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Hi Everyone,

I'd really like to introduce myself, but to be honest, I'm not even sure who I am yet. :)

What I do know is that I'm finally dealing with some things that I should have dealt with a long, long time ago. And that I'm nervous, and excited and beyond terrified.

Mar

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Hello Mar,

Welcome to Laura's Playground. There's no need to be afraid around us. You're among friends here. Feel free to ask questions. We'll try to provide answers. :)

MaryEllen

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Guest angels wings

Hello Mar , welcome to Laura's :) relax sunshine and enjoy . Just be you . We are all travelling similar journeys. You will meet many others who you will be able to relate to. There are many forums with lots of great info . When your ready you can add a comment to any topic or start a topic of your own. We ask all our members to please read the terms and conditions,you can find these on the bottom right of any page. We also have chat available , you will need a different registeration for this . Looking forward to getting to know you :)

Angel :)

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Welcome to the Playground, hon. Don't worry about feeling scared and anxious. We all were at some point. There is a lot to learn about all of this, and this is a great place to learn in. Feel free to ask any questions, and we'll try to answer as honestly as we can.

Look around the forums, read all that interests you, and we will be here to help.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Welcome to LP Mar.

There is a lot of information and a lot of friendly people here.

Being nervous, excited and terrified is all about being human.

Life is a journey take it one step at a time.

Huggs,

Joann

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Guest Ney'ite

Welcome to Laura's, Mar. :)

As others have said, the feelings your are experiencing probably most have felt at one point or another, and more than once. Laura's is judgement-free place, so there is no need to worry here. :)

Enjoy your stay!

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Guest DanaMarie

Hey there Mar,

A very wise friend of mine once told me:

I AM ME ... plain and simple, who I am will come so long as I continue to be ME

strive to find the happiness in your life and you'll never go wrong :)

You'll find yourself, you will ... the fact that you're aware of things you need to deal with is such a HUGE and important first step :)

I say welcome to you here, even though I am new too :)

<3

Dana

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Guest Mar2012

Thanks all for your kind words, not sure really what to say. I've always been such a shy introvert, even posting anonymously on forums is nerve wracking :)

I wish there'd been a place like this when I was young, maybe things would have turned out different. Though, if I'd had actual wishes when I was young,...lord only knows what mischeif I might have gotten myself into...

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Hello Mar

Welcome to the Playground. It's quite natural to be shy and nervous. This has probably been at the edge of your life for quite a while and is both exciting and frightening at the same time when you begin looking at it straight on. Most of us have been right where you are now, truth be told.

Take your time. There is no hurry. You are in a place where we won't put pressure on you to be anything other than what you want to be. Laura's is as safe as we can make it for our members. Our site is moderated to protect our members privacy and allow people like you who are questioning to have as much time as you need without being pushed in a direction you feel uncomfortable with.

If you have questions, there are a great many members who were not that long ago searching and exploring. They understand and respect your feelings and understand how you are feeling right now. Laura's Playground is a good place for someone who feels that they possibly have gender issues and questions. It's a pretty safe place to find answers and to be supported and treated respectfully.

The world out there isn't always kind or understanding. That is why this world has been created to offer a place that filters out the meanest of the world and provide a place where we can help each other. Btw Mar, I'm KathrynJulia and if I can help, you will find me always available. So I hope you come to trust and enjoy your time that you spend in the Playground.

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Guest miss kindheart

Hi Mar,

<<< hug >>>

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.

The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.

Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.

One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules. :)

We all look forward to seeing you.

:wub: vanna

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