Will I look pretty?

[Guest Alex_Di]

A completely vanity question, but will I look pretty once I'm transitioned?

I must remind you that I'm set on losing a lot of weight before going for HRT.

I've lost more than 10 kilos since this summer already and I just keep on losing

weight, because I barely eat.

Without further ado, here are the pics of my current form.

This one's a bit blurry, since the lens doesn't have auto-focus, so it's hard to focus without

looking into the eye of the camera.

Pics with less blur.

[VickySGV]

The pictures are not coming up, they work best if linked from a picture hosting site, or you can put them in your gallery which you can access through your profle which you can do now that you have more than 5 posts. The advantage to using your gallery is that non members cannot see them.

[Guest LaurenJ]

Yah, try uploading them to www.tinypic.com and then pasting the link here. That should work relatively easily.

[Guest KarenLyn]

Right click the link and select open image in new tab will show the image.

I don't see anything that will stop you from becoming a beautiful young woman.

Karen

[Guest Alex_Di]

The pictures are not coming up, they work best if linked from a picture hosting site, or you can put them in your gallery which you can access through your profle which you can do now that you have more than 5 posts. The advantage to using your gallery is that non members cannot see them.

Strange, I can see them alright using Opera. I used html tags and the absolute urls. What browser are you using?

P.S.: I'll add them to my album too.

[Guest]

The pictures are not coming up, they work best if linked from a picture hosting site, or you can put them in your gallery which you can access through your profle which you can do now that you have more than 5 posts. The advantage to using your gallery is that non members cannot see them.

Strange, I can see them alright using Opera. I used html tags and the absolute urls. What browser are you using?

P.S.: I'll add them to my album too.

Hi Alex_Di,

If you have the pictures in a private album, then other users won't have the privileges to view the pictures even though you can. Perhaps you need to change the privacy settings on your image-hosting site.

Love, Megan

[Guest Alex_Di]

Right click the link and select open image in new tab will show the image.

I don't see anything that will stop you from becoming a beautiful young woman.

Karen

Thank you!

[Kyla666]

Asking someone if your going to be pretty after HRT is like asking someone what food will i have on the 23erd of May in 2016.... There is no way to say..

Each person has there own views on whats cute/pretty. And HRT does not work the same for everyone.

You could turn out to be One Hot momma or ....Sadly you could be, Well... Not a hot momma. But none of that even matters "With in reason" What does matter is your self worth and outlook on who you are and how you feel.

[Guest MsPerseveres]

I would love to be pretty... but I'll accept, very happily, being within female norms :-). I think each of us wants to look good, to ourselves and to others, and we, as trans persons, have a self-image that we hope can be realized through our transition. At the end of the day, we each have to come to terms with who we are, and how we look - for me, acceptance as a woman is the key, and anything better than that is a blessing.

That said, you have regular features, with no glaring issues like a third eye in the middle of your forehead or a bulbous wart on the left side of your chin - I think you'll be fine :-).

Love and hugs, Tami

[Guest Alex_Di]

Well, if you judge by how hormones will affect you I think I should be fine. I have a very androgynous figure as it is, so hormones should bring that inner woman out all right!

I might be kidding myself through wishful thinking though.

[Guest MsGsptlsnz]

Pretty is an individual perception. I think we will always be more critical of ourselves than others will. Also you need to be judging yourself in the right category. I'm 40 something. I'm never going to pull of a look that a 21 year old woman can do. So I shouldn't compare myself to them. Doing so just makes me feel old and fat. I make a point of looking at women my age and making a mental comparison to them. That helps me feel better about myself. Give it a try. It may help you feel better about where you are going.

[Guest Alex_Di]

Pretty is an individual perception. I think we will always be more critical of ourselves than others will. Also you need to be judging yourself in the right category. I'm 40 something. I'm never going to pull of a look that a 21 year old woman can do. So I shouldn't compare myself to them. Doing so just makes me feel old and fat. I make a point of looking at women my age and making a mental comparison to them. That helps me feel better about myself. Give it a try. It may help you feel better about where you are going.

I'm actually into older women myself, 30 plus (bi, duh).

Nia Peeples is 52 years old and still looks as hot as a volcano! So age is definitely not a deciding factor.

I do get your point however. Vanity shouldn't be integrated into my calculations that much. On subjectivity: I actually hate how models look, they all look the same. I guess I just want something special (not terrifyingly special though) from others and myself. A good example would be Lindsey Stirling, the violin girl.

[Guest MsGsptlsnz]

There are exceptions to every rule. But be honest, if you see a 45 year old woman in a miniskirt and go go boots with a real tight top don't you want to call in the fashion police and have them ticket her? Even if she's got everything in all the right places it's just not a look that a mature woman looks good in. It's her right to wear it if she wants but there is something to be said for the concept of age appropriate.

Now that's not to say I don't have that outfit in the closet... Or at least most of it. That's just saying I know not to go out of the house in it.

[Guest LaurenJ]

Posted my thoughts on a pic in your gallery, rather than here.

[Guest Julie_Mason]

I would love to be pretty... but I'll accept, very happily, being within female norms :-). I think each of us wants to look good, to ourselves and to others, and we, as trans persons, have a self-image that we hope can be realized through our transition. At the end of the day, we each have to come to terms with who we are, and how we look - for me, acceptance as a woman is the key, and anything better than that is a blessing.

Id have to agree, whole-heartedly with this statement.

