anyone else feel like they will never meet another trans person in everyday life

[Guest carolinagirl]

i know there are other trans women and trans men in the state but i have never met anyone else. one reason being my family has met and seen trans women [ even in the town i live in ] but the only other trans people i have ever met are online. why do i feel this way?

Edited December 13, 2012 by JJ
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[Guest Salicone]

Yeah... I've seen a lot of transpeople, but I've yet to meet one

[Guest Megan_Lynn]

While I have seen others in real life . There is no way I would ever approach one as that would be about as mean as outing one in my opinion. Except for online I have yet to speak face to face with another transwomen ever. This does make me feel very alone in all this for sure.

[Guest Melissa~]

I have to say there are some TG people right here in the heart of Todd Akin country (of which I'm one.) I'm not going to start a public conversations though, that's why one goes to meetings and organizations.

[Guest Melissa~]

As it turns out the first TS woman I ever talked to is a forum moderator ( see my thread on my visit to the ST Louis gender foundation, me and Kathryn went together.) In fairness I have talked to other TG people before, but not TS(that I have read), and of course the subject was ordinary, not TG related, I think there was a cashier not too long ago.

In the current Lush Times (a soap sales catalog) there are TG people(Nicole Pg 44, sumer 2012 issue), listed as staff at Lush. I am a customer there, go figure. Nicole is very cute, but has tells, I really want her hair!

[Guest]

Megan? Do they date? I will be there shortly... I'M JUST KIDDING! MaryEllen is gonna grab her ruler and crack me on the knuckles for this one. Plez, I'm just playing...

There is an abundance of trans people in my area too. I found many more when I started going to support groups too. I was only alone until I stepped out the door full time. I think that is why for the most part, my whole community is relatively accepting. That is good for us. Stealth's that I can clock, but never out, steer very clear of me and I understand why. I'm glad that I don't have to do that. I want to be trans-parent. To each their own and God bless them all. Ever buy a new car and suddenly there are hundreds more like it that you see on the road???

BTW, I was bored and reading stuff on the wall today and looking at the fair labor law poster, I noticed we are in there too. Way cool!

I hope some of my stuff people can take with a grain of salt. Hug ya all. Jody

[Guest StaciAnne]

It's a scary thing but in order to meet another Trans person you have to be vulnerable and put yourself out there. Most won't come to you, you have to initiate contact. its awkward yes but it's worth it.

[Cyndee]

But, in daily life these days, I seem to be tripping over T-girls - they're everywhere!

What Meg says is certainly true, visibility is not an issue around these parts. One drive into Seattle I saw 4 transwomen in just a few miles of driving on a sunny day. I sometimes ask myself, are my perceptions better tuned, or has visibility increased, or both ?

You will meet someone when the circumstances permit, agree with others support meetings are safe and open places for meeting others of like mind. It's certainly awkward to engage someone that appears gender variant on the street at random just for their apperance, I would not do it myself. I have been approached and engaged by people I don't know for what seemed like the oddest reasons, in hindsight these people just want to talk to you, to hear your voice. I try to always smile and be friendly, and then I leave scratching my head, what was that all about ??

Cindy -

[gennee]

I see transgender people almost every day.

[Guest Valerie]

I live i Hawaii and I have seen a lot of different girls, even a few guys.

I am currently in Texas, taking care of my mother after her surgery. I have seen three girls here in my home town in the last month. I am not talking about going to clubs or anything like that, just everyday running around and shopping.\\

I do not approach nor do I talk to any girl or guy I see while out in public. If we notice each other, I just smile and nod my head at them. Kinda like wishing them good luck.

In the support group I am part of in Hawaii, we have close to 50 members. We meet the first Tuesday of each month at our GT's house. This is the only time that I talk to the girls or the few guys we have. Will, except for my bff that works at a resturant that I go to alot.

/Love

Valerie

[Guest Deenah]

more and more each day i seem to be noticing,but there are times that i really am not even sure.So to approach someone could be very bad for each of you. I keep my distance and if someone wants to talk to me have at it.

