How to Control Crazy Thick Curly hair

[Guest Chrissy6455]

OK I'm growing my hair, unfortunately, I have a very curly hard to control hair type that just wants to do a mess fro if anything else.. I keep it under control in guy mode with lots of hair Gel but I'm realizing once its long enough that I can step away from Wigs I'm gonna have a tough time controlling it ... Anyone have any suggestions to tame the wildness. Also I don't want to keep using hair gel if I can find a better way ....

I am attaching a pic of myself so you cna see my hair for yourself. It actually is about 1 1/2 - 2" long right now although it doesn't look like it. I please excuse the horrible guy mode pic .. I was lazy this weekend and didn't shave.

[Guest Shari]

Chrissy,

Sorry, I'm one of those who would love to have unruly hair. You should probably consult a hairdresser, they can suggest something that won't damage it. There's a point where your hair is not long enough to do anything feminine with, but, it's too long to look good in guy mode. I'm about to give up growing my own hair.

Hugs,

Shari

[Guest angels wings]

What I got my partner to do with her hair which is now shoulder length is have it layered . Hers has a mind of its own lol I took her to the hairdressers and asked them to layer it . It worked with hers . She also straighten s it with a hair straightener

Angel

[Guest]

Hi Chrissy,

Of course, you'll make many folks jealous with that hair!

Mine is perhaps not as unruly. but because it's baby-fine, it is no more managable than yours. And it is wavy-curly around the sides and straight on top. Even in my guy years, my hair was always a mess.

Thankfully, my hairdresser has the patience of a saint! We waited and waited until it was long enough for big rollers. After it finally got there (took over a year for my slow-growing stuff), she gave it a body-perm. This straightened the side hair and curled the top hair.to where everything reacts the same. The downside is that it needs to be repeated farily often - perhaps every 3 months. Mine is past due...

That in-between time, waiting for hair to grow, was awful! I used a grandmotherly look - I personally named it "Birds-Nest", using mousse to squish it into even curls all over, and then picking it out into a loose Afro afterwards. Of course, there's always wigs, but it's so nice to be able to leave them behind!

Love, Megan

[Guest ~Mara~]

OK I'm growing my hair, unfortunately, I have a very curly hard to control hair type that just wants to do a mess fro if anything else.. I keep it under control in guy mode with lots of hair Gel but I'm realizing once its long enough that I can step away from Wigs I'm gonna have a tough time controlling it ... Anyone have any suggestions to tame the wildness. Also I don't want to keep using hair gel if I can find a better way ....

I am attaching a pic of myself so you cna see my hair for yourself. It actually is about 1 1/2 - 2" long right now although it doesn't look like it. I please excuse the horrible guy mode pic .. I was lazy this weekend and didn't shave.

I've seen it suggested to not shampoo every day, maybe just every few days. That seems to be the magic bullet for hair like yours. Lots of conditioner but not always shampoo. Search the forum, I know I've seen the topic elsewhere.

Also google the internet! There's no difference between men's and women's hair chemically. There are tips on women's beauty sites.

I am growing mine out too and it looks kind of like yours. I've never had it long enough where the weight actually takes over. Just grows up and up and up! Looking forward to getting over that hump!

~Mara~

[Guest ~DeeDee~]

I have that same hair, well on the sides top leaves me something to be desired lately, best thing to do is to go with it rather than fight it. There are products you can get like Frizz ease and such that will make them much more manageable. If keeping the curls isn't the route you want to go then I suggest maybe when it gets long enough to get a Chi(hair straightening iron).

~Dee Dee~

[Guest JennX]

I'd like to hear some ideas on this as well.

This is what my hair looks like in the morning:

No... I'm not kidding. It about the same length and just as curly. I'm happy if I can run my fingers thru it. If I take 30 minutes to flat-iron or blow-dry it, it looks awesome. But otherwise, it's a mess.

The best thing I've had luck with is Paul Mitchell Super Skinny Balm which helps straighten and kill frizz. Bumble and Bumble Concentrate works well too. The flat-iron gives my the best results though.

[Guest Lizzie McTrucker]

Curly hair incites jealousy, girls! Some women pay mucho dinero to have curls like ours.

I use conditioner every time I shower, and work it through my hair in parts. I also found out that as a result of using a decent anti-dandruff shampoo, my stylist didn't even have to cut my hair recently if I just wanted it at that length. There were no split ends or anything that had to be trimmed. She said a healthy scalp will do that.

The only time I use shampoo is after a couple days to wash all the product out of it.

As for styling, I use a curl-enhancing mousse and some hair spray. Put some on, then bend over and flip my hair over and do a little more that way, then scrunch it some and hit it with a blow dryer on low heat, then flip my hair back over as I stand up. You can also skip a day or two if you don't want to mess with your hair, or it's unbearably hot, and pull it up in a ponytail or a messy bun when it's long enough.

During the growing out phase (took a couple years), I just endured jokes about having an afro. Just tried to take care of it and get semi regular trims.

[Guest carolynn2fem]

Its being 6 months since my last cut and the Mrs is starting to complain. I just want to get it layered. its hard to keep the peace and be at peace at the same time

[Guest SusanB]

I use a flat iron most of the time, also a large curling iron takes a lot of frizz out and adds body without making it real curly