Outing myself to care providers

[Cyndee]

No longer can I hide behind the facade of him, even though my legal name is still him. I will be outing myself today to two different care providers.

Today I will go to my Eye Dr as myself for the first time.

Today I will go to my family dentist as myself for the first time. I will admit my HRT prescriptions to them, I want this information on my records.

Both Dr's are women, I prefer female care providers anyhow. A bit of mystery lies ahead, wish me luck. Cindy will smile and show them just how happy and healthier I really am now.

C Rae -

[Charlize]

I had the best time with my dentist. I told him ahead of walking in to the office. He and his staff were lovely. The hygienist and secretary were complimentary and wonderful. All my other contacts have been the same. My GP said i was lovely yesterday. Wow. Enjoy and be your smiling self.

It has made my visits fun and hopefully you will find that as well!

Hugs,

Charlie

[~Nova~]

I'm on the other end if that. It's kinda strange to be female and be seen that way, but then have to tell someone my past. Last history.... Um....

Best of luck to you.

[Guest]

Good luck Cindy. My legalities are still a technicality too. I never introduce myself as anything but Jody anymore.

Coming our to my GP Doctor was very unnerving but it went without a hitch. Best thing I could have done for myself. I am now listed as bi-gendered and that thrills me. Turns out, I am not his only patient with gender issues.

When I went to my Dentist to look into getting dentures, same story different office. I went to those visits noticeably en fem. I had a wonderful surprise too, the admittance forms had gender marker boxes, Male, Female, Other. That is only the second time for me, that I was not forced into the lie. I think by the second visit, everyone in the facility wanted to catch a glimpse of peculiar, smiling and bubbling Jody. Giggle.

My lab knows all about me, I had to call to set it up. The lady on the phone and I had the best girl talk. When I got there, no one on staff batted and eye.

Take a deep breath and just be wonderful you! Hug. Jody

[Guest LizMarie]

I outed myself to my GP before I began HRT with a discussion of my health versus risks. He assured me I was in fine health and HRT posed no special risks for me beyond those generally associated with HRT. He also took the news completely in stride. I'm not yet presenting female in public very often so I've not gotten to the name or pronoun situation yet but I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.

[Cyndee]

Thanks everyone, I really appreciate the well wishes and your stories !!

This is something that just has to happen, I want to be low key and friendly, these folks already know him, in the case of our family dentist, we have been seeing her for over 20 years now, now they get to meet Cindy, I want to leave a good impression.

My GP is wonderful and their whole office staff. They go out of their way to call me Cynthia there, it's great. I hope I can change things with these folks today, at least informally.

Hugs

Cindy -

[Guest]

Good luck Cindy!

Be PROUD of who you are and have a fun time (if you can at the dentists).

Huggs,

Joann

[Cyndee]

Thanks Joann !!

I was treated like a lady at both offices today, it's just so much better in female space (at least for me). I am on clould 9, it feels so good to be myself just doing routine things, this is living ! They used my choosen name and were very professional and friendly, no hints of any transphobia or stuff like that, just friendly girl talk amongst women. My dentist of some 20 years now went out of her way to call me Cynthia and admitted it will take some getting used to, and then went on to ask me several questions and really took an interest in me. The icing on the cake was checking out at the receptionist at the dentist, as I completed the business, she said " I have never seen you this happy", I was almost in tears, as I thanked her, and you know folks it's true.

Cindy -

[Guest KarenLyn]

I'm glad it all went well. It's no surprise though. Cindy is shining through.

[Cyndee]

Thanks Karen

Thanks Meg

The side story to this wonderful day that was less than pleasant was dealing with my wife's concerns that now our family dentist's office know about me. I was gentle about this to her, but it was obvious this made her uncomfortable. This is the part of the story that hurts, and I cried to sleep with my stuffed pet seagull friend "gulliver" held tight, feeling joy and sadness at the same time, huge flood of emotion had to be let out. I told her last night, how hard it really is to try and be "this someone I'm not (him)" out in public.

Full time for me won't be just like throwing a switch, it's culmination of life events that build upon one another, until full time just "happens".

Cindy -

[Guest]

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The icing on the cake was checking out at the receptionist at the dentist, as I completed the business, she said " I have never seen you this happy", I was almost in tears, as I thanked her, and you know folks it's true.

Cindy -

I'm happy everything went well. Better than expected actually.

I hope you helped yourself to a big slab of that cake. You deserve it.

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Full time for me won't be just like throwing a switch, it's culmination of life events that build upon one another, until full time just "happens".

Cindy -

It's like construction. You need a solid foundation before you can place the finishing touches.

Huggs,

Joann

[Guest zizi]

Yay! glad to hear it went well!