dating in high school?

[Guest ckoa97]

i guess i've been wanting a girlfriend...which is pretty common for a 15 year old in high school. however, i'm finding it kinda hard to find my own group of friends as to where i fit in. i've been trying to figure out my own emotions (as i am use to being isolated from other people most of the time and being bullied for my gender identity and sexuality) and finding a place where i can be comfortable with myself. i somewhat want to be in a relationship and able to approach a girl but at the same time i feel like getting a girlfriend would put more weight on what i already have to deal with. i've gained anxiety since school started (in september) and i transferred to a different school where i pass enough (even though a few people have called me she and people are starting a rumor about how i'm "really a girl") and depression from how i'm use to being treated. any response to this would be great to this really...

[Guest Waffle Cat]

I used to be isolated in high school, too, so I know how you feel. Don't rush finding a girlfriend, though. Find a friend first, regardless of gender. Find someone who'd accept you for who you are. And you did say that you're new in that school, so find someone first. How? Well, do you guys have group projects, or maybe student groups/clubs? Use those to interact with other people. Introduce yourself. Be involved in whatever the project is supposed to do. Be active.

I was also bullied before. I either ignored them, or reported the bullies to the teachers. I don't know if that will work in making them go away or make the bullying worse, though. My bullies stopped bugging me, but it really depends on the people involved. But it might make the bullying worse. Take note of that.

tl;dr, don't rush in finding a relationship. find friends first.

hope this helps.

[Guest Merc]

Ya isolation seems to be fairly common among us. I used to actually pride myself that I could "group hop" and not stick to one group very long. That and I would find enjoyment in my solitude(at lunch, walking home from school even if I had a ride).

If it's any consolation, I've never had any type of significant'er other, and I'm 21 now. Of course, neither has any of my basic clique of cousins.

~Emily

[Guest angels wings]

Everyone wants to be loved what you are feeling is normal matey . I remember back at school I so craved to be loved and accepted I thought I was going to be forever alone . But you know as we grow up and move on in life we meet some beautiful people and there will be one that will take your breath away . I went through a few relationships before I found my soul mate . It takes time but its not impossible .

Are you seeing a counsellor or therapist ? They can help you with school and your transition .are you able to talk to your parents?

As for the bullying if it continues to happen talk to your parents or school counsellor you Deserve to hold your head up high for the wonderful person you are

Angel ((((((hugs)))))) filled with hope

[Guest AlyTheGreatAngel]

Yeah I feel the same way.

[Guest angels wings]

((((((Hugs)))))))

Angel

[Guest Gregg Jameson]

Hi,

I agree with you, it's "normal" for a 15 y.o. to desire a relationship of a romantic nature!

I understand you are feeling there are some complications.

I am sorry you are feeling isolated. Also very concerned about any degree of bullying going on!

Please be very careful with this one. Please report this to teachers and/or guidance and/or admin...and parents...and the police if indicated. It's very important an highly effective intervention take place, asap.

Are you seeing an therapist?

Do you have any support at all?

I agree with the advice to focus upon friendships. It takes a lot to simply cultivate good, healthy friendships! Sometimes, one of these friendships turns into a romantic interest, with time and lots of sharing and deep caring. In the least, it will be helpful to have some solid, loyal friends! Often we encounter romance when we least expect it!

Take care and hope to hear more from you in time!

Brad

[Guest Jay Smooth]

I feel because i want a girlfriend to