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Am I Ts, Gay, Or Just Going Thru An Emo Phase?


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Guest Christy.dancer

It's 9.30am. School's closed cuz of an ice/snow storm. Just as well...

So anyway, thanx for having me. I'm Christy... maybe I should put it better. I think I want to BE Christy. Right now I'm Christy in the making. Why Christy? Long story, and I won't bore you anymore than I have to.

I'm 16 -- I'll be 17 next month. I my little part of the world, it seems like EVERYONE gets diagnosed with ADD in middle school, so they hand out ritalin like it was halloween candy. THAT didn't take, so for a while my therapist (EVERYONE here has a therapist) flirted with Asperger's syndrome. I looked that up, and knew instantly he was wrong, but played along anyway.... sigh....

Somewhere along the line, I realized I wasn't particularly hot for girls. I liked their company -- all of my hang-out friends were girls, but between the ritalin and the occasional anti-depressants (note to everyone: pot is w-a-a-a-ay better but not covered under my Mom's insurance), I frankly wasn't sexually turned-on very much. I got the general impression that I was gay, and that's been the general theme with my therapist. I haven't exactly "come out" with my family, but they're not stupid.

Lately, I've been reading and coming to grips with the idea that maybe I'm just in the wrong gender. That would explain a LOT -- how I generally loathed boy scouts, my attitude toward clothes, and my overwhelming urge to play golf from the red tees (LOL.... just made that up... Mom tried to hook me on golf last year.... inside joke.)

That doesn't mean I'm not gay, but thanks to the pharmaceutically induced emotional haze, I really don't know. I can generally IMAGINE myself with a boyfriend rather than a girlfriend, but I'm not really sexually attracted to ANYONE. In short, I can't imagine jumping someone or being jumped.... but it would be nice to cuddle up with someone bigger than me on cold winter nights (like... last night).

Anyway, I'm going over to my BFF's house later. She and I have had l-o-n-g talks about my apparent gay-ness. Now I'm gonna drop the OTHER shoe with her. Surprise, surprise -- the other shoe may be a stilletto.

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Welcome, Christy,

Come on in and sit ina nice comfy chair, there's one vacant near the fire. Have a cup of Hot Cocoa I have plenty of mini marshmellows and I'll get you some fresh baked cookies.

The idea is we are a friendly group, we are here to support each other, help each other and learn from each other.

We consol and celebrate with the same enthusiasm and have fun at the same time.

If you don't want any cookies - Dutchie has been known to offer pies!

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Donna Jean

Hey, Christy!

Welcome to the playground. You'll love it here as many others do..It's warm, friendly and safe.

We're also known to offer some really wonderful eats and drinks to get you in the mood. Mainly as Sally says...we're here for each other!

Thanks for coming by!

Donna Jean

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Guest Elizabeth K

:P Christy - heyyyyy

You have questions like I have had my entire life! It took me years to find out what I am...

Medical science is better now, I think. ;)

Okay - here it goes... DON"T ASSUME anything - play it loose and free. See where your mind goes, see where your heart goes. Don't set boundries by putting names to what you THINK you MIGHT be. Keep yourself open and uninfluenced by the opinions of others - go where you lead yourself... stay sane. Stay sober... well, at the least don't do serious stuff - stay safe.

When you are ready - get yourself to a "gender dysphoria" therapist - specificlly ask for "gender dysporia" - you are wasting time and money otherwise. They will help you through whatever - they don't judge. They don't try to reform you into what someone else wants. And they can really give good advice, and help you on your way - whatever direction that is... :rolleyes:

And... sweetheart, I worry about you, please be careful, it can get rough out there. :unsure:

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Guest Karen-1954

I wouldn't be in a hurry to find out which label to place on yourself. After all, it is just a label. Just enjoy as much as possible the search to find who you are. I did not start transition until I was 52. After a while, a GOOD gender therapist will be able to help you figure out the answers to who you are. They will suggest some ways for you to figure out the "who, what, when and where".

Hugs (while handing you a piece of cherry cobbler)

Karen

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Guest DeniseNM

Welcome to our crazy little piece of internet heaven Christy. All the other ladies have offered some wonderful and sage (I love that word ....lol) advice and I can't really think of any other, but just be yourself and don't get hung up on labels like was already said. We are here to help each other out and give support, love, a shoulder to cry and lean on and an ear to listen when needed. Just remember to be safe and make sure who you come out to. I would think that if your friend accepts you as being gay she will accept you as transgender too.

Denise

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Guest Christy.dancer

thanx, everyone, for making me feel welcomed. It's day 4 of our snowstorm, and I'm going a bit stir-crazy today, so I may end up posting a lot of gibberish to the forum. If I do, please keep in mind I'm not permanently crazy....

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Guest DeniseNM

No need to apologize girl you aren't any crazier than the rest of us ... LOL. You are more than welcome for the welcome because we have to stick together because as has been said "it ain't easy being transsexual" but it sure it alot of fun at times.

Denise

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