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Cogiati And Me


Guest mia 1

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Took the Cogiati. I am so happy that I was categorized Androgynous. For years I was Xing and thinking "Oh this is just some kind of kinky thing. It is not really part of my personality.

Well not any more. Following the test's questions I realized I was different than my "buddies", in some ways. More sensitive to others needs, nnot so quick to condemn, and more sensitive to others feelings. Also more intuitive and able to have great conversations with girls, and late women.

So much of my self was unexplainable especially when women would call me a "sensitive" man and say how unique that was. I never corelated{SP.} that with my cross dressing. But NOW :D" holy brain storm batman" I've put it together and am Me! What a relief.

One more thing. When I signed in to Laura's I was categorized as Androgynous, which surprised me, thought "No should be Cross Dresser"' little did I know how right the powers that be are. So happy to be so compleat,,Lovetyou You All,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Mia :)

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Happy that you have found confirmation. I can't tell you haw much it helps - you are no longer just you against the world! :banghead:

You have us and a test score for non believers! We take your word for it, test or no test!

I'd offer you a cookie, but It is kind of late... oh, well - help yourself!

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest soitne

Mia, I came here confused about what I was, I decided on Androgyne because to me it seemed to be a better fit then cross dresser, because it was also a little bit of my personality when not Xing. I have also been called a sensitive male and have ease relating to women more so then other men. Not that I am uncomfortable with men but just that I sometimes like talking just to women. Also many of the hobbys I've picked up like knitting are not traditionally masculine and I like hanging out with my 'girlfriends' and talking about knitting, fashion etc. But there are also times when I can be more traditionally masculine.

I now like to sometimes "let go" and just be more sensitive, and when I did that, and I'm alone, I'll sometimes dress up. Although that is a very recent thing. I started Xing this year when I moved in with my girlfriend just her and me. Perhaps that is just because I had ready access to female clothing. I'm not sure.

My thing now is that I feel like a pretender. Meaning I only started this recently (I'm 22 now) and it seems that the vast majority of folks can trace their confusion and actions back. I can't. I never dressed as a child. I was always more of a sensitive sort but that to me does not mean a whole lot as I also had anger problems as a kid (it's not really a sensitive act to knock a kids teeth out). Now I'm stuck thinking is this just a kink that has popped up and I should just view it as such and/or even forget about it?

Well this sucks, I was posting here to say "Hey you sound like where I am, this helps a lot. I think I am also now confirmed" but now after writing some I'm just feeling more crushing doubt. I'm going to post this here anyways even though it may hijack your thread :( sorry.

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Guest Tori-OC

Soitne...... ur post did hijack the prior ideas!!!!!!!!!! omg go back to sckruel & get a real degree.... LMAO

Hey Soi-beans... good job on graduating... I'm sure you will be a monsterous success in whatever career you choose... im really happy you graduated!!! YEAAA for you :)

A few tests that i found better than the Cogiati

SAGE test is a good one .... includes most of the goatie (cogiati) test within the 135 or so ?s. The SAGE seems to be more, way more in depth. http://www.hemingways.org/GIDinfo/sage/test.htm

Sandra Bem's BSRI i found also helpful, but it is a psychological evaluation, but good really good for analyzing ones mas. & fem. traits.

Suggestion....... i found printing the tests & working on them over the time of a week was best.... because if i answer a ? now, i might answer different tomorrow after considering it for a while & might answer different in 5 days..... give yourself time to adjust your answer to reflect all of you over your entire life.... for me that helped. Also have other people take the tests on you, especially the BEM BSRI. IDK it just helped me to see how others viewed me.... turns out they looked at me when it came to traits, behaviors (not dress & looks) as androgynous, actually slightly more fem. than masculine. That helped me to see how others my mom & best friend looked at me.

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A few tests that i found better than the Cogiati

SAGE test is a good one .... includes most of the goatie (cogiati) test within the 135 or so ?s. The SAGE seems to be more, way more in depth. http://www.hemingways.org/GIDinfo/sage/test.htm

Sandra Bem's BSRI i found also helpful, but it is a psychological evaluation, but good really good for analyzing ones mas. & fem. traits.

... the BEM BSRI. IDK it just helped me to see how others viewed me.... turns out they looked at me when it came to traits, behaviors (not dress & looks) as androgynous, actually slightly more fem. than masculine. That helped me to see how others my mom & best friend looked at me.

I was wondering if there are any psychological or DIY tests for anatomical females. I didn't get too far into COGIATI before I realized I was on the wrong boat. Any info would be appreciated.

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Guest Elizabeth K

Mia

We always said, just be yourself. You are okay as you are!

Those tests are fun! You hadn't taken the Cogiati? That surprised me. I took it when I first joined Laura's and then later after I started HRT and wanted to see if there was any differencs. I scored probable the first time - i scored definate the second time. So there we are...

Love you

Lizzy

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