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I've been trying to come out to my Aunt since her wedding 2 years ago. I finally did, but I didn't have the courage to do it face to face, so I sent her an e-mail. The thing is, she's a lesbian and her wife is not only a Doctor of psychology, but she also specialized in gender studies. Even so, I'm still terrified. I care more about what they think of me than I do most other people. They're some of my favorite people in the world. I'm sitting here holding back tears because I'm so afraid she just won't be able to accept it, and I'm not sure why I'm so scared. I think I'm just worried she won't understand and that her wife won't really be able to help her understand, I don't know. I spoke to her on the phone tonight too, and they wanted to take us all out for dinner next week, but now I don't know how things will be.

I'm sorry, I've just been stewing over this for 2 years, so I'm really stressed about it now, and I think she probably doesn't check her e-mail very often so I'm probably going to have to worry about it for ages. *sigh*

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Sometimes the things we worry the most about turn out to be not such a big deal after all. I'm sure your aunt has a great love for you and I doubt that your revelation to her will cause her to love you any less. In fact, she might love you all the more. Think positive. :)

MaryEllen

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Guest Jenny C

Oh my dear !!! It's so cute... I already imagine the joy of how you will feel welcome... I think that it will be a great moment in your life.

But I totally can relate to such feelings of fear of being rejected...

That wouldn't be logical... Hey, they must be totally special and unique with how you described them.

I'll be with you at distance, wanting to be a little beird to see the scene. And as others will be waiting for your sharing of this precisous moment.

Love,

Jenny

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The things we want most are also what we most fear losing. it was that way before I came out to my son. I could not bear the thought of losing his love and respect. But it turned out better than I ever imagined. I believe it will be so for you, too, Shilo. Have faith.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest otter-girl

Phone her up and say... did you get my email.? If she lives close then also say please can I come round and chat?

Stewing is worse. Best wishes and a big hug.

Rachel.

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Shilo, the unknown is what we fear the most.

Since your aunts wife specializes in gender studies I think you're over stressing yourself.

I think they will both be more acceptable than you give them credit for.

Here, have a box of virtual tissues.

Just my 2-bits worth.

Huggs,

Joann

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Guest Robin Winter

Finally heard back from them. It went very well ^_^

I debated whether or not I should post the contents of her reply, and decided to post it with her personal stuff removed, so it's a bit chopped up, but here's the good stuff.

I am honoured that you felt you can confide in us.

Let me start by saying I love you and NOTHING will change that. While it is true that I can’t fully appreciate the struggles you have had and continue to deal with we will support you in whatever way we can. Please know that you can confide in us.

It saddens me that you have had to deal with so much for so long, and I wish I could have been there for you. I’d like to make things right and be here for you now. This, or anything else will not change the way I feel about you. I am so proud of you and know it has not been easy, but you are going to get through it with the support of your family and friends.

We love you

[signed]

:wub:

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Guest angels wings

Awwwww Shilo that's so beautiful so warming . Congratulations my friend you can relax and be in peace now . So happy for you ((((( hugs)))))

Angel. :)

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