So, Just A Little Feedback And Such.

[Guest Mel7]

Like every other teen in America with a computer in their home, haha.

I have a Myspace. I already changed my gender to Male, despite what my friends think. I mean, Myspace is messed up a lot of the time so most people don't even notice.

Anyway, I would really like for my friends and other people that may look upon my page to see a gay male, instead of a female with that oddly incorrect gender placement in the corner of the page.

What I would like to do is make a whole separate myspace where I am a gay male, or put that I am trans and see the reactions on it. The only pictures I would post up would be of me as male as I can ever look and all.

I am just afraid that someone at school will find it and rat me out or something. I just want to be myself and be perceived the way I want. I really want to test if I can pass that way.

We went to Doumars today and I looked pretty male, didn't wear a bra and no one noticed because they don't even notice these baseballs on my chest, anyway. (was blessed with the smallest of the small. XD) I was really happy today until I was called "ma'am" at the register. Grrrr. My voice!

I was just wondering, should I do it, or is it a bad idea altogether?

[Guest mia 1]

There is the possibility of outing your self to the school. Take that into consideration. If youreally don't care do it. if you are thinking of socialrecriminations that you don't want to deal with at this time don't What is XD i see it every where and i am without a clue.....Mia.

[Guest Cody_T]

question: is the time you're gonna spend making it and trying to make sure that people won't be able to track you, as well as the backlash when someone does find it worth making a gay/trans myspace for the reactions?

there's your answer. I can't decide for you because I don't know what's important to you. But just keep in mind that it could have far-reaching ramifications that you may not be ready for

[Sally]

My space is not patroled like we are, they don't have a system from keeping out people who would want to harm you, they more or less sit back and wait for complaints and that could come to late. Once something is on the Internet it is out there, so always be careful what you post and where you post it. I am very open aabout myself here, but as you may have noticed we deal in screen names and our new names rather than the ones that our 'friends' would recognize.

Think this through before you do anything,

Sally

[Guest Evan_J]

What is XD i see it every where and i am without a clue.....Mia.

Its a facial expression created with the keys. Tilt your head to the left to "see" it. Its a pair of crossed eyes over an open smiley/joking mouth. Used to connotate kind of a "zany" happiness.

[Guest Zabrak]

Hey, go ahead and try. You could change your name to the male name of your choice so your friends can't search up your name and find it.

I'm sure you could pass from what I see. Your jaw is very masculine looking. I'm jealous. You should be very proud of that - You lucky guy!

My space link was removed by the author's request.

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Outing is tricky - its a personal choice thing and I prefer to do it on my terms, in person, face to face, to people I like and trust. That way they have a chance to see how sincere you are and to ask questions, You also get to chose who you want, hoping they will become your advocate and not your enemy. They don't always react how you hope they will, but they will probably respect you and appreciate the personal touch.

Public outing negates all that.

Suddenly every duffus and bigotted ape has you in their sights for sniping at you? They can make you into a joke which makes them a big deal at your expense. You have no way to retract or even defend when you out publicly. There is no way to even explain what you are, much less who you are. Also, preditors can now key in on you and you may have to go underground.

So be careful. As Sally said, and Mia and Cody warned, you are not at Laura's when on My Space... So my recommendation is if ya do it, change it up a bit to stay inconspicuous and incognito to your school friends.

An opinion

[Guest Huff]

If you do it, you better start verbally coming out to friends/teachers/etc. It's worse to have whispering and pointing from someone who saw it and are now spreading gossip than to actually publicly out yourself. So, I guess I'm saying to just be consistent. If you're going to stay stealth, then don't publish on MySpace. If you're going to come out, then go for it.

Mike

[Guest brandt]

well for me. i'll tell you this. i have actually done this. this was way before i even found out i was trans. but when i finally got internet which was years ago i started to percieve myself as male on the virtual world. it felt pretty good. I told everyone i was male no matter what. i found out about myspace around 7th grade ( i am in 11th now). I had one that was of my female self in the "real" world. then one day i was like hmm what if i made a myspace where i was male and just male. i was afraid people would find out but i made it anyway. when i met people online i would refer them to my male myspace. i had managed to keep both myspaces seperate for quiet a while. but in the end people found out. you just have to be careful. there are ways people find out. just make sure you don't add your self on your myspace where everyone knows you. lol. I was also afraid that people who i met online would find out about my female myspace. it was all a rush to my head everything came at once. i finally found out i was trans and people started to find my myspaces. if you are stealth then i suggest you don't do it unless you are ready. but you have to be really good to keep those two apart. so now i'm pretty much out and the two myspaces collide. some people still don't know a clue but i still get ppl adding me from my other myspace and vice versa. so yeah. hope this helps. goodluck.

[Guest Konnor]

I'm in the same boat as Brandt. I've been making male myspaces and being completely male online since I was like 11 and didn't have any idea what trans was. I also have a female one, and I've learned that as long as you take precautions, you can keep very safe and no one will ever put 2 and 2 together. My tips:

--don't use anything about your girl name. Use something completely different, and make sure you use a fake last name

--don't use your hometown or most towns near it, unless there's a very large town near it

--don't use a picture of yourself as your profile picture. Use like a drawing or a picture of your name or something.

--Make your profile private so only the people you add as friends can see your real pictures/info/ect.

I'm not saying do it. But if you choose to, you can be sure to stay hidden by taking these precautions. Let me know if you need any help!

--Konnor

[Guest Emily1]

I would if I were you - I've done this with many things, and I love it!

Usually, I only make one profile on any given site, and decide whether it should be male or female. As said before, make sure not to friend yourself. In fact, do absolutely nothing that links you to your other profile. I don't have myspace (I know, I'm crazy), but I think you can join groups like facebook (I only got that to join a group for my AP Chem class), if so, don't join any of the same groups. Use a different birthday, last name (if you give one), etc. When I was doing this, I created a whole other person whom I pretended to be online. Her name was Amy Mina, and later, she went by Jenny, had a bday of February 14, 1991, lives in Boston, Mass, has slightly lighter hair than I (you cant change that though) that is mid-back length, green eyes, 20:20 vision (i wear glasses, not ugly though, nice half rims), if 5'7", 113 lbs, shoe size 8 1/2.......I think there was more, but thats all I can remember. Make sure that you are as complete as you can when you describe yourself, but since you also have a myspace, make sure not to put identical things in fields such as "favorite quotes," etc.

-"Jenny Mina"

[Guest Mel7]

It's not that I want to come out to anybody or anything. Most of my friends know anyways, or at least have some inkling of it.

I just want to know if others could look at a picture of me and say "ooooh, cute guy. *add*". Haha. It's a little vain of me but...I just want reassurance from a non-biased person, ya know?

Judging by what you all believe and your advice, it's not worth it. : / I'd be far too worried about it.

I already go to school and think that people look at me and automatically know.

Thank you for your advice, though. : ]

[Sally]

The real problem with my space is limited control of access, the people that might respnd to you as a'cute guy' might be dangerous, it is a great hunting ground for pedifiles and other creepy individuals, be aware and be careful.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Crossroads]

I have a gay guy friend who has three myspaces. One for his female persona, one for the "real" him, and a new one for the "gansta" him.

People do this all the time. I don't like it (I get SOOOO confused), but it's not rare.