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[Guest Chrissy6455]

I really hope I'm posting this in the right place... however I have a little of a quandary right now. A good friend of mine has asked me to join his band, and has a show coming up 12/21 called the end of the world concert... Now i'm only in a partial transition if that, and I have come out to him, however I don't know the rest of the band or probably anyone at the show. how my issue is how I should actually present for this show....I really don't know and any ideas would be great.

Thank You

-Christina Tali

[Guest Izzybell]

I'm in a similar position. I've only come out to one member of the band I'm in, but I'm not really sure how to tell the others. I would say if you haven't met the rest of the band yet, get to know them a little and try to gauge how they might react. You can probably also talk to your friend in the band. They may be able to offer more advice. But don't be afraid to be yourself, amiga. That's what music is about. (And yeah, that's totally lame and corny, I know. XD) Best of luck!

-Isabella

[Guest Krisina]

I would talk to your friend about that, best thing to do. See how you are feeling after the chat, what vibes you are getting and perhaps a chat with the band members if need too.

Krisina

[Guest ~DeeDee~]

Practice makes perfect; one show live is better than a 100 practices.

[Cyndee]

It's about the music, be yourself, is my first reaction to your post. If it really is the end of the world as you are playing, you will go out doing exactly what you wanted to do, so you might as well be Christina. Performing arts are one of the most open minded activities really.

I am in several bands, I am transitioning, and various band members can see the obvious, Cindy's chops speak louder than her presentation however, so I don't worry about it, not a distraction. Transitioning actually makes me a better artist, far more versatile being myself.

Enjoy the gig and I'll see ya in 2013

Cindy -

[Guest]

Hi, I'm bi-gendered openly and I dress as my mood that fits. Sometimes it's male, most times it's female, it that doesn't fit I dress "Rock Star". That almost always generically fits. Oh I wish I could look like David Bowie on the cover of the Ziggy Stardust album. I'm not a skinny-mini so I have to work with what I have. There are many other great examples In the pop culture. Bootsy Collins is way over the top! I just think he is so cool and helped me to get brave enough to wear hot pink!

A few girl friends text me occasionally and tell me they heard "Rebel, Rebel" or Lou Reed "Take a Walk on the Wild Side" and they thought of me. So it is embedded in our rock culture. I smile and feel loved, even though I listen to Hard Rock Christian Alternative. Giggle. Jody

[Guest Chrysee]

I've yakked enough about how I caught a glimpse of my 'Inner Girlie' while in college. Too, I had been singing in a band and thought about Coming Out as an androgyne and going full time with the band.

Sweetie, it's show business. Show 'em who you are & what you've got (whatever level it's at!)

Trust me

Cissy