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KieranD

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Hey, I just wanted to know how I would be gendered based on my voice. I get misgendered or seen in a way I least want to be seen a lot and wanted to figure out how my voice is, or what possible lean my voice might make. Also, if you think there are things I could work on or change.

I'd like to be better at speaking. I tend to be quiet and feel that shouting over people at a bar I can't really maintain the same sound.

Audio can be found here.

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Guest angels wings

It's gd to respond even if its not working , because sometimes it does not work and let's the poster know so . Sometimes it's the computer or whatever device the person is using that will not support that . It worked for me

Angel :)

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exactly. we'd like to hear it if you can do it.

if people could hear my voice preT and post T, theyd be pretty amazed..that kind of thing always made me feel hopeful before i got on testo, when i would see or hear a trans and notice how much it helped them..and hoped it would do as well for me someday.

btw i wished i could have posted a small photo/image in my chatbox the other day but i didnt see a tool for that here.

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I heard it perfectly and I can tell you it sounds like a normal guy, not too deep not too high. Don't know if that's exactly what you want to hear, but that's my point of view without any censor. I compare it to my male voice and it's pretty much the same.

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ok i tried it and it worked this time.

sounds like a typical young guy after his voice changed.

i noticed you clip phrases a bit, and bounce when you talk, some of the ftm sites say you should try to be more monototone, and less bouncey, but in your case I dont think it hinders your male voice at all. Some guys just sound like that, especially when theyre being taped and not quite so used to it.

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To be absolutely honest I think I have an idea but not a good solution so I haven't said. Your mouth is a cupid bow-beautiful and desirable on a woman but I don't think I have seen many on men. When you purse it in pics sometimes it looks even more female to me.

I know we can train ourselves tpo hold our mouths differently but ot takes a great deal of effort and concentration. Can you grow a moustache at all? Or even find them tolerable. It seems just from the pics to be compounded by your coloring which makes your mouth more prominent. You look male except for that but it is such a pretty mouth people override that I think.

It's just my personal observation. You might try different ways to hold your mouth in pics and get opinions. Or try a concealer to make it less prominent because of the coloring. The latter may not be something you are comfortable with and I would understand. Sometimes nature seems to play a terrible joke on us because many women would kill for a mouth like that

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To be absolutely honest I think I have an idea but not a good solution so I haven't said. Your mouth is a cupid bow-beautiful and desirable on a woman but I don't think I have seen many on men. When you purse it in pics sometimes it looks even more female to me.

I know we can train ourselves tpo hold our mouths differently but ot takes a great deal of effort and concentration. Can you grow a moustache at all? Or even find them tolerable. It seems just from the pics to be compounded by your coloring which makes your mouth more prominent. You look male except for that but it is such a pretty mouth people override that I think.

It's just my personal observation. You might try different ways to hold your mouth in pics and get opinions. Or try a concealer to make it less prominent because of the coloring. The latter may not be something you are comfortable with and I would understand. Sometimes nature seems to play a terrible joke on us because many women would kill for a mouth like that

Johnny

I can't grow much hair on my upper lip. It's very thin hair and not dense.

The thing is, my mouth (unless I'm completely wrong) isn't so incredibly female that it causes people to see me as female.

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I could be wrong-just a personal observation really. I'm also an artist and photographer-though never went pro-and it can cause me to focus on details.

Hope you find your solution. That is all I see. I can't tell about manner and attitude and that can be the most critical thing of all in my experience. So it's kind of like taking shots in the dark in a way. Personally what's going on in my head has more impact than everything else I have observed.

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I could be wrong-just a personal observation really. I'm also an artist and photographer-though never went pro-and it can cause me to focus on details.

Hope you find your solution. That is all I see. I can't tell about manner and attitude and that can be the most critical thing of all in my experience. So it's kind of like taking shots in the dark in a way. Personally what's going on in my head has more impact than everything else I have observed.

Johnny

I guess. It's just stressful because I've had days or nights where I'm fine and relaxed then get misgendered a bunch. I'm super clueless on what it is since I'm just doing what I can.

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I think I epically failed in this thread by my last post. Kieran, please accept my apologies for thinking you were MTF... oooops. Hearing your voice and hearing a male voice without questioning I confused myself.

You pass 100% by your voice. Even the snorts were natural and fluid in your speech. Personally, you have nothing to worry about regarding your voice.

From the first syllable, I heard a male speaking.

Brenda

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I think I epically failed in this thread by my last post. Kieran, please accept my apologies for thinking you were MTF... oooops. Hearing your voice and hearing a male voice without questioning I confused myself.

You pass 100% by your voice. Even the snorts were natural and fluid in your speech. Personally, you have nothing to worry about regarding your voice.

From the first syllable, I heard a male speaking.

Brenda

It's cool, just frustrating. I still don't pass fairly often despite being out and presenting for around 7 years, having facial hair, and a deep voice.

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