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Guest Andrea85

Hi everyone,

My name is Andrea and I recently came to terms with being a MtF. I was a bit nervous about coming on here and I'm very nervous and a little scared about the road ahead.

I've known for years that I was truely female but it's recently become a major factor in my life and I have to do something about it. I started out as a young kid that enjoyed feminine things, but life and interaction with others turned me into a repressed, quiet, defensive person that never displayed emotion. This is changing!

I've been learning and reading a lot on this site and it's helped tons already. My wife is very

supportive of me which has made this all the better. No kids at this point either. Unfortunately the rest of my family members are likely to be less supportive.

I plan on going to see a therapist as soon as we get settled from the move and then hopefully start HRT. Just the thought of being able to be who I want to be is enough to make life better. It will be so nice to dress cute, be openly happy, and not have to worry about all that male aggression/standards that are so common in society now.

Just thought I'd say hi to you all though.

*hugs lots* ~ Andrea ^_^

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  • Root Admin

Hello Andrea,

Welcome to Laura's Playground. Thank you for sharing with us. There's no need to be nervous or shy. You're among friends here. :)

MaryEllen

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Guest angels wings

Hello Andrea :) Welcome to Laura's . No need to be nervous here . We are a bunch of fun loving caring people who do understand . Relax and feel the warmth you will soon see its nice here to just be you . We also have an S/O forum here . Many partners join and get encouraged and support here too . We ask all our members to please read the terms and conditions . You can find these at the bottom right of the page . These rules help us all keep Laura's a fun , safe and happy place for all to come and share . Lookin forward to getting to know you and maybe your wonderful wife too : ) enjoy and Welcome :)

Angel :)

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  • Forum Moderator

Welcome Andrea to the playground. :)

Having an understanding wife makes this journey so much better, count your blessings, my wife has become one of my best allies, even in the face of her losses. This is not easy, but with better understanding and communication one can make it work, I wish you and yours happiness. Post away as many folks about experiencing similar things, we are here to support each other.

Hugs

Cindy -

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Guest miss kindheart

Hi Andrea,

<<< hug >>>

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.

The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.

Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.

One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules. :)

We have MTF meetings-Mon & Sat 9pm est, and you are welcome to attend.

We all look forward to seeing you.

:wub: vanna

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Guest Mia J

Hello Andrea and welcome to Laura's. We are happy to have you with us on the forums.

It is nice to see another member from Colorado. There are several of us here.

It is a big step to have a supporting wife and your plan to see a GT soon is good. There are several good ones in the Denver metro area and other parts of the sate.

Mia

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  • Admin

Welcome to the Playground, Andrea. Listen, hon, there isn't one of us here who wasn't scared to death in the beginning. Even admitting being TG anonymously is a huge deal. It sounds like you are on the right path forward, and like the others have said, having a supportive S/O is just amazing! You are lucky, indeed.

I look forward to reading more of your posts. Please feel free to post in any of the forums, and ask any question.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest MsPerseveres

Welcome to the Playground! I've also recently come out to myself after denying and avoiding it for way too many years. I think that you'll love it here - I certainly do!

Hugs, Brenda

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Guest Andrea85

Thank you so very much! I'm very happy to meet you all, you all are very nice. I did read throught he rules section as asked of me.

It's especially great to meet another person from Colorado. ^_^ I'm actually having a bit of a hard time finding a GT, though there is one that I know of that I'll probably end up going to in the area.

I'm eternally thankful for how understanding my better half is.

I look forward to keeping in touch with you all and making friends here.

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Guest kariann330

Andrea, first i would like to say hi. Also I know how it feels to be nervous and unsupported, my family is very strict and very catholic and with the exception of two of my aunts and my ex-step mother, most of my family has stopped talking to me, yes this is a horror story come true but one thing i have noticed is all of the girls on here are very supportive and are quick to answer any questions you might have. I look forward to seeing you possibly on some of my posts later on, but until then, welcome and have fun.

Kari Ann.

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Hi Andrea

I'm sorry I'm a little late welcoming you to the playground. We understand your nervousness. But isn't it a weight off your shoulders that you can be honest with yourself once and for all. Trying to repress your feelings is so corrosive to your general well being, mental state, and happiness.

I applaud your spouse for her support of you. We really do want to invite her to join Laura's. Our S/O are spectacular and since she is also transitioning with you, there will be times when she will need support to. We are here to support the spouses and answer their questions to.

So Andrea, relax, Laura's Playground is populated with a comunity of well grounded people who are always there for you. Honestly, I can't imagine anybody transitioning all on their own. We all need help along the way. I also am looking forward to hearing your thoughts on different topics.

So Andrea, a warm welcome to you. I'm KathrynJulia and I'm glad you have joined us.

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Guest Andrea85

It really is a weight off off my shoulders! ^_^ I had trouble being happy for the longest time and I feel like there's a light there at the end of the tunnel. My wife will be joining the site here soon and so far has been very interested in it, although she has had quite a few concerns. Reading and understanding really helps though.

It's so nice to get to meet you all though. *hugs lots*

~Andrea

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Guest stephynrosie

welcome Andrea, im Stephany, wow, by the introduction its like looking at a mirror of myself. i am also MTF, i can really relate to how you feel about your wife. my fiance is my only support really. its a hard road, but, with ppl like your wife and my fiance, the road can be significantly easier. cherish that, few have that blessing.

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