My oldest son is following in my foot steps

[Guest candiceh]

My oldest son Danny is following in my shoes,into crossdressing now.He is 11 now and started 3 weeks ago,he picked Danielle as his female side's name.My wife and I are open minded letting him do this.Took him shopping for girl's clothing at first and that was fun for him.The worst part was getting him to get used to wearing a bra,He is getting used to that now.He has two wigs right now so far.Danielle is consider a second daughter for my wife and I,next plan is to get the ears pierced which will be on Saturday.Told my son it hurts for a little bit,wears clip ons earrings right now.Getting the make up down pat too,learning from his female friends.My youngest son is getting used to this,Danielle is a second sister to him and he is the masculine one

[Guest Lupi]

That's cool. It's nice that he was born into a family that's got an understanding garunteed. x2

[Charlize]

My oldest grandson may follow me but only time will tell. His parents are not encouraging him but haven't sat on it either so we'll see where he goes. He's just 5 and has a desire to dress up a lot. They are worried i might influence him and i hope he just makes up his mind as he can himself. At least if he does he will know from the start that he's not alone.

Hugs,

Charlie

[Guest Sarinah]

Its good that you can support your child. I would caution you though please make sure that your not leading them, let them lead the way. It will be better for your child to find out who they really are if they are allowed to make decisions for themselves.

-Evalyn

[Guest angelvice]

Stupid question... can Dysphoria be genetic? Im reading more and more on here that sons, daughters, grandsons etc are moving into the parent`s - grandparent`s footsteps... its making me wonder?

[Carolyn Marie]

Stupid question... can Dysphoria be genetic? Im reading more and more on here that sons, daughters, grandsons etc are moving into the parent`s - grandparent`s footsteps... its making me wonder?

Not at all a stupid questions, Angel. I haven't read anything scientific on the subject, but there is plenty of anecdotal evidence. I know of several transfolk with children who are trans, and have read of many more. There are also many cases of siblings. A study would seem to be in order.

Candice, have you thought about a G.T. for your daughter? If there is one with experience with kids that would be best. At this point, getting some professional guidance would help all of you as you move forward. I applaud you and your S/O on your open minds and open hearts.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest angelvice]

Not at all a stupid questions, Angel. I haven't read anything scientific on the subject, but there is plenty of anecdotal evidence. I know of several transfolk with children who are trans, and have read of many more. There are also many cases of siblings. A study would seem to be in order.

I imagine that a GT here is especially important since children could simply be mimicking? I wonder what kind of thoughts a little boy would have growing up with his father becoming a second mom - could he (the little boy) simply think that its "normal" that a boy dresses and becomes a woman? Im just curious here, and its just as well since of course Lucky and I's kids will have to face this eventuality...

[Carolyn Marie]

I imagine that a GT here is especially important since children could simply be mimicking?

Certainly that is a possibility, and yes, a G.T. would definitely be a good idea. Unfortunately, there aren't that many G.T.'s that have experience or training with children, but the numbers are increasing.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest candiceh]

_{My son wanted to express his female side still happy as a male and he talked to my wife and I about it.We were for it and wanted to see him happy.His female side Danielle is a good person.}

[Guest alexiaannalise]

hi thats great to hear that ur son has awesome parents i really happy to see this a gt maybe what u need to see if this isnt just a phase and if it isnt its great that u support him

Alexia Annalise

[Guest candiceh]

It is not a phase,GT said this last week.Basically said this was his way expressing his feminine side

[Guest Lupi]

Even if it was/is a phase, I think it'd still be the right thing to do to let the kid explore it. If it makes them happy, then why not?

[Guest alexiaannalise]

i wasnt doubting u i was just saying like i said im very happy to hear it

[Guest LizMarie]

AngelVice, the biology work is only just really beginning into causes and effects with transsexuals. What we do appear to know is that hormonal variations in the first 16 weeks of pregnancy are critical and that it is not just the raw hormone levels but the ratios as well. So in the sense of asking if something is hereditary, right now we really don't know. But I would imagine that it is entirely possible for variations in hormonal levels to produce diversity in outcomes. Nature loves diversity! It's society that abhors it. Many ancient societies actively celebrated the male and female aspects of our persons. It may, in fact, be the extreme rigidity in gender roles in more modern cultures that has made transsexuality an even more harsh problem for those that suffer from it.

But variations in hormonal levels in those first 16 weeks appear to be the key. Could genetic factors impact those hormonal levels? Absolutely. But environmental factors could too. My signature has a link to a long (73 minute) presentation to the AMA that goes deeply into gender identity, sexual orientation, and hormonal exposures during pregnancy. I highly suggest viewing it. It's very eductional.

[Guest angelvice]

LizMarie,

thats really interesting! I will look at it as soon as I can... I heard of a similar concept for homosexual men - too little testosterone exposure in the womb supposedly... huh..! We learn something everyday...

[Guest MrMxyzptlk]

The amature geneticist in me is facinated by this kind of stuff. Of couse the angry child in me that holds a grudge agaisnt my parents for a lousy childhood is always happy to find new reasons to blame my mother for my situation too...

You mention hormonal imbalances in the womb. I wonder if there is a correspondance between smoking and children developing sexual identity issues. My brother and I are two totaly differant people and one of the things my mother did with me that she didn't do with him is smoke when pregnant. I've read that smoking while pregnant can deprive a fetus of all manner of important things. Do you know of any studies looking at smoking, drinking or drug use during pregnancy?

[Guest ~Phoebe~]

The amature geneticist in me is facinated by this kind of stuff. Of couse the angry child in me that holds a grudge agaisnt my parents for a lousy childhood is always happy to find new reasons to blame my mother for my situation too...

You mention hormonal imbalances in the womb. I wonder if there is a correspondance between smoking and children developing sexual identity issues. My brother and I are two totaly differant people and one of the things my mother did with me that she didn't do with him is smoke when pregnant. I've read that smoking while pregnant can deprive a fetus of all manner of important things. Do you know of any studies looking at smoking, drinking or drug use during pregnancy?

Porably do a search using a search site like Google or Bing...etc, search on "smoking, drinking or drug use studies" and most likely have many "hits' to view.

[Guest ~Phoebe~]

The amature geneticist in me is facinated by this kind of stuff. Of couse the angry child in me that holds a grudge agaisnt my parents for a lousy childhood is always happy to find new reasons to blame my mother for my situation too...

You mention hormonal imbalances in the womb. I wonder if there is a correspondance between smoking and children developing sexual identity issues. My brother and I are two totaly differant people and one of the things my mother did with me that she didn't do with him is smoke when pregnant. I've read that smoking while pregnant can deprive a fetus of all manner of important things. Do you know of any studies looking at smoking, drinking or drug use during pregnancy?

Porably do a search using a search site like Google or Bing...etc, search on "smoking, drinking or drug use studies" and most likely have many "hits' to view.

Meant to say search for " smoking, drinking or drug use during pregnancy studies", that would narrow the results to your question.