Reversing FFS

[Guest Andrea_Heilotes]

Not that I'm planning on it, but I want to get an idea of whether or not its possible should I change my mind later in the future. I'm about 95% sure that I both need and want it to pass as a woman, I'm around 98% sure I made the correct decision to transition. But I feel like there is the possibility that I'll change my mind in the future. Not a strong possibility, but an existing possibility worth noting. So before I go through with signing up for FFS, I ought to know whether or not if I'm stuck once I do it.

Thoughts?

[Drea]

Im my opinion the changes from such surgery aren't so significant as to prevent someone who has had FFS from presenting as a guy.

[Guest JoannaSydney]

I agree with meganif your not dead certain than i think its a bad idea.My grandmother said to me "when in doubt dont" never fails me

[Guest Leah1026]

I'm about 95% sure that I both need and want it to pass as a woman, I'm around 98% sure I made the correct decision to transition. But I feel like there is the possibility that I'll change my mind in the future. Not a strong possibility, but an existing possibility worth noting. So before I go through with signing up for FFS, I ought to know whether or not if I'm stuck once I do it.

:Broken record mode:

"Passing" is a flawed concept that continues the cycle of living for others. The only person you should have surgery for is yourself! Either do it for you or don't do it at all. And if you are less than 100% sure about transitioning I would recommend not having surgery.

[VickySGV]

I had a fifteen minute consultation with a plastic surgeon last week at a TG convention. The decision was that all I would really benefit from was going to be stuff that elderly cis women would be doing at my age. Oh sure, my nose is a bit bigger, but my make up had that covered (literally too) but even my adams apple was age appropriate for a woman my age. Almost tragic, but sure not expensive. Some other things could have been done, but it would have been my call for the experience of just doing it.

Leah hit it on the nose-job by saying that passing is our attempt to live up to someone elses expectations. Some of my features are mildly native american as far as cheek bones and brow ridge go, but as bad as 1880's photography was, my great great grandma was very attractive with those features. FFS will neither make you or break you for transitioning, so since you have doubts, don't do it.

[Guest Sentience]

I feel out of step here. 100% sure!? Sorry but I disagree. if I didn't do something till I was 100% certain I doubt if I would do anything. I read loads about having my hairline remodelled to look feminine. I was quite clearly told that if I changed my mind then tough. I would look feminine for ever whether I liked it or not. Was I absolutely sure? Hell no. Probably 75% at most (which is an A pass by the way). Anyway I just plunged in and got it done. Last week when I casually pulled my hair back in front of a class every pupil stopped and stared. I wondered what was going on. Was my zip down or something? Then one said, "You look just like a woman when you do that". Next was my nose. The surgeon was told quite simply to make it more feminine (there are limits unfortunately beyond a certain age). yet again I though, my god, once that gas mask is put over my face that's it! Yet more irriversible girlification. Anyway down came the mask on my doubt fillled head. By the time I got my eyes done I was getting used to self doubt. Now I look very different from 2 years ago and my only regret is that I don't look more feminine.

Hopefully I will soon be given the option of hormones which I hope will make me yet more feminine and deliver more irrevirible change. Do I have self doubt? Place your bets now fembuddies.

[Guest Leah1026]

I feel out of step here. 100% sure!? Sorry but I disagree. if I didn't do something till I was 100% certain I doubt if I would do anything. I read loads about having my hairline remodelled to look feminine. I was quite clearly told that if I changed my mind then tough. I would look feminine for ever whether I liked it or not. Was I absolutely sure? Hell no. Probably 75% at most (which is an A pass by the way). Anyway I just plunged in and got it done. Last week when I casually pulled my hair back in front of a class every pupil stopped and stared. I wondered what was going on. Was my zip down or something? Then one said, "You look just like a woman when you do that". Next was my nose. The surgeon was told quite simply to make it more feminine (there are limits unfortunately beyond a certain age). yet again I though, my god, once that gas mask is put over my face that's it! Yet more irriversible girlification. Anyway down came the mask on my doubt fillled head. By the time I got my eyes done I was getting used to self doubt. Now I look very different from 2 years ago and my only regret is that I don't look more feminine.

Hopefully I will soon be given the option of hormones which I hope will make me yet more feminine and deliver more irrevirible change. Do I have self doubt? Place your bets now fembuddies.

There is a difference between pre-op jitters like you describe and what the original poster said about transition:

"But I feel like there is the possibility that I'll change my mind in the future."

I never felt that way. I can't imagine anyone seriously considering FFS unless they KNOW they are going to transition and transition for good. IMO transition isn't something you try on like a piece of clothing. Either you do it because you must or you don't.

[Guest Sentience]

^Sorry to perhaps have misplaced emphasis. I doubted day and night, at work and in play. Seriously for months and months. The point was though, I was at least 75% sure that the status quo was not an option. Everything in life involves risk. That's just the way it is. That is how we evolved.