Advice please

[Guest Riain]

Hi all,

I'm new here and it was actually my wife that came across this website after some long conversations we recently had.

I've had some confusion over my gender for a long time now, before I met my wife I had been referred o a psychiatrist, he confirmed I had gender dysphoria and basically said that how far I went between being male and female was own to me and I left with an idea of experimenting and finding more out about my feminine side.

It didn't go much further than that as I not long after met my now wife, she knew about my gender confusion from the start, due to someone I thought I could trust trying to cause trouble by telling her about my gender, after which I tried to act more manly and forget about my female thoughts and feelings, this was mainly down to the affect of people breaking my trust and causing me to judge myself, despite all his my wife and I have never had any issues regarding my gender and she is accepting of it all, even paints my nails lol.

However something at my wife and I have noticed over the years is that I allways seem happy when I'm more in touch with my feminine side, by paintings nails, wearing womens pyjamas etc, when I'm in man mode as we call it, I seem more unhappy.

The thing is I don't want to completely change into a woman, I want to keep my penis, but I old prefer it if I had a more female shaped body, softer skin and less body hair, would hormones do this?, can you get put on hormones in the uk without wanting to completely change to female?.

I guess what I would be happy with is being able to swap between looking male or female depending on how I feel or if I'm at home or out, is anyone else like his?, what am I classed as? Transgendered?.

Sorry for all the questions.

Thanks

[Guest angels wings]

Hello Riain Welcome to Laura's

Every one is differnt . There is no wrong or right . Your psychiatrist can help you decide what is right for you. If hormones is the go then you will have to see an endo . They will do blood tests and then decide what is right for you. The pace you go at is your choice . My partner is on a low dose at the moment and her skin and body has changed . Some choose not to go on hormones and instead do other things eg grow hair , do eye brows , use moisturisers to soften skin . The list goes on . What ever you choose you have to feel comfortable with . Have a look around the differnt forums , there is Lot of great information. You can add a comment to any post or start a post of your own . We ask all or members to please read the terms and conditions . You can find these on the bottom right of any page . These rules are in place so you and all our members have a warm and safe place to come and share . There is also an introduction forum . If you like ou can introduce yourself there. This Llows other members to see you are new and welcome you also .

Looking forward to getting to know you

Angel

[Guest Roxxanne]

Hi!

I haven't started hormones yet, so I can't say for sure that everything I say is true, but I have researched a lot, so hopefully I can help you. :3

Transgender is an umbrella term for everything from cross dressers to transsexuals, so I would say that you're definitely transgendered.

Hormones will change your fat distribution, but only to any fat you get after HRT has started, so if you have any unwanted weight, you'll probably have to work that off to achieve a more feminine shape. Unfortunately, hormones don't really affect bodily hair, although they can reduce the hair on the chest. And you'll almost definitely get softer skin on hormones.

And you said that you're always happier when expressing your femininity, so you may just be a transsexual that just doesn't want SRS, which is quite common.

I'm not sure if you can get put on hormones if you don't want to be completely female, but I don't see why you shouldn't. And I've just found a story about somebody called Dawn on the NHS site, which can be found here: http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Transhealth/Pages/Transrealstorydawn.aspx

Good luck with whatever you choose to do!

(>^-^)>

Roxxy

[Guest Roxxanne]

Oh yeah, sorry about my previous post answering your questions in a weird order and all that... (^-^

[Guest MsGsptlsnz]

Welcome to the playground. Let me give you some cross dressing advice.

First off shave everything. Well, not the eybrows and scalp but get rid of the rest of it. Use a good exfoliating scrub in the shower every day for a week and then a couple times a week after that. Lotion everything. A good moisturizing formula is what you want. Mens skin gets dry and nasty and you will need to repair decades of damage. My routine goes something like this. Get in shower, exfoliate face, arms, chest and legs. Shave all those areas. Use a good moisturizing body wash over everywhere. Get out, dry off and lotion everything. Then have lotion available all day and keep using it. After a couple weeks your skin will be more feminine. Not as good as hormones but not bad.

Second start off simple. Get your measurments down and do some planning. I made foam hips and butt that slide in under various types of shapewear so I can have curves without surgery. They work pretty good actualy. Once you've got hips measured figure how large a cup you will need to make your bust the same as your hips. Then go shopping, at goodwill or salvation army. Get a nice outfit, don't go too slutty, and see how it feels on you. The worst that happens is you donate it back to goodwill. Get your significant other to help with makeup, get a good wig and see what happens. For short term breasts just fill ballons with water. They work ok, but be careful or else you will get wet. I speak from experience.

Give it a whirl and see how you like it. If it doesn't fit you, then you know something you didn't know before.

[Guest Riain]

Thanks to you all for your replys, Dawn's story was an interesting read, I'm going to go trough more of te forums and introduce myself.

Thanks again for taking the time to reply.

[Guest Riain]

I went to see my GP today, he didn't seem to think that I should be referred for hormones, despite me trying to explain how I feel both male and female, he seemed to think I should just stay Mae, but save my legs and other practical things to feel more female.

Not sure if any of it will help.