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Hello, nice to meet everyone! My name is Adrien. I'm a 17 year old gay FTM. I figured out i was transgender about 5 years ago. I would repress it and it would go away for awhile, but it always came back. I've finally decided to embrace who I am! I recently came out to my mom. It wasn't the first time, so maybe it wasn't really coming out :). I'd told her twice before and she had not taken it well. Let's just say, she didn't take it that well this time either. She says she'll accept me for whoever I am, but she always has a disappointed tone of voice when we talk about it, so I've stopped talking about it. I have trouble passing so if you have any tips that'd be helpful. I'm a little chubby(trying to lose a few pounds), with a round face, chubby cheeks, and full lips. Also i'm only 5'5 - 5'6 with a feminine voice :( . Well! It's nice meeting you all!

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Hi Adrien

Welcome to Laura's Playground. A couple of years ago I was a fat-way beyond chubby -person with a feminine voice. No one ever took me for the guy I was inside. Now I am never taken for anything but a guy and am fit and content.

It takes time and some work but you can be who and what you need to be. You may have to wait a bit till you can do it on your own if your mom isn't supportive. But the time will pass and you will be able to do what you need to be happy . The first step is to see a gender therapist and it would be great if you could persuade your mom. If not you have time to see what resources are available and be ready when you are old enough.

For us doing anything with voice is hard but we can concentrate on tone and cadence and way of speaking. For me what works best is just to let the person I really am and have been hiding out. Until you can be in a position to start T if that is what you want that is about all I know to do with voice. Quite a few men have high voices and are not taken for women because of the way they speak.

Please take a few moments to read the T & C. They are unique due to the nature of the site. And feel free to post all you want in any forum

Looking forward to getting acquainted

Johnny

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Guest miss kindheart

Hi Adrien,
<<< hug >>>
Welcome to Laura's Playground.
Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.
The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.
Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.
One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules. :)
We all look forward to seeing you.
:wub: vanna

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Thank you both! I've been so lost lately... My mom told me out of the blue that if i ever got surgery it would be like her daughter had died... She also told me my boyfriend wouldn't love me and that I was being selfish. I don't really know. I don't really have anyone to talk too. I live in a very religious small town, and I really want to leave but I have two more years left. And the sad thing is I love my mom more than anything. We've been getting along so well lately and I messed it up. ANd by the way, how do you register for the chat thing? I couldn't really figure it out...

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Hello Adrien

You haven't screwed anything up. Parents often believe they are doing the right thing by laying the guilt trip on us. It makes transitioning very difficult for many. Sometimes it causes tragic consequences that parents would give anything to take back.

Adrien you are going to need a letter from a Gender Therapist in order to start testosterone and receive treatment from a doctor someday. Testosterone will make changes to masculinize your body, deepen your voice and for growing facial hair. It will makes serious changes in the way you look and feel.

That said, Adrien, you have to live your own life someday irregardless of what your mother wants. I can speak from experience that your feelings are going to get stronger and stronger. In time, you may have to make a decision of what is best for you and that may go against your families wishes. You may be able to start seeing a Gender Therapist and get that out of the way now rather than later. It's a step in the right direction for you. The opinion of a licensed therapist who diagnoses that you have true Gender Dysphoria will go a long way to help convince your folks that your condition is serious and legitament. That may help for them to take you seriously.

So Adrien, welcome to Laura's. I hope you enjoy being a member of our little community. I'm happy to welcome you to the Playground. My name is Kathryn.

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Guest marissa anastasia1

Welcome Adrien!!

You are in a welcoming non-judgmental inclusive place. I'm so glad you found Laura's. May you be strong and blessed in your journey.

Warmest Regards,

Marissa aka Rissa

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Welcome to the Playground, Adrien. I hope that you find everything you need here, whether it be information or support. We'll do our best to provide both.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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