Has anyone given up on dilators?

[~Nova~]

And just used the adult versions? I'm tired of the dilators. If I'm gonna have to do this, can't I use a finger then a "toy".

I know the standard answer, ask your doctor. He has given me the OK for sex, so I'm thinking I'm good, right?

[Guest Pammy]

My ignorant opinion would be yes, go ahead. If you can accomodate a man, you should be able to handle the ersatz version.

The idea is to stretch the tissue and keep the plumbing clear and open.

If you can be comfortable doing so, so much the better.

But, what do I know? I haven't researched this nor am I likely to ever have the issue.

Love

Pam

[Drea]

Yes people have used adult toys instead, but this soon after surgery I would advise against it or at least consult your doctor.

The reason is that medical dialators have a non-permeable surfact that bacteria can't penetrate the surface. This is important for cleanliness being able to clean them. After surgery this is important.

The other factor is that toys tend to be larger diamater so that can be a problem. Also most toys have an uneven surface and this could add additional stresses on the tissues after surgery.

I don't know what point at which such are no longer concerns. I guess the point at which the doctor feels one could engage in intercourse would be a resonable indicator. Maybe you are at that point already. Personality I wouldn't push it too early.

[~Nova~]

The doctor has given me the OK to have sex, and although the Dilators do the job, I feel I might as well have some fun, or at least nake it more realistic than just surgical stretching. I'm past the size of the toy in dilator size already. The only issue is taper, which means I will still have to dilate until I'm a little more open at the deepest end.

Even though the dilators do the job, it's just that, a job.

[Guest Krisina]

The only issue is taper, which means I will still have to dilate until I'm a little more open at the deepest end.

Dialation is for life. From people I have talked to and what I have read.

Krisina

[Guest Jenni_S]

Dialation is for life. From people I have talked to and what I have read.

It is indeed. I haven't given up on my dilator, either (although that handy tie-up pouch thingy they came in IS getting a little ragged), after three years. Yes, it's a job, but I can sit back and do something else while it's going on, like read a book, or put some Netflix on with my iPad. (I'm currently going through "The Richard Van illegal word Show," (word filter edit) which is hilarious and wonderfully written, and when the show is over, 25 minutes! Perfect!) Nothing says you can't make the job as enjoyable as you can!

[~Nova~]

The only issue is taper, which means I will still have to dilate until I'm a little more open at the deepest end.

Dialation is for life. From people I have talked to and what I have read.

Krisina

I'm not giving up on dilating at all. By what I understand, I'm one of the few that can orgasm while dilating. I simpy want to replace the dilator with a more anatomically correct apparatus. Instead of the surgical hard plastic, something more aesthetically pleasing.

[Guest amanda_s]

way to much information LOL

Amanda

[Guest Leah1026]

The only issue is taper, which means I will still have to dilate until I'm a little more open at the deepest end.

Dialation is for life. From people I have talked to and what I have read.

Krisina

I'm not giving up on dilating at all. By what I understand, I'm one of the few that can orgasm while dilating. I simpy want to replace the dilator with a more anatomically correct apparatus. Instead of the surgical hard plastic, something more aesthetically pleasing.

Well dilators are hard for a reason, to ensure you are adequately dilated. A soft dildo might not do the job adequately. That said it you are more than a year out from surgery I don't see a problem with switching. It is during that first year that dilating properly is uber important.

[Guest Umsus]

Dilating is definitely unpleasant for most of us (especially at first when it was painful), and sometimes it's hard to find time to just lay there and dilate. I was told by, I think it may have been Dr. Menard or his wife, several months after SRS, that if you had regualar sexual relations, that would be good enough. I dilated for maybe ten years, though I wasn't as regular as I probably should have been. Then I got married, and decided to follow that advice. I still use a vibrator when he's away. I'm certain that my vagina is not as deep and wide as it was the day after my surgery, but it's good enough.

I've also known women who have stopped dilating altogether because intercourse no longer became part of their picture.

I hope this helps.