What if CD is turning my SO off?

[Guest Tesa]

Hi so last weekend i under-dressed all weekend with my girlfriends support and all was good tell it came time for some messin around she seemed turned off. She said it might not be the pantie but maybe it is.

So if it is indeed my CD'in turnin her off is that something she can grow to be atleast not turned off or at most turned on by? Or if its a turn off to start its a turn off forever?

Thank you all for the support,

Tesa

[Guest]

I think an SO would need to answer this one.

Huggs,

Joann

[Guest Robin Winter]

I think YOUR SO would need to answer this one. Everyone is different.

[Guest angels wings]

Hello Tesa

At first it is very confusing and feels like someone is stabbing your heart when you see your partner in girl underwear . The mind is used to the image of the strong man , when we see our partners dressed different from what we were used to seeing its a shock it does push us back . But that does not mean its a turn off . It's our minds trying to adjust , our heart trying to understand . Give her time ask her what she feels comfortable with . Let her have some input. Slowly she will hopefully adapt and be able to enjoy the real you. It can happen just takes time .

Angel

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Sexuality is as individual as favorite food. Your partner's sexuality has nothing to do with your crossdressing.

If you feel that she is turned off by your crossdressing then you are at a crossroad.

What is more important to you?.....

Only you can answer that question.

Brenda

[Guest]

Maybe just maybe, start the next time with flowers if she likes them? Candles and some girl talk, get it started and then do the listening without try to fix anything. Something like a slumber party of sorts. Share simple things that you both like, Strawberries and whip cream can be fun. Lotions of her favorite scent might be nice too. just don't get it on the Strawberries. Giggle. If it leads to something sexual so much the better, if not it may show her that you care enough about her to let her come around in her own time and way. Again I may not know a thing... Hug. Jody

PS--- OK, that may be a completely biased opinion. I got the idea by what I would like, sitting here eating my strawberries. I'm out of whipped cream though. JT

[Guest Tesa]

Wow thank you very much angel your insite has really calmed my paniced mind (>")> hugs!

i also love the idea of a simply slumber party type night jody. it might help her ask question more openly

^^ i do enjoy this community its so perfectly supportive/informitive

Thank you all,

Tesa

[Guest KatyDesire]

Remember that gender typing/prejudices are drilled into us from infancy. Seeing someone in unusual attire is often manageable, while getting intimate may trigger all sorts of deeply-embedded taboos.

Give her time. Let her slowly get used to it. Many women are OK when their TG hubby dresses, but are freaked out with feminine nightwear, or feminine attire when getting intimate.

Just take it slow, girl. Rome wasn't built in one day!

Hugs.

Katy

[Guest angels wings]

Your welcome Tesa just remember take it slow and communicate . Wishing you all the best

Angel

[Simon/Sarah]

JodyAnn is on the money! When I'm in man mode and my wife and I are messing around in the bedroom I go straight for the er...umm you know, the target and the whole show is over as quick as it started, no fore play or anything and then i'm asleep. When I'm in my female persona I really put a lot more effort into her, I get her talking and while I listen to her ramble on about whatever it is she feels the need to talk about I then start of behind her where she can't see what i'm wearing and I give her an awesome back rub. By the time she's finished rambling on about whatever it was that was on her mind she's usually in the mood and keen for some action and at that point she couldn't care less what i'm wearing as the clothes are usually getting ripped of at that point!

Good luck