see the doctor, I'm always asked for a reason for the visit. If yours is the same way, I'd suggest you tell them gender or sexual issues so the doctor will be expecting something on that topic. If you put yourself on the spot like that, it takes away the chance that a fleeting moment of nerves will prevent the conversation.

My humble opinion,

Karen

PS

Congrats on the clean bill of health!

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