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About a week ago, I joined a trangender "dating" site/support group, hoping to find romance, share advice, ect. On first glance, it seemed like a very welcoming place. Well, I was in for a shock.

It seemed like the whole board was a flame-fest. TGs trashed other TGs for not being "cross-dressing freaks and wannabes" and for not doing everything humanly possible to transition straight away (even if that meant prostitution).

"Pre-ops" seemed to particularly hostile (and openly abusive) to "non-ops": CDs, TVs, or ppl like me for whom transitioning is simply not an option right now.

But what really annoyed me was the fact that male "admirers" felt free to judge, trash, and harass TGs they considered "too needy", not "feminine enough", or simply vulnerable and an easy target (namely the "overly sensitive and whiny").

One went so far as to say that "homosexuals disgusted him"

-Alix

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Oh my!

And these people thought that that's how you get dates?

Sounds like a very lonely and hostile group!

We're a lot friendlier here, have a seat by the fire, put your feet up and have some coco and cookies - we offer virual comfort food because it has no calories and a few of us are watching our figures! :D

Besides, have you ever tried to pour hot coco through a computer? :lol:

Some of us use humor to deal with hard topics, as you might have guessed, I'm one of those - but if you laugh a bit it will help you forget about that other site.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Donna Jean

Alix....

Hon, you are more than welcome here. You'll find the Playground to be very friendly and helpful. That's because the people here care about other people.

But, please know that this is NOT a dating or pick up site. It is protected.

So, have some of Sally's coco and cookies (yum) and get to know us...you'll like it here!

XXOO

Donna Jean

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Alix....

Hon, you are more than welcome here. You'll find the Playground to be very friendly and helpful. That's because the people here care about other people.

But, please know that this is NOT a dating or pick up site. It is protected.

So, have some of Sally's coco and cookies (yum) and get to know us...you'll like it here!

XXOO

Donna Jean

Thanks everyone :)

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Guest Elizabeth K

:o YIKES

I am surprised you had enough left after that to go anywhere! Welcome to Laura's

G-rated (monitored) - non-abusive (try hard to be) - and supportive (guaranteed to be!) :D

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Guest alix2009

BTW, does anyone know of a quality dating site that welcomes "non-ops"?

TS-Girlfriend sounded like the ideal place, but they do require potential members to be full-time pre-ops. Well, that's obviously not me. At least not yet :)

-Alix

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Because we are not a dating site it really wouldn't be prudent of us to recommend anything of that nature. Online dating is a very dangerous thing to be doing. Some are legitimate but others are not and there's no way to tell the difference. It isn't worth the risk of getting the crap beaten out of you or even killed. I would advise you not to do it.

MaryEllen

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Oh Alix,

Please listen to MaryEllen, on line is a great place for the meanies of this world to hang out and disguise themselves as nice people.

This is not a good place to look for dates, nit just this site, where we do not allow it, but also on the sites that encourage it.

You take a big enough chance in this world going out with someone that you have met and think that you know.

I said think that you know, because my frineds of nearly 40 years have no idea that I am a transsexual beginning to transition - because of my work situation, I am waiting until it becomes a little more obvious - just prior to going full time.

You meet someone, even through a mutual friend, and you don't know them - wife beaters seldom wear signs - trans hatere surely don't!

Be careful and don't rush into anything - learn to be happy with you before you try to find someone else to 'validate' you.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest alix2009
Be careful and don't rush into anything - learn to be happy with you before you try to find someone else to 'validate' you.

Thanks :) You're probably right...But sometimes I think it would be nice to have a supportive partner

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Oh don't we all, but the truth is some do and some don't - you are better off alone than with the wrong partner!

I know that now, but it is a tough lesson to learn.

Love ya,

Sally

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That place certainly sounds like one you should try and avoid.

Laura’s is hands-down the best forum on the web for folks like us, in my opinion.

From what I’ve observed, there’s far more substance here. I think one’s far more likely to receive worthwhile feedback on their post here in comparison to other sites.

It’s a lot more stringent here and that’s annoyed me at times, but I quickly realize soon thereafter that it’s just a better policy.

You’re not gonna find the judgmental mentality here that you seen on that other either, this I assure you.

Welcome to the site, by the way.

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