Rollercoaster Ride

[Guest xJennaSO]

Hello,

Not really sure what to write, never in a million years imagined myself doing this. I feel like the rules of my universe have been completely rewritten since my husband, Courtney, came out to me about a month ago.

Things have been a little rough. I am committed to maintaining our marriage. Although, it is easy for me to be supportive in theory, in my head. I think its great that we are finally able to communicate in a way that never would have been possible if this secret remained burried. Its a bit harder for me to be supportive looking at the man I married when she asks if my skirt makes her look fat.

Like any change, I imagine this will get easier with time, as I have an opportunity to wrap my brain around things. There are still a lot of questions, but it is good to know from reading other posts on this site, that I am not the only one in this situation. I feel like im on an emotional rollercoaster. I guess people stand in line for hours at amusement parks to ride rollercoasters, maybe I should consider myself fortunate that i dont have to do all that standing around for the avalanche of highs and lows. Throughout our marriage, that is definitely one thing that I have valued....never a dull moment. Scary moments, funny moments, moments of pure insanity.....but always worth the ride.

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Hello,

Not really sure what to write, never in a million years imagined myself doing this. I feel like the rules of my universe have been completely rewritten since my husband, Courtney, came out to me about a month ago.

Things have been a little rough. I am committed to maintaining our marriage. Although, it is easy for me to be supportive in theory, in my head. I think its great that we are finally able to communicate in a way that never would have been possible if this secret remained burried. Its a bit harder for me to be supportive looking at the man I married when she asks if my skirt makes her look fat.

Like any change, I imagine this will get easier with time, as I have an opportunity to wrap my brain around things. There are still a lot of questions, but it is good to know from reading other posts on this site, that I am not the only one in this situation. I feel like im on an emotional rollercoaster. I guess people stand in line for hours at amusement parks to ride rollercoasters, maybe I should consider myself fortunate that i dont have to do all that standing around for the avalanche of highs and lows. Throughout our marriage, that is definitely one thing that I have valued....never a dull moment. Scary moments, funny moments, moments of pure insanity.....but always worth the ride.

I just did the same thing to my wife. would it be okay to put you to together? It would probably be good for both of you.

[Guest xJennaSO]

Elizabeth,

That would be great, I would love to have someone to chat with.

[Sally]

Elizabeth,

I applaud you for even making the effort to support and find out about what your husband is going through. Mine didn't and I miss her, but I would have had to life the rest of my life fighting an inner conflict that had become unbearable - I was willing to try but she never gave me a chance. Good luck to you both - you can make this work and the very fact that you are her is a huge step in the right direction for both of you.

I love the fact that you do use the proper pronouns - you seem so willing to try that I am sure that you will be able to make things work.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Jenna

I just showed my wife your message, and your original posting on this site.

Yes - she has the same need you do to try to understand. She will definately get back to you.

Thank you - thank you for being honest enough to want to know about us transgendered - we have a lot of emotional issues, but we understand it is 10 times harder for the spouse.

I will probably let you two discuss, cuss, and dis in private. But let me offer my heart and mind to you, open for any questions or even for your venting. I am someone who is probabaly just like your SO, but not emotionally attached as he is to you. I will gladly try to explain what I can - but you certainly understand no one has ALL the answers

My wife and I are a bit older - I think that makes some difference, but not much. But our children are grown and gone. We do have a cat, but I doubt he really cares...

Liz

[Guest mia 1]

Jenna we are all on this roller coaster. The coincidental thing is I've been tracking Courtney's blog. So now I feel that I have met you both. Actually kind of strange, but funny. Oh! Kinda like that roller coaster. My S.O. told me tonight, she didn't want to put up the outside Xmas lights because of all that has been going on. So! What is my point? One minute she accepts the situation, the next she is confused. We are all in this together, so lets stick around and see where the cookie crumbles. Best Wishes To the two of you Mia1

[Guest Black_Rose]

Hugs to all.

When my husband told me I was also in that, imagen the movies when an intense moment is about tto happen and the camera zooms out really fast and everything but the person gets out of focus.

As the days go by things are getting better. I really evaluated what my relationship was about and I decided to see what mattered more and my love for my husband outweighed everything.

It's not something I imagined would happen but now that it is here I am glad it did.

I wish peace and if you ever need to talk, I'm here to listen.

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Jenna - hold on - She knows - she has the 'hesitations' right now.