How To Change A Parent's Mind

[Guest stephphorever]

Hey all, I'm in need to convince m,y parents to start letting me go places as a girl. To begin my transition and my true life. Any and all help will be appreciated.

Love ya,

Steph

[Guest Emily1]

Try asking - it's the best way to get most people to do things you want!!

Also, if you already dress as a girl around the house (if not, I suggest getting comfortable as a girl there before going out anyways), do like I did, and just assume that it is ok to go out wearing what you already are If they think you shouldn't, they'll say so, and if they are unsure, they'll realize both that you clearly want to, and that it takes more effort to change back (and you might not have time if you're lucky)

Anyways, lemme know how it goes,

Emily

[Guest Sofiadragon]

What you need to do is ask them politly & also tell them what you feel about yourself.

[Guest Cait]

Wow,

I don't know.

You might have to just do it

It gets easier with time

I think at school I've lost friends because i paint my fingernails and have long hair

now, i wear girls jeans too. don't know if they can tell or not

next, is my subtle wearing of make up

i just don't even care as long as they don't hurt me

people don't seem to care if you seem happy about what your doing

just tell your parents you have to become a girl to feel complete

i sleep better at night sometimes if i put on my girl PJ's

these are some tights i bought

lol

no one can stop you from dressing up

it does provide a great deal of relief, for some reason

i hope that is some help!!!!!!!!

~Cait~

[Sally]

If your parents are concerned about your well being (most are) they need to know the facts. Let them know that the AMA and APA now consider this to be a medical condition - not a mental disorder. Tell them about the importance of transitioning and how much easier it is to transition early. Ask them about letting you see a therapist who is trained in gender disorders - this will help them to understand that it isn't a whim or a phase (they are sure that it is and will cling to that). Don't push, that makes them want to push back. Without shouting it at them over and over make sure that they see the statistics about the suicide rates among pre transitioning transsexuals and how high it is in teens don't threaten to do it! It does make them realize that this is a topic far to important to just ignore.

Be gentle, parents can be fragile!

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest stephphorever]

Thanx All, Especially Cait, ur subtlety is definitely the kind of thing I need to begin doing to start my transition. I don't paint my nails, but I just got a set opf polishes from an FTM who got them ages ago. I went shopping the other day and bought panties and sports bras. I also received girl clothes from my FTM friend, YAY. I thank you all again for your kind comments.

Love ya,

Steph