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Woman Ordered to Leave College Locker Room


Carolyn Marie

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I guess I struggle a little bit. Just because we have a right to do something doesn't always mean we should. I'm not saying that we separate or deny ourselves, but that we show a little sensitivity to people that interact with us. This woman didn't do anything wrong however, sharing the locker room with teenage girls will strike a chord with most parents. Their role is to protect their children and having someone they don't understand sharing facilities with their kids will always have this result.

It sounds like everyone learned something.

Addi

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Sounds like a "prissy missy" highschooler was showing off. The college seems to be cool, but maybe the campus police need to be better informed about the college policies. Also, mom of highschool needs to be given a waiver to sign before "miss priss" goes on to the college campus. The waiver will state the gender diversity is a fact that missy can deal with or stay home. Which is more important??

A funny one happened at Cal State L.A. when I was going there. State universities could sell beer and wine on campus legally even that long ago. A group of high schoolers, well under age, saw a couple of students (old enough) drinking in the Student Union pub garden, and one of them ran to a phone and on momma's orders called the police to report drinking on a school campus. The police actually got on to the CSULA campus before they realized where the high schooler with the dirty mind was calling from, the pay phone did not have the main campus address on it and it was on a named public street.

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She wasn't officially ordered to leave anything. Someone who didn't work for the college told her to go. From what I could find the school backed her and said if anyone has a problem they can use a different room. The swim team(s) went that route.

What law should be enforced?

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Jodie, I agree the comments were the news. Those are the truly sick individuals. No amount of education or equality will make any difference for them. Bigots to the bone. I don't ask them to cut off their head to be considered human. Sigh. Jody

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the article was written with the usual lack o skill yu see these days..but it sounds like they had an issue and resolved it.

i dont even have a problem with the person walked in, and there were kids that wanted to go there, but there was this (male) person there, so someone, (and it wasnt an official) asked her to leave..not knowing anyhting else about the situation. but that some kids wanted to go there, and this adult person was there.. i can see where it would be an uncomfortable situation...

sounds like they resolved it by using different locker rooms. alot of the thing is, that there were minor children who lease the facility as a group. theres all sort of rules and things for schools when they have adult students and children there as well, and its always in favor of the children's interests of course, they do background checks on the adults, for example, and have to pass a clearance. (i went to a trade school that had both kids and adults in the same classes, and it was like that then)

Frankly, i think if it was a hot tub or suana situation, they shoukd have a thing on the door to say, its being used by someone privately, or not..that was no one just walks in on another. some people do tha in groups but some only do it by themself.

if i were in a similar situation, id prefer to be by myself, since i dont want people looking at me like that..

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Olympia and Evergreen state college tend to lean toward the progressive.

Glad they could resolve this using a little common sense. This sounds like it could have been worse.

I am glad we have a state law here in WA that provides for equal access, I agree with Addi a little sensitivity to each situation, and to be low key not a bad idea.

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This should have been a golden opportunity to educate the high school kids, not embarrass a trans woman unnecessarily.

That said, I've stopped using the gendered facilities at the municipal pool where I take my kids. This is because I started getting looks in the women's room, I don't want to make others feel uncomfortable, I'm not comfortable going into the men's yet, and there is a gender neutral family changing room available. However, if I was there to use the sauna and only gendered saunas were available, I'd be furious if someone told me to leave the one that matched my legal gender.

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