[Guest Edina]

I see trans people!

[Guest Asuri]

I`m lucky at my faculty there are two other trans-people. One genderqueer heterosexual and a FtM.

It is wonderful, that there are some other trans/queer/ non-stereotypes around me. In my opinion there is an invisible connection between us.

Yesterday I had a great encounter. I have met a(n) (unfamiliar) MtF in a public women's bathroom and we looked at each other and smiled. Just smiled at each other.

[Guest faint111]

I met my first other transguys on a fluke at school. I'd seen them before, but them being new to the school, I hadn't talked to them. I made unexpected friends with his girlfriend on a trip, and am now best friends with her, her trans boyfriend, their other transguy friend and his genderqueer partner. I honestly don't know what I'd do without them now, and we talk about everything, and get advice from each other. They've been a vital part in my transition, and it's great to have transbrothers you can see everyday that are experiencing the same thing as you instead of just online.

[Guest Kai Reddtail]

I feel like I'll never find one. This forum has been a great help, just having others to talk to, but what I wouldn't give to meet just one trans person outside the internet. I have seen people who make me suspect, but how do I know I'm right? And even if I am, I cannot possibly think of any polite way to make contact. Wouldn't I just make them feel like they aren't blending in?

We don't have any groups in my town, and I don't have the ability to start one.

For one: I'm still in the closet. For two: I don't have sufficient leadership ability.

[Kyla666]

In the past 2 years of working at Wal-Mart i have seen about 3 Trans people "That i know of" But still to this day i have never Met a transgender person.

[Guest Kai Reddtail]

I would like to say that, as of today, I found another transman in the area. I got meet him and spend a couple hours today. Hopefully, we'll be able to hang out more. If I can find one in my piddly little town, you can find one.

[VickySGV]

To meet other Trans Folk, go where they go, I posted this link in another topic a few minutes ago. There is nothing like a convention to find out you are no where near alonge. The travel to them is fun too, Some have scholarships for at least the convention fee. http://www.transcentralpa.org/resources_conferences.htm

[Kyla666]

I seen a Transgender person just the other day... Sadly you can't just walk up to the person and be like.... Hay!! Transgender Sister!!! ....

And the only places around here that does TG things and groups are a 2 hour drive... My car is a ..... and can't go anywhere that takes 2 hours lol

Indianapolis Had a group called Indygirlz BUT that has not been around in years... I think last time they did anything was back in 2009 Right after i started looking for help online

O well... i am fine now being the only Trans person i know in Indiana

[Guest JeepGirl90]

I've met a few via my support group, but as of outside the support group, trans folk seem like baby pigeons... you know they exist but you never see them

[Sakura]

if you live any were around the bloomington area kyla. there used to be a meeting there , but it has been well over 6 years since i have been to it, not sure if it is there anylonger.

well they do still have thier web site up http://home.insightbb.com/~bloomingtontg/index_files/BTG_Meeting.htm. not sure wich part of the state you are in though.

Sakura

[Sakura]

I on the other hand seem to bump into one almost every time i am out . victoria secret, my tanning salon, walmart , hell even at my job . there was one several months back . an ftm now works there , and i am not sure but i have my suspicions our safty supervisor is as well. the signs are there , she is prety but has obviously had a ton of plastic surgery , broad shoulders narrow wasit , very large hands and feet compared to her petite build and her voice...... while it is not manly by any stretch of the imagination , something is just not quite right about it either , even my hubby has noticed her offness

of course i would never openly try and talk to them. it would just be rude of me. and i am not about to out my self for any one . but it does do my heart good to see them out there doing it

Sakura

[Guest midnyteTX]

I have met a few trans girls here in the area that I live especially when I'm going out to like the bar or clubs and stuff, and generally end of talking to them and have made quite a few new friends that way.

[Kyla666]

Well there Email does not work anymore, And from the looks of it, they don't meet anymore.. This is why i feel like the only Transgender Indiana, Every place to gone or not meeting anymore, Unless your under 24 at IU GLBT