A Good Day

[JenniferB]

Yesterday was a bad day. Yet you never know what the next day will bring.

I had some errands to run today, after work, and I was in a very girly mood. I had very girly clothes, including some nice wedge sandals and a blouse that emphasizes the girls. I couldn't believe how I was treated. Everyone I ran into was treating me like a lady. And to top it off, I stop off at the meat department at the supermarket to pick up some baked chicken. A nice man waited on me and went out of his way to give me a sample wing of a different flavor of chicken. Then he went out of his way to find higher quality pieces of chicken to fill my order. That was kind of him and I let him know.

I've never had this happen before but men seemed to be going out of their way to say hello. I was at the cable company to complete my name change with them (finally) and to order television service to get ready to watch my Arizona Wildcats play college football and basketball (yeah Pac-12 Network ), and this elderly man sits right next to me and wants someone to talk with. I didn't have time to talk with him much because my name was called, but what I noticed, and not only him, is that people accepted me as a woman. I didn't get a "sir" one time.

For the first time I could sense men were genuinely attracted to me, and I believe it's because I send out genuine female signals, instead of contrived ones. It's been a good day.

One thing that took me time to learn. I now realize I don't have to give up the things I like just because I feel it doesn't seem girly enough. Just be yourself. In hindsight I can't believe how many times I told others I don't like sports very much because I thought it would help me pass. Now I know that sending out female signals is what counts. I don't totally understand how this works, it just does.

Love,

Jenny

[VickySGV]

Maybe I need to go over the border to Arizona and see if I can find a few of those guys. I don't find nearly that many here in So. Cal. in that length of time. I am so glad you are feeling better too.

[Charlize]

Sounds a wonderful and fulfilling day. Its great to feel accepted and to be treated as the woman we feel like. There are still some gentlemen out there even though i have left the ranks. I must admit i still hold a door for a woman, just couldn't do otherwise. Its nice then when the next man holds it for me. Gives a girl a chance to smile a thanks.

Hugs,

Charlie

[JJ]

Glad you had such a great day jenny! You were due,

It;s my belief that we observe and internalize the behaviors and mannerisms and cultural norms of the gender we identify with -usually with no idea we even do it, Then too they are finding more and more behavior is actuay gender hard wired in the brain now that they can image it and see what is generated where, I have heard scientists say they were shocked how much behavior really is gender differentiated and hard wired, Far more than ever suspected, And of course that has been our problem all out lives hasn't it? Our brains kept telling us one thing and society another, Now what we have to do is forget those messages the years tried to drum into us and just get out of our own way, The knowledge is there, it's when we try too hard that we short circuit the new messages I think,

I know when I saw myself as a male with a flawed anatomy rather than a female with a male brain I went from seldom passing to passing all the time. Overnight.

Again I am very, very happy for you

Hugs

Johnny

[Guest Mia J]

That is great Jenny. You deserve this after all of the hard work you have done in transition.

Mia

[Guest MsPerseveres]

Congratulations! What a wonderful feeling :-).

Hugs, Brenda

[KathrynJulia]

great day jennifer:

I'm glad to hear that. You've had a bad time of it lately. A little TLC your way, well it's your time to have a little luck come your way. Imight have to hang around and watch your technics for attracting guys. Sounds like you've got a great gift there. It's nice to hear the happy in you today. It's sweet music to my ears Jenny. I don't like seeing my friends being abused. The other day wasn't a very good one with your job treatment. I hope that things get better. Kathryn

[Guest LizMarie]

Jenny, my mom is almost 80 and is still a football nut. Always has been and always will be, I guess. Just be you.

[Carolyn Marie]

What a great story, Jenn, and such a turnaround from yesterday. You really needed this, and I'm glad for you.

We get to the point where we stop trying, stop even thinking about it, and then it just becomes automatic. We no longer have to try to be female (or male, for our FtM brothers), we just become who we always have been. You've reached that level, and now its time to just enjoy. Believe me, the "Woman's Club" is a great place to be.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie