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Hi! I am Diana and I am new to the site. I have decided that I am no longer wanting to hide behind my man suit. I have told my wife and she is OK with it. I have contacted a gender therapist and will be counseling starting on Monday. I hope in 3 months or so I will be taking my first treatments. I have always felt and acted as a woman. At 5 years old I used to dress in woman's undies In my 20's I dressed in woman's clothes In my 30's and 40's I went all the way. Now I am looking forward to being the woman I have always been. Any tips I can get would be great. Please help. :lol:

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Guest Kelly Ann

Hello Diana...well for gosh sakes make it warm...and in layers this time of year up yonder! Ah...age appropriate...at 56 a schoolgirl outfit just wouldn't look right...but I've got great legs so slightly above the knee is ok for me, a little jelly belly (it GOES as a New Years Resolution) so I tend to stay away from clingy stuff other than niteys. I'll usually be a 36b or c as it fits my stature (6' or so) with forms, I stay away from heels...not that I don't like them but my ankles are still good and I'd like to keep them that way...flats are my friends, the more subtle the make-up the better...if you can barely tell it's there...and have to look REAL close...I did it right. Buy only quality things that you HAVE to HAVE, Kelly Ann

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Guest CamilaRose

Dianna,

Sounds like you're on the right track! Welcome to the community! Did anyone offer you hot cocoa yet? No? Well, this is a rare opportunity, let me be the first! Grab a big comfy chair and some cocoa (VIRTUAL, sorry :() and get ready. Hopefully before very long you'll be inundated with welcomes and offers of cocoa...:)

Hmmmm....suggestions....not sure what you'd need help with, you sound like you're pretty experienced ;)

Anyway, welcome, and feel free to pose any question you might have, the people here are EXTREMELY understanding and non-judgemental. We're all looking for support and a place to come where we can just be ourselves without fear of criticism or misunderstanding.

Cami

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Hello there, Dianna,

I see that Camila has offered you a chair and some cocoa, would you like some mini mrshmallows or some cookies?

We are friendly and I'm 57 and just starting my transition so remember what Kelly Ann said about age appropriate - but a lot of us older gals have still got pretty nice legs - so a little bit of a shorter skirt - don't get carried away!

I like heels, but at 6'4" anything over a couple of inches makes me have to duck at doorways! I still like what they do for my legs and the lift that it gives the behind (we are G rated here).

Love ya,

Sally

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Hi! I am Diana and I am new to the site. I have decided that I am no longer wanting to hide behind my man suit. I have told my wife and she is OK with it. I have contacted a gender therapist and will be counseling starting on Monday. I hope in 3 months or so I will be taking my first treatments. I have always felt and acted as a woman. At 5 years old I used to dress in woman's undies In my 20's I dressed in woman's clothes In my 30's and 40's I went all the way. Now I am looking forward to being the woman I have always been. Any tips I can get would be great. Please help. :lol:

Diana,

Sounds like we have the same type of background, and age. I finally decided after years of suppressing who I am to finally accept the facts. My therapist has also been extremely helpful in making me realize who I really am, and I am grateful to have found her. However, I haven't broken the news to my wife yet, for that is my biggest fear. If I may ask, how did you (or anyone else on this post) find the way to tell your wife-and what was the reaction? Hope this isn't too personal a question. Thanks in advance for the advice.

Love,

Gina G

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Guest Courtney Hamilton

Welcome, and it sounds like my story too. Mine started in Nov of this year. You should find alot in common with the people here. Welcome again hope to see you around the boards.

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Guest Donna Jean

Gina said:

Diana,

Sounds like we have the same type of background, and age. I finally decided after years of suppressing who I am to finally accept the facts. My therapist has also been extremely helpful in making me realize who I really am, and I am grateful to have found her. However, I haven't broken the news to my wife yet, for that is my biggest fear. If I may ask, how did you (or anyone else on this post) find the way to tell your wife-and what was the reaction? Hope this isn't too personal a question. Thanks in advance for the advice.

Well, sweetie...It was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life....I'm a Viet Nam veteran...that sucked...I have done hard things in my life, but, telling her was the HARDEST thing I've ever done. I was fully prepared to lose her..didn't want to..but, I just could not live with it anymore.

Revelation!!! She totally accepted me..!!!! These last months have been the happiest that I can remember. There is no formula for this..you roll the dice and you take your chances. Some lose all...some gain all. I've gained everything. I wish that I could tell you 1.-2.-3. do this and do that. It doesn't work like that. If you have a strong bond it can work. It will never be easy...

My wife and I will end up a couple weird old ladies growing flowers and I couldn't be happier.

If you are like me you will waste too much time being afraid and that only takes time off of the other end of your life where happiness counts. If it was meant to be..it will.

It is scary. I cried all day when I told her. But, she took me in her arms and soothed me.

I'm so sorry..if you want to be happy you must come out eventually..good or bad result..you need to move forward. You may wait a week or a month or years...if you want to be happy you must do it. Don't be the idiot that I was..your happiness is paramont.

Gina said:

However, I haven't broken the news to my wife yet, for that is my biggest fear. If I may ask, how did you (or anyone else on this post) find the way to tell your wife-and what was the reaction? Hope this isn't too personal a question. Thanks in advance for the advice.

No, sweetie, it's not too personal of a question. It's something everyone of us must do, sooner or later. But, take it from the voice of experience..sooner the better.

Gina, hope you take this as I meant it...just my view.

What ever you do...may the gods smile on you...

XXOO

Donna jean

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Ginag Donna Jean is spot on. Broke the news to my wife just about a month ago. It took determination. When I told her I was a C.D. she laughed and thought I was kidding her.

My exact words to her "Would you think less of me if I dressed in women's clothes?" That's when she laughed. Ihad to repeat it four or five times, before she realized I wasn't kidding. Angry and upset at first, you betcha, but by day#3 we ahd an open discusion and ended the conversation, with her now fammous comment. "Well honey you could use a bra, with that late age weight gain"...LOL Do It Ginag Don't wait especially if it is driving you crazy............ Mia.

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. If I may ask, how did you (or anyone else on this post) find the way to tell your wife-and what was the reaction? Hope this isn't too personal a question. Thanks in advance for the advice.

Gina G,

I don't know if it helps, but I'll tell my short story. My wife's brother said he was dressing up as a woman for halloween. and I said "Hey, if he does it so will I..." When I did, my wife did my makeup and I could finally, after all these years, see the woman inside. I mean really see her, not just feel it. I was so overwhelmed with gratitude that I slipped and said, "Honey, I might like to do this again...and then the whole story just poured out of me. I told her about my childhood, about my parents' rejection of my femininity, how I buried it, etc. Honestly, it was as much of a surprise to me to finally confess it all as it was for her to hear it. Do you know what she said, as I was sitting there trembling and wondering WHY I'd just screwed up a perfect relationship by bringing THAT up? She said, I love you no matter what! I was floored! This is not to say that our relationship is perfect, but she's accepted this side of me, and is doing her utmost to be understanding. What's more, she told her mother, and her mother picked my name! She said, "I love her, and if it makes her happy, great!"

The moral? I don't know your SO, but so far as I have seen, those that TRULY love you can REALLY surprise you. :D

Now, I haven't told my parents yet, but I suspect that if or when I do, they might not be so accepting (they're ultra-conservative), but who knows? They may have changed since I was 14...it's been a few years...like Dr. Seuss says:

"Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind"

Hugs,

Cami

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