Take my pictures for instance... What do you notice about every picture of me?... Give up?... Im wearing a wig. This is because I have a slightly receding hair-line and Its likely to stay that way, no matter how long my natural hair gets (Im currently trying to grow it out). Sure, I might be able to somewhat mitigate the look of recession with the right haircut once my hair grows long enough, but ultimately at the end of the day, I have to accept that I dont have the hair-line of most ciswomen (besides...My wearing of wigs furnishes me the opportunity to change my hair everyday if I want... I know many ciswomen who would love this ability ) and although I have my (few and far between) moments when I feel as though I pass (physically that is... everything else, voice/manurisms/nuances/etc Ive luckily always had "down-pat" naturally) while Im out enfem, I made a decision a long time ago that Id rather be an ugly woman, than stay as a pretend man any longer (Likewise, Im pre-HRT also, so maybe hormones will have a positive effect on my looks as well. One never knows....).

I know in my heart, with every fiber of my being, who and what I am, and nothing anyone (including myself) thinks about the way I look on the outside will change this knowledge. Of course Id love to eventually pass completely and blend in physically with ciswomen, but even if that never happens, I still know that Im me (instead of some abstract male-facade that I used to pretend to be ).

[Guest LizMarie]

Julie, Julie, Julie!!

If all you have is a receding hairline and no other major hair loss, then HRT and eventually SRS will put a permanent halt to that. And that's when you go check out hair restoration surgeons and find a good one (because you're looking for an artist not some flesh hacker) and do a very small hair transplant to bring the frontal hairline forward. Then you're done! Feminine hairline!

Here is

. I'm not advocating that particular surgeon, just saying that it is possible to do! Especially if you are young and have most of your hair intact.

Me? I'm massively bald on top though the middle third is growing back pretty well after 6 months of Propecia and Minoxidil. And I really believe that one month of estrogen is helping it too. My own goal is to get a normal density in the top 1/3rd (entire top was basically bald) then go for hair transplants on the back crown area and the front. I'll even settle for a higher than typical female hairline. I've seen plenty of those and I can style around it. And in the meanwhile I wear wigs. And if it never grows back I still will wear wigs.

But you are actually well placed to consider hair restoration surgery if you want it.

[Guest Alex_Di]

I've heard it somewhere that males tend to become bald due to testosterone and how it affects the skin.

It's supposed to make the skin too tight, the hair's growing strength is thus lesser than skin's resistance impeding its growth.

Is that true? If so, I guess many trans-women can breathe easily, since "baldness" is a temporary

problem then. Unless the roots die out that is. Do they?

Take me and my brother for instance. He's got plenty of bodily hair, whilst I have very little to none.

He's three years younger than me and yet he's starting to bold quite noticeably. Me, still the same amount

of hair as before (checked my 6 years before pics).

It's actually funny how slow a beard on my face grows. The other day I was chatting with a colleague and

"congratulated" him on quite impressive facial hair. He told me that it grows to these lengths in three days.

Mine takes three weeks to grow to those extents and the hairs are actually very sparse.

Oh, yeah, he's younger than me as well by the way.

[Guest Julie_Mason]

Julie, Julie, Julie!!

If all you have is a receding hairline and no other major hair loss, then HRT and eventually SRS will put a permanent halt to that. And that's when you go check out hair restoration surgeons and find a good one (because you're looking for an artist not some flesh hacker) and do a very small hair transplant to bring the frontal hairline forward. Then you're done! Feminine hairline!

Here is

. I'm not advocating that particular surgeon, just saying that it is possible to do! Especially if you are young and have most of your hair intact....

...But you are actually well placed to consider hair restoration surgery if you want it.

Let me attept to clairify without jacking this thread...

My recession is very close to Type II on The Hamilton/Norwood Scale so even though it causes me to feel quite uncomfortable and self-concience, in my opinion its not a major enough impediment to my transition to warrant me to spend already "slim" monies on a procedure (like my want for FFS) that will give me results that will ultimately just be superficial. Im not a model (not by a longshot) and what little finances I procure are currently being allocated to the other more important aspects of my transition. This is not to say that eventually (far down the road) I wont consider the procedures, its just that for now I can be happy with myself, merely by the use of wigs/hair-extensions until my natural hair is long enough.

I've heard it somewhere that males tend to become bald due to testosterone and how it affects the skin.

It's supposed to make the skin too tight, the hair's growing strength is thus lesser than skin's resistance impeding its growth.

Is that true? If so, I guess many trans-women can breathe easily, since "baldness" is a temporary

problem then. Unless the roots die out that is. Do they?...

...It's actually funny how slow a beard on my face grows. The other day I was chatting with a colleague and

"congratulated" him on quite impressive facial hair. He told me that it grows to these lengths in three days.

Mine takes three weeks to grow to those extents and the hairs are actually very sparse(*).

Oh, yeah, he's younger than me as well by the way.

These are some of the postulated reasons for MPB (Male Pattern Baldness).

(*) You are quite lucky in this regard, as this too, is something I (as well as many other MTFs) will have to deal with as soon as I get the money needed for laser/electro. I have to shave every 12-16 hours in order to not have my shadow showing (even through cover-up makeup) which causes endless grief to me and quite often brings me to tears.

-Julie M.<3

[Guest Alex_Di]

...

I didn't know baldness was such an extensive topic. Live and learn, I guess. That's what wiki's for.

Don't get upset, Julie. It'll go away some day.

[Guest MsGsptlsnz]

I didn't know baldness was such an extensive topic.

As Warren Zevon says in "Mr Bad Example"

Of couse I went to law school and took a law degree, and counciled all my clients to plead insanity. Then worked in hair replacement, swindiling the bald. Where very few are chosen, and fewer still are caught.Then on to Monte Carlo to play chemin de fer I threw away the fortune I made transplanting hair.