Earring retainers for lobes

[Guest -=Mila=-]

I can't seem to find the answer to this anywhere (and I'm a little nervous to walk into a Claire's to ask) :

I have to be in boy mode at work but really want to get my earlobes pierced. I know you have to keep a certain kind of earring in for the first six weeks or so. Do they have clear semi-invisible retainers that can be worn for this six weeks or would I be stuck with something that could be seen?

I know I can wear clear retainers after they're healed but I'd really need to wear them during the healing or I can't do it.

-=Mila=-

[Charlize]

As far as i know the first posts are always visible. I was told to wear posts for 6 months before moving to other earrings. I'm not sure why only posts.

Sorry but the only thing to do might be to grit you teeth and be different with pierced ears. nobody gave me trouble when i was in male mode.

Hugs,

Charlie

[Guest Chrissy6455]

what does it matter if they can see them? Guys get their ears pierced all the time.. Just keep a normal like silver stud in them in Boy mode. I know alot of guys that have both lobes pierced. Its in Style at leas in Philly right now lol

[JJ]

In this bastion of ultra conservatism I frequently see guys with both ears pierced, but usually they just have in plain studs most of the time. Sometimes one will be different than the other-a chain link looking one and a ball in the other. Even seen the rednecks wearing a colored stone in one ear and a stud in the other.

In guy mode just don't go with anything dangly and act like there is nothing unusual about it and I don't think anyone will thing anything about it unless they are already questioning your gender or orientation.

Just do it and rock it whatever the mode if that will make you happy.

And Claires won't care what you are doing as long as you pay them. I guarantee they will have seen much more unusual things anyway.

Johnny

[Guest]

Hi Mila,

I had my ears pierced at least a year before coming out. At first, I wore the studs from the store, and then switched to small loops as soon as possible afterwards. Nobody said a word.

I finally got noticed when wearing little Christmas trees. Perhaps that was over the line for guys.

Love, Megan

[Guest -=Mila=-]

If I worked anywhere else it wouldn't be a problem.

But, I work for my dad, who I call George Steinbrenner because I could go in with a shaved head, shaved face and still get told to trim my sideburns!

Dear old dad has had health issues and I couldn't do anything to upset him, plus he's the reason I'm not unemployed and out on the street right now.

Maybe I could wear earmuffs to work

-=Mila=-

[KathrynJulia]

Walmart sells a clear acrylic posts that are almost invisible. They come with about 20 pairs for about $5.00. They are easy to use and take out. I switch them out after work and put them back in before work in the morning. I let them soak in 70% rubbing alcohol overnight to disinfect. Kathryn

[JJ]

My mother was like that. I understand your not wanting to upset your dad. But after too many decades I finally learned my mother didn't get any more excited about the big things than the little ones and I figured as long as I could never please her I might as well please me. Not in gender because I never realized I could, but in other things.

Funny thing is her behavior was exactly the same-the sky didn't fall-in fact we actually got closer. I think perhaps it was a mixture of her respecting me more and me resenting her behavior less.

Just a thought anyway, For some people it is just the way they behave.

I sacrificed too much of my life and happiness as hostage to her disapproval though I did move half way across country from her after living with her for 2 years after my divorce and then a few blocks away for another 2 years. She kept tabs on me and expressed herself vocally when I didn't live up to expectations. Which I never did till I quit trying

I hope you can resolve it because it is not a good way to live. Not worth the price in the end for me

Johnny

[Guest Shari]

The problem is that within a few minutes of taking the posts out, you can't get anything all the way through until they've healed. I know from experience unfortunately. It's kind of weird because you can get them part ways in but it's hard to find the hole on the other side.

I wish you luck though. It feels so good to look in the mirror and see those little diamond (fake) earrings.

Shari

[Guest -=Mila=-]

Johnny I understand and agree, it's no way to live. The situation is tougher for me though because he had brain trauma and is a little different now. There was a tumor and stroke involved. I'm so thankful hes still alive, my decision to do anything with my looks around him is .. skewed I guess.

Guess I'll grow a pair (hope I can say that because it's so deliciously ironic lol) and check out Claires, see if any starter posts look small enough not to notice.

-=Mila=-

[Guest MsPerseveres]

I think that the baby piercing studs are probably the smallest. They're still visible though, so be warned.

Right now, I'm thinking about getting second piercings! I've had the main lobe piercing for about 5 years, so no probs with keeping them out while I'm at work while the new (higher on the outside) piercings heal. I LOVE bling, glitz and glitter - earrings, make-up, bracelets, rings, anklets, sequin gowns, gorgeous clutch purses, high heels... hmm, I guess that gives you the idea ;-).

Hugs, Brenda

[Guest ~Lana~]

"To pierce or not to pierce, that is the question..."

(not sure who we should attribute that one to, yet.

Ask yourself, who am I doing this for?

and then, forget about looking for invisible